I am having a problem

Janet H.
on 6/29/08 11:11 pm - Golden Valley, AZ

with wanting to drink Alcohol and I know that is what is keeping me from losing weight, You see I used to drink alot in my younger years but in the past 10 years or so I have not drank much at all until last month now I love the feeling I get when I drink just one drink, I was only drinking on the weekend now my weekend starts on Thur. I am afraid that I am going to start drinking everyday and I sure don't want that, I am afraid that now that I am getting thinner I am wanting to catch up on everything I have missed being so M. O. for so long, Has anyone else gone throught this? Please don't flame me, I know what I am doing is wrong, I just need to have support now , I hope that someone can help me understand what I am going throught, My body has gone throught so many changes in just a very short time, my brain just can't catch up . another thing I feel like I am eatting to much, my HD said that I don't eat that much but I feel full and even stuffed , I don't know maybe I need to go see my head Dr. and talk with her, maybe she can help. I don't know, Well I am just going to post this and hope that you all understand and don't flame me, I do look to you all for support and think of you all as my family, Thanks for letting me vent.

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

birder I.
on 6/29/08 11:25 pm - Rockford, IL

RNY on 10/21/11

Janet, it is normal for us to want to "use" something to deal with life. That is what addictive behavior is all about. What you have to focus on is developing some self-soothing behaviors that don't have a negative payoff. We used food to deal with life. It's normal to then try alcohol or spending or something else. So much of recovery is learning new coping techniques. People do things like journaling, hobbies, talking to friends, exercise, massages, knitting, scrapbooking. You'll have to see what works for you. Alcohol is a dangerous luxury for us. I certainly am willing to talk to you more about this.

Take care,

Connie

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Janet H.
on 6/30/08 2:22 am - Golden Valley, AZ

RNY on 10/30/07

Thank you Connie, I do need someone to talk to that understands what I am going through, and would love to talk to you anytime,

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

Lisa Tucker
on 6/29/08 11:43 pm - Streator, IL

Revision on 04/19/13

Janet, Please talk to Connie. She is the "expert" here. You might even want to go to AA for a while. You are a lovey person, and that didn't start after you lost weight. You are Loved. Hugs

Start Weight   330
Current          219    BMI 38 I am in the normal range!!!
Goal Weight 180

Janet H.
on 6/30/08 2:22 am - Golden Valley, AZ

RNY on 10/30/07

Thank you Lisa

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

Lisa Tucker
on 6/29/08 11:44 pm - Streator, IL

Revision on 04/19/13

Janet, Please talk to Connie. She is the "expert" here. You might even want to go to AA for a while. You are a lovey person, and that didn't start after you lost weight. You are Loved. Hugs

Start Weight   330
Current          219    BMI 38 I am in the normal range!!!
Goal Weight 180

(deactivated member)
on 6/29/08 11:46 pm - Park Forest, IL

Hi Janet, since I don't have any advice for you I'm sending you support and hugs, Paulette

Janet H.
on 6/30/08 2:23 am - Golden Valley, AZ

RNY on 10/30/07

Thank you Paulette for your support,

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

Ronna
on 6/30/08 10:21 am - Hoffman Estates, IL

RNY on 01/03/06

No flames on this board Sweetie. Sorry your having such a struggle. But good for you for recognizing it and asking for help. Does your employer have an EAP (Employee Assistance Program)? If so they have resources that can help you. I agree you need someone to talk to who will not be judgemental but will help with your issues. If no EAP call your Surgeon's office for a referral. You are half way home just by asking for help. We are here for you!!!

Regards and hugs,

Ronna

Janet H.
on 6/30/08 10:38 am - Golden Valley, AZ

RNY on 10/30/07

Thank you Ronna for your support, I don't know if my HD employer has EAP I will have to find out about that, tomorrow,

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

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