People don't understand.....

Yesterday I went out with one of my best friends that I haven't seen in a while.  I told her about the consultation coming up for WLS and she told me that I don't have to do surgery...I can lose the weight on my own.  (she knows it!) Don't people understand that if I could do it on my own I wouldn't still be 265 pounds!!  Do they really think that I stay like this because I want to? I just don't understand people.   Just wanted to vent...thanks Monica

Hey Monica, know exactly what you're talking about!   couple of my best friends at work wouldn't speak to me for a couple of weeks after I told them!  you know the ones....size 4s.......this is about you Monica and they have to respect that!    you can vent about this at any time!  LOL Pam

I chose not to tell. I decided that the last thing I need are watch dogs to see if I am still over eatting. Which I can't! Those that judge use just do not understand. They have been thin and can have that double order what ever and never gain an ounce. My own sister I feel is ashamed of me because of my obesity. She will not go anywhere with me. So I say to "blank" tp her. I love her but I don't waste my time on her either.

I am so tired of people with their rightous attuduide toward us when we are takeing a different approuch to our problem.  Like you said If I could loss this weight and keep it off on my own I would not be in the condition I am in.  I will not tell a soul in my small town. They are the biggest gossips I have ever met. I would feel like was a science project, and would alwas be under their watching eyes.  At this point I am trying to come up with an idea on how to get off work the first thursday afternoon and Friday all day off when school starts so I can attend support group. I have to stay in Chicago after the meeting because its 3 hour drive and I don't like driving that far in the dark.

So keep your head up and tell them to go have another SALAD. Sorry I just had to vent  this is a touchy subject with me! Karen

I hear you Monica, I think that's why I was very selective in who I told prior to the surgery.  Only my very best friend and my family knew about it.  And several were scared for me but did support my decision. After the fact, I did let others know what was up as I was dropping weight fast and they asked what I was doing.  I couldn't just say, "diet and excersise" like SJR - LOL. So just stay strong in the knowledge that you have made the right decision for you.  And keep focusing on the end in mind ---- a healthier, happier and yes thinner Monica.

Thank you Karen, Ronna and Pam.  It's good to know you guys are here to vent to about this stuff.  The funny thing is that my friend isn't skinny.  She's probably about 60 over weight herself and is always saying how she just can't stick to a diet.  Well Hellloooo....LOL She is the ONLY person outside of my immediate family that know right now.  I haven't even told my sister or mom, who I tell everything too, cuz I am not sure how they will react either.  See I have a cousin who had WLS 10 years ago and lost about 150 pounds and has gained back about 1/2 of that.  I know I won't be like that though, I really want this for my health. Thanks again!