THANK YOU ALL!!!!!

THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR ALL YOUR KIND AND HONEST ADVICE. IT MEANT SO MUCH AND I REALLY DIDNT KNOW HOW MUCH  I NEEDED YOU GUYS. I TOOK THE LAST DAY AND HALF TO COMPLETLY SHUT DOWN AND DO SOME MAJOR SOUL SEARCHING. I SKIPED SCHOOL AND WORK. I EVEN SENT THE KIDS TO GMA'S FOR THE AFTERNOON.    I AM HAVING THE SURGERY. I HAVE COME TO THE CONCLUSION THAT THE REASON HE DOESNT WANT ME TO HAVE THE SURGERY IS BECAUSE ITS EASIER FOR ME TO BE SO UNHAPPY WITH MYSELF THEN I WONT HAVE THE TIME TO LOOK INTO OUR RELATIONSHIP.  I SAT DOWN THIS EVENING AND JUST TOLD HIM STRAIGHT OUT THAT I WAS HAVING THE SURGERY AND HE COULD DEFINITLY GO WITH OR STAY HOME. IT WAS UP TO HIM. I THINK HE WAS SO TAKEN BACK THAT HE JUST LOOKED AT ME. HE OF COURSE SAID HE WAS GOING.  THE FUNNY THING... I FEEL GREAT. I KNOW THIS SURGERY IS FOR ME AND WILL ONLY IMPROVE MY LIFE. NOW DO I THINK THAT MY MARRIAGE WILL LAST... NOT AT THIS TIME. ONLY TIME WILL TELL.  ONCE AGAIN THANK YOU SO MUCH EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU GUYS TOUCHED MY HEART.   MEASHA

Hey Sweetie..   You know we are all here to lean on one another when times get rough or celebrate when times are good.  I'm glad you are going thru w/ the surgery and I will continue to pray that things will work out the way they are supposed to.  I have not shared this part of my journey w/ many people but I feel as if it's important to share.  Communication plays a big key in making a marriage work and I'm here to tell ya, w/out it, It almost ended my marriage about a year ago.  We were both at fault in many areas of our marriage but never addressed them until it was almost too late.  Thank goodness I have a stuborn husband that said he was not giving up w/out a fight.  I was the one ready to throw in the towel and then decided to give it a second try and work on myself and our relationship.  I personally feel like we have a pretty solid marriage these days.  It takes work to make a marriage work.  It's never too late but it does take two and I would highly recommend that if you are able to, get some one on one counceling as well as couple counceling. Hugs to you, Christina

 I am happy that your DH was so stubborn and would not give up. I would hate to think of the fact that you two would not be a part of mine and Dave's lives. . . Counsuling does work - even long time marriages like mine has had it and we have. It stregthens it and makes the parties involved become better people and yes it is a lot of work but it is worth it. Chris

Thanks Chris..  I've trully been blessed in so many ways. Big  Hugs to you my friend. Christina

Christina, Im sorry that you had to go through all of that, but really proud of you for sticking through it. Thank you for sharing with me. It really makes me feel like I am not alone and the only one with a crappy marriage. I am looking into therepy for us. We'll see how it goes. Have a great day and keep up the good work. Thanks a million Measha

Great I am so happy that this is ending up the way it should with you become heathier. My personal opinion in this area is that it is the devil that is throwing in the outside influence into situations like this. He does not want you to have a God honoring marriage and he wants you to remain fat and live an unhealthy life. I had the devil playing around with my mind through a good part of my practice diet pre op telling me that I should not have my insides rearranged and that I should just remain with the status quo of life, ha I fooled him! Dave had the same thing. He had people from our church telling him that he was not praying hard enough to loose weight, ha Dave fooled the devil also. I am so glad that you came to the board with your situation. Christine

Measha, Now that you brought it out in the open, you gave yourself a much needed boost. Keep it up. Hugs

thank you guys for all of the support. It took me along time to "come out of the Closet" sort of speak. I feel like Ive lost 20lbs by just talking about the situation. Thank you guys. I know I have said this a thousand times but it scares me to think what if you guys werent here. i wish each and everyone of you the best!!!!! Measha