Update on DH

Once again gang, Thank you very much for your continued thoughts and prayers.  It's just been a whirl wind for my family this last few weeks.  I know many of you can relate.  It does not look like my life will be settling anytime soon.

So, not sure if you all saw my update from earlier since I posted a reply against my old post.  Bottom line, Calvin did not have his surgery this morning.  They ordered several different tests ie: EKG, Ultrasound of the heart and lungs and he did not get the clearance from the cardioligist until late morning and by that time, no surgery rooms were available.  We are going to try it again tomorrow morning at 7:30am.  Calvin had a little ***** in his step tonight (maybe it was the morphine!)  We are facing some major stressors in our lives but I know we will get thru them.  It will be a test to see how strong our marriage really is.

In the mean time, the saga continues with my stepdaughter.  I will be flying out to Baltimore a week from Friday and driving a Uhaul w/ her, a new puppy and her belongings back.  I'm guessing she will be kicking and screaming all the way.  DH will not be well enough to make the trip and we need to get this done fairly quick.  I need her settled before school starts and I start my partime job at Bakers Square around the 13th.  By the way, did I mention my husband bought her a puppy a few weeks back thinking that would feel some of the void?????????  Well, that means four, 4 labs.  That is three too many.  Cripes, I may have to get two part time jobs to pay for the food. I keep reminding myself one day at a time and if it gets too bad............. one minute at a time. 

Take care everyone and I'll update ya later. Christina

Hello I will say a prayer for you and your husband that all is well.  Heck you did not need a second job, you already have so many.....nurse, animal control, mom, friend, and wife............the list goes on.  Blessing Shannon

Where are you buying your patience from?   I would be a swearing person if I would be in your shoes!    You are so positive, and that's what will get you through all this!     BTW have you lost any weight from all your summer events?     I am so glad you feel supported, that must help a little! (((HUGS TO YOU)))     Pam

Pam...  You know, my patience are wearing thin.  I feel like I'm starting to crack and someone has to keep it together.  I find myself saying the Serenity Prayer a lot thru the day.  The weight is coming off very slow at the moment.  When they say enjoy the "honeymoon" which is the first six months they mean it.  After the six month marker, the weight still comes off but very slow.  I'm losing on an average maybe 7 - 8lbs per mo at this point.  I was dropping 20 - 30 a mo.  I'm not complaining, I've been very blessed to be able to have wls.  I'll get to my goal it's just going to take time.   I hope some day I can repay each of you with a shoulder to lean on in your time of need,  God made me some pretty broad shoulders for a reason! ((BIG HUGS)) Christina

pssssst - the honeymoon time is 18 months. CB

Whatever!  Mine ended at 6mo.  lol  I swear I've heard over and over 6mo.  Pam... Sorry I gave wrong info.  I know you can continue you to lose for the first 18mo but it slowed down for me and many others at the 6mo marker. Cheers Christina

Thanks Shannon.  I needed a good laugh!  I feel like I should be walking around with a wistle around my neck. Have a great day. Christina

Hello Christina, I will be thinking of both of you this morning.  On the positive note for Calvin, a one day delay in surgery knowing that he has had all the tests and has the required clearance takes a little pressure off.  The hard part is the stress on you.  I think it is far easier to be the person being operated on as opposed to the one waiting for news.  You both are in my prayers and I hope that he is home soon so that you both can get your lives back on track.

Four Labs might just eat you out of house and home.  Hopefully, your stepdaughter will want to help out with the dogs.  Sometimes animals have a way of reaching people when we (humans) can't. As for my jetlag, it is nothing compared to what you or many people are going through.  It is a small price to pay for my lovely vacation.  Prior to WLS, I had all sorts of sleep issues, between the apnea and waking many times during the night for the bathroom, I had fitful sleep.  I will get back to my "normal" self soon. Best Wishes for today, Mary

Hi Mary - Thanks again for all your thoughts and prayers.  Please tell me what "normal" is??? Yes, I know when Calvin was going thru a 12mo form of chemo a couple years back, the dogs are what got him thru it.  They do give you that unconditional love we all need. Hopefully soon your sleep schedule will be back on track.

Christina

Christina - I am a firm believer in the fact that God puts challanges in our lives to bring us closer to Him. Maybe it is God's timing that He is saying He wants Calvin to become closer with his daughter. It is so hard for our human eyes to see the big picture . . .  I know I am preaching to the choir. I am not going to pat you on the back and say - it's alright honey everything will be hunky dorey. How unrealistic. But the real part is that we are here as a sounding board for you. Many on this board have kids that can give you perspective on things etc. Others like myself can look at the broad spectrum of things and give an opinion. Ya better get that cell phone replaced - you may need it, LOL.  Take care honey - like you said one minute at a time . . .  Chris