Midlife crisis?

Dawn, ((((HUGS)))) first off regarding your situation. If I recall correctly didn't Todd have two people this past year that died and they were close to his age or a close person in his life? This in itself will affect a man because now he is looking reality in its face of the fact that life is delicate  . . . . need I say more? It might take a few years to get over the grief. For a close family member that dies the average grieving period is 3 years. I can attest to that with loosing my mom, dad and Dave's brother and their father. You might not be able to get him to speak to someone but you can go and speak to someone so you can learn how to talk to him.

Dave is dealing with a "man" issue also and I really do not understand as he HAD to file for social security. Working was very much a part of his persona and now the rug has been yanked out from under his feet.

You will get through this, dry your tears.

Hey hun....I just want to give you a BIG hug!!!  Most guys don't want to go see someone at first.  He may come around w/ that.  You are doing the right thing by getting help for you.  Start to journal and looking into things deeper.  What kind of MLC is this?  I'm here for you all the way hun!  Maybe writing him a letter if talking is not working.  Stay strong for the kids and know that we are here for you!

Kim

Dawn,

I am sending prayers and hugs to you!  I wish I had some words of wisdom for you.  You seem to have tried what you can to get him to go with you to counseling.  Men are so resistant to counseling and I dont know why.  I have one of those myself.  Or he will go and tell the counselor what they want to hear and then go home and do what he wants.  It is so frustrating. 

I agree and think you should see someone for YOU, to have a confidant, so you can have an outlet for your frustrations.  They can also give you suggestions on how to handle different situations.  He may come around and go with you eventually.  If not, then at least you are taking care of YOU and in turn then you can help your kids thru this, if it begins to effect them.

IF you EVER need to talk, please just call me, and I can see if I can help.  I am a good listener if nothing else and I am willing to listen if you need an ear. 

I will be giving hugs on Sat for sure!  I hope all will be ok for you on Sat, I know you have a lot of responsibility for the day.  If there is anything I can do please let me know.

You are in my prayers!

 Dawn

I want to give you a big hug!  I don't have any words of wisdom for you.  It seems like you are doing the right thing in seeking out counseling.  I hope and pray that all will work out for you.  Others have given you some great advice.  Just remember that we are here for you.  You are in my prayers.  Hang in there.  

I apoligize for my gender and will pray that either you "get where Todd is coming" from or that he will settle out and chill as the case may be.  I know for myself I have a ton of issues that my DW will never get and sometimes wonder what life would have been like had I married someone more like myself.  She has been wonderful though and our marriage has been and is fantastic.  Without that differance between us I would have missed so much that being with her brings me.