I am having a problem

Carol422
on 6/30/08 2:25 am - Orland Park, IL

Hi Janet, no flames here, God only knows what I may end up doing. At my last support group meeting they talked a little about some people transfering their food addiction to something else. It does happen, but I think your ahead of the game as you realize this can lead to another serious problem and are looking for help. Talk to someone you know who as battled this same problem or maybe make an appointment with your psych doctor. To recognize a problem is the first step to getting rid of that problem. I commend you! Connie is offering help, take her up on that offer. I'll send good vibes your way!

Carol

Janet H.
on 6/30/08 2:33 am - Golden Valley, AZ

RNY on 10/30/07

Thank you Carol for your support, I am going to take Connie up on her offer, I am sure I am going to be ok I just don't want to go down the wrong road

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

berts4
on 6/30/08 4:42 am - Rock City, IL

RNY on 10/27/06

OH Honey!!!!! I think you will find that Connie is very helpful. You are doing the right thing asking for help before it becomes a big problem. We all love you!

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Janet H.
on 6/30/08 4:47 am - Golden Valley, AZ

RNY on 10/30/07

Thank you Dawn you are so sweet, I am going to be takin to Connie soon, I just need to talk to people that know what I am going thought, It might now be a big thing to some, but to me it is because I love the way I feel when I have had a drink it is a feeling that I did not have before surgery it all so differant,,

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

deelight152
on 6/30/08 8:19 am - Down South, IL

RNY on 04/02/07

I was there as well. It started once and then it was a couple times then it was a bottle of vodka a week. I sell brown bag products and my best friend had a party we got drunk I got SO smashed I did something totally not me. That was on June 7th I have not touch a drink since then. I have also lost 2 pounds since I stopped as well! You have to want to stop ! I don't like blacking out and that what I have been doing so for me it was a no brainier I had to stop self destructing. best of luck to you. Dee

Janet H.
on 6/30/08 8:58 am - Golden Valley, AZ

RNY on 10/30/07

Thanks Dee for your repley it is nice to know I am not alone in this, I need to stop and I know it, it is just so hard when you like the feeling you get from the bottle, I have not had any blacking out Yet luckly but I know if I keep going the way I am it wont be long for that too, again thanks Dee, and good luck to you as well,

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

luknlivsmom
on 6/30/08 12:58 pm - Joliet, IL

RNY on 07/07/08

Janet, Being a wife of a recovering alcoholic I totally commend you on realizing this could be a potential problem! Transferring addicitons is something they talk alot about in AA. "One day at a time" as they say and lots of people to pick you up when you are down. We are all here to support you and help in any way we can. Connie sounds like a great way to find that support. You will get through this- and again BRAVO for being brave to ask for help and support! HUGS! Katie

Janet H.
on 7/1/08 12:55 am - Golden Valley, AZ

RNY on 10/30/07

Thank you Katie for your support, I can use all I can get,

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

Paul L.
on 6/30/08 11:59 pm - Cary, IL

Lap Band on 05/03/08

Janet, First off I want to say that you are an amazing person! Just look at what you've accomplished! You've taken control of your body and given yourself a new birth! Your surgery was nothing more than a tool to help, but you did the work that few can accomplish (even with WLS!). We come to this board to support each other through this work. But even though we talk about our struggles, we sometimes forget that we are the winners! And you are a star amongst the winners! Now let me share my non-professional opinion. It's scarry to change. We are people who spent a good deal of our lives hiding behind our obesity! As sad and lonely as that was, it was also a very safe place to hide. But through our strength, we came out from behind that security and achieved the health and freedom to love and be loved for the real people we are. But with that freedom comes vulnurability as well. But we have the strength to survive that vulnarability (sometimes we forget that!). BUT IT'S SCARRY!!! Alcohol takes away the feelings of fear. It makes everything feel numb. Not a bad escape plan if you need to escape. But we cannot afford to go that route! The calories are way to expensive after all that we've been through! And we don't need to escape! We have all the proof that we are up to the task of facing our fears. If you don't believe me, just look in the mirror and see what you've accomplished! You are not some amature in life! You've done big things! You have abilities that go way beyond average, weak people! You performed miracles to get to this point. You're in the big leagues and you are ready! But you may be scared of being seen as a phoney. But I can tell you that you are no phoney! You are the genuine, real deal! If you don't believe me, look in the mirror or at the scale! Phoney's cannot even come close to doing the things you've done! Now here's the big news, you have little or no clue as to how to be this new person. It's all new and unfamiliar! But it can be beautiful! It just takes some time and some faith. Most of us have failed so many times in our lives that we don't know how to be once we succeed. So we tend to look for the nearest place to hide. Alcohol is way too easy. But we don't need to hide. We've worked hard to get here, we should enjoy it! We are all here to hold your hand as you take your first steps into this new and wonderful life. But web sites are a little less than fully comforting. That's why we go to support groups, turn to our families, our churches and temples, and seek out professionals to help us learn how to travel this new road. Unfortunately, you can't have it both ways. Alcohol ends up cutting us off from others (ultimately). Real safety is in commanding our worlds, not in escaping from them. You know that, that's why you put yourself out here and asked the question! I'm not here to tell you answers to things you clearly already know. I simply wish to reflect back what is so obvious, YOU ARE AN AMAZING AND POWERFUL WINNER!!! So it's time to enjoy the spoils of life that have finally arrived after a lifetime of hard work. Or you can get plastered and miss the greatest show on earth: your fantastic life that's in front of you! Either way you choose to go, I'll be here and I'll continue to care. Thanks for being you. Paul

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Janet H.
on 7/1/08 1:05 am - Golden Valley, AZ

RNY on 10/30/07

Paul I don't know what to say You too are a Amazing person too,Thank you so much for your support, You are right about being scared I don't know how to act with this new body, What is it going to be like when I get to goal? I think that scares me the most, Am I going to change into this wild person? Am I going to stay the same old me? I don't know, Being M. O. for all my adult life I have missed out on so much Like doing fun thinig with my kids as they were growing up, going places, and doing all the fun stuff in life, Well that's enough for now Thanks for taking the time to give me support, you are a great person.

      Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!

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