I need an opinion

I will try not to make this too long. My sister is getting married November 2009. She will be 47 and it is her first marriage, her fiance's second. I think she should go conservative, for several reasons, but instead she is planning a huge New York Italian wedding. I could go on and on as to why I feel this way, but here is what I need an opinion on. Everyone else in the wedding party lives in New York. I have no problem letting them pick out a dress and then with the style number buying it here. But, she calls me yesterday and tells me that the other girls are trying to save money and want to buy dresses off the rack at Lord and Taylors and want to know what size I am. Now HOW am I supposed to know what size I will be a year from now?! She said I could just buy several sizes. So how does that help ME save money? Even if I bought a dress off a rack sizes smaller do you think it could still be altered further? It seems to me that dresses from a bridal shop are made better for altering. If I am going to be a 50 year old bridesmaid I would much rather pay more to have a dress that will look decent and not one that I hope will look so after altering. I also don't like the idea of not being able to try it on first. Am I making sense? And if you think so, I also need suggestions on how to get this across to my sister. She is rather stubborn.

There is no way I'd buy a dress this November for a wedding next November-weight loss surgery or no.  That's what you do a few months before the wedding, not a year, and if any of the other gals are buying dresses now, they are nuts too.

 

Hi, Nancy.
Tell your sister that you love her and that the "rack" will still be there less than a year from now. Sisters! Gotta love 'em!
Blessings,
Mary

Ack! Sounds like she's a Bridezilla. Run!!! I wouldn't offer her any advice. She's going to do it the way she wants it regardless. Its her wedding, let her do it her way.

As far as the dress goes. Tell her buying several dresses is not a financially viable option for you. You will have more of an idea of what size you are going to be net summer. Maybe that will help? Good luck!

OMG! I am soo in the same boat as you. My best friend is getting married in July 2009 and we have to order out dresses by 1/31/09. I asked her the same question and got the same reply...just buy it a couple of sizes smaller...WTF?! I am sooo stressed about the dress situation, but at least I will be able to try mine on....not that trying it on in January will matter since I will probably be down at least 50 pounds by July! Ugh!

My wonderful Nancy...

I have a great opinion about this....

I say...if she is demanding to make certain that you get your dress, then she should buy you some plastic surgery for the boobies....and for the little skin between the thighs and the belly restructuring, and the other various parts....and then that ay, you can be engineered to fit the dress on her time schedule...

or...

You could simply buy a dress 3 sizes smaller than what you are now and hope that maybe you have to alter it just just a bit and she deals with the anarchy of what it will be if it doesn't fit properly.... 

I would have a sit-dwn and talk about it....but before you do...have a little margarita... show her some cleavage and then start the conversation by telling her...hey look at this cleavage...  she will be puzzled until you tell her that by the time her wedding comes...it won't look the same...and let her visualize the changes that you must go through to do what she is asking...

as a favor for my glorious opinion....send me pictures of the afore-mentioned cleavage....

wink, wink...

T.

Ah, yes... the new Thomas. 

                                                      Same as the old Thomas! 

Don't change, man - not sure what we'd do without you!
(But feel free to put up those new pictures when you feel like it!)

Thanks for the comment - not sure what help it will be for Nancy, but it brightened my morning!

John

Ahhh, Thomas -- you can always be counted on for a good laugh!

I think it is very unreasonable for any bride to need to get bridesmaids dresses a year out.  Things change, people gain and or loose weight.  I w ould think you could accomplish this task by getting dresses in August or September since you are just getting them off the rack and nothing has to be ordered.  You DON"t and can't know why size you will be by then.

I wouldn't do anything yet.  Brides change their opinions like they change their underwear.  Let the other girls go and see how it works out for them.. I'm thinking - IT WON'T.. Some of them are bound to have the same issues you have so let them ha**** out, then you can swoop in when everything is settled and are saved all that stress for yourself.  I would go ahead with the margarita though.  Cheers..