OMG she sent me a fat joke
ok, here is an example of what I get from my sister in law. Last time we went out with them they were picking on my husband cause he likes his eggs cooked in bacon fat (we know, not good for him) but none of their business non the less. so I just got a joke from her, with picture of obeste woman in bathing suits and she wrote on top, This is what will happen to you if you keep cooking your eggs in bacon grease....OMG, I am deffinately not telling her about my WLS... this was the final straw.... I don't think its funny. 
Cathy, Behavior like this is much more than just rudeness, it is a form of verbal and emotional abuse and anyone who tries to minimize that abuse by saying "you can't take a joke" is just adding to the abuse. She doesn't care about your health, she cares about putting you down and diminishing your self-worth. Don't you buy into it, sweetie, hard though it may be. I'm with Lisa...call her on it. Expect her wrath, but don't let her get away with it. She does it because she CAN get away with it. If you change your steps to the dance, she will have to change her own steps or get off the dance floor. Good riddance! 
the sad thing is when her sister from Fl. come up, they both do it. and when I try and walk away, sometimes obviously upset, they laugh their butts off. I'm not the only one they do it to. Just the way they are. the local one gave a big graduation party for her son last year, she said as we walked in, "I wish my sister was here"...... after a second or two said "so I can show her up>>>>>I told her that was sad... she appologized and couldn't believe she said it... oh, and after I said I went to walmart one day said "Walmart is where all unemployed loosers go" I make more money then her, by the way. lol shut me up, !!!! 
you may take her crap this visit but i'll bet a dollar when you start losing your weight you will gain self esteem. you won't take it much longer.
one thing to say to her when she makes a rude comment is "i'd expect that from you". that will make her think. or maybe ask her "why are you so insecure that you feel the need to bash other people. is there anything I can do to help you become more confident?" LOL. that'll **** her off!
there's lots of ways to dig back but still take the high road.
one thing to say to her when she makes a rude comment is "i'd expect that from you". that will make her think. or maybe ask her "why are you so insecure that you feel the need to bash other people. is there anything I can do to help you become more confident?" LOL. that'll **** her off!
there's lots of ways to dig back but still take the high road.
Lisa
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WOW could anyone be more mean. Are you ok that is so hurtful. I would have a hard time even associating with a person like that. Just a bit old bully if you ask me. I would be tempted to find some cartoon with a bully on it and put her name on the bully, but that would be stooping to her level and you are way far above that.
i think I would send her a picture of a horse's ass and tell her this is what SHE is going look like if she doesn't stop making fun of you and your man-her brother. Family is about holding each other up and if she persists in trying to tear you down-well, not so much contact anymore."
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