Question from hubby

SUPPORT which it sounds like Mike is already doing.  Calvin has been my biggest cheerleader.  We don't have any family here in IL so I really had to lean on him.  I know it was probably tough in the beginning because I was moody at times.  Emotions were out of wack.  I did have an issue in the beginning with him eating foods in front of me that I could not have and I kept on thinking and telling him how inconsiderate he was but then I realised.. "I'm the one that has the problem"  Why should he have to change his ways???"  Although, he does have a weight problem too but that was his side of the tracks to worry about not mine.  He is much more considerate and aware and for the most part, we don't bring unhealthy food into the house. Calvin always tells me how great I look, asks me how much I've lost etc.. those things are important to me.  Maybe not to others but for me it's a big deal. I've read other posts where hubbies have never made comments to there spouses even after they have lost 50+lbs.  It would kill me to think Calvin did not care enough to tell me he was proud of me. Just my two cents.  I'm really glad Mike is going today so he can talk to the others because this is a life style change and it's not only going to change you but your entire family.  You will all start making better food choices. ((HUGS)) Christina

I am still pre-op also, and I think the best thing my hubby does is supports me. He goes with me to most of my Dr. appointments,  handles most of the insurance questions, and knows when I start being a b....., he ignores it. Of course, we have been married almost 42 years, so we both have learned to support one another, and pick our battles. Of course, after my open heart surgery this past spring, I know how much he loves, and supports me.

See you this afternoon

Lisa