What are you eating/doing today?

Thanks Erica.  I totally agree that most teachers are caring individuals, in fact, I LOVE all the teachers he has had to date except this French/Pals Teacher.  She has not spoiled my thoughts of the school or teachers.....yet.

The thing is she admited it all to me, ie: calling Logan a diva, she yells, etc.  She did appologize to him for calling him that, however, the yelling....well that's where she says that's just her.  Her reasoning for doing so in Logan situation is, "he is too slow, he needs to read faster, he is slowing his partner down, etc".   I talked to her one on one fully aware that I needed to get her side and not just logans "perception".  I was floored when she admitted to everything and then some...

lol re: can he call her a *****  It crossed my mind, trust me lol.

It IS a level of bullying by an adult, I have expressed that to both the principal last year and this teacher this year.  

I do anticipate that we will be having another meeting and then going above should the need arise.  I just have to talk to Logan's therapist, I feel more secure and armed that way.

They are aware of "logan's issues" but this goes beyond that. 

Thank you for your words and help.  I appreciate it more than you know.

Floored.

He's too slow?? So we yell? Wow.

Is your son IEPd? You might also want to talk to the head of special Ed in the board. Sounds like that teacher might need some help finding more appropriate strategies to meet the needs of students in her care.

And just because you apologize, it doesnt always make things ok. If she called a child retarded, or a racial slur - can you just say "oops! Sorry!!" and all is forgotten?

No he's not IEP'd and yup, I agree with you totally.  She is quite open and "honest" about her actions and feels no remorse or shame, infact, she feels justified.  She made a comment to me, "if you saw the kinds of kids i have to deal with in the class, you wouldnt be able to hold it together either".  There are a few ADHD kids in this one class.  However, I told her she needed to find the resources on how to "deal" and "work" with these kids, as I did/attended parenting classes on how to help Logan through his "issues" (he has not been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD as of yet), imo its her responsibility as a teacher to do so.

Anyway, I know I am not the only parent that has stepped forward but I do know that I won't be stepping back but I do have to approach it rationally and diplomatically (which is hard for this type A personality;).  We shall see how next week goes and go from there.

Thank you again for your insight adn advice.  Knowledge is power, so I thank you for that :)

Do you have a health care plan through work?  Look into getting your son assessed privately.  If you wait for the school to do it, you'll probably wait forever.  The $$ for that is VERY scarce and tends to go to the most needy kids - leaving those "middle of the road" kids on their own.

I was able to get both my kids (for different reasons) a pyschological education assessment through insurance.  If you ask them if they cover that - they will most likely say no.  However, they will often cover visits to a psychologist (who is the one who does the assessent).  We were able to get a dr. who would break down the visits needed to do the assessment into visits that were under the $$ limit the insurance company put on..and took the money in "payments' as we did the visits.  You'll need to ask for this - but it often works.

Having a diagnosis is one thing - but the best thing about an assessment is having a wealth of strategies outlined that are specific to your son.  You can then bring those to school and ask them to use some of those strategies to meet his needs.  This often means creating an IEP - most often if your son is below grade level.  If he isn't, then they might work on a behaviour "contract" that outlines what the teacher/school can do, and what is expected of your son in return.  Everyone works on this together - and often kids are motivated to work harder, knowing that the adults in the building are working to help them be successful as well.

If you really feel that your son is being damaged by his treatment in class, you can ask the administrator to change his class assignment.  That would be pretty drastic at this part of the year (and be hard for your son losing his friends etc.) but can sometimes be an overall better choice.

The biggest suggestion I would have for you is to go into the school and not focus on what the teacher did, but focus on how your son feels and is affected.  The stuff you've seen or your son has reported about the teacher can come out (and should), but you will get more support from the adminstrator if you don't go in on the attack. 

Good luck.  If you need any further advice - pm me and I'll try to help you out with specifics.

TY again, yes I will PM you and thanks for the offer to do so.  He is currently going through a psych evaluation at the Children's Center here.  They have been a God send for us.  I will also check our private plan.  Currently he is diagnosed with severe anxiety disorder and suspecting bi polar and/or Asburger's Syndrome.  Nothing confirmed but totally agree that the diagnosis is meaningless without the resources to help and us following through.

I have bookmarked this and really need to read it through some more and process it, without the emotional conviction that comes with it, as his mom.  That is usually my biggest battle.

Great advice here and I truly appreciate it. 

Afternoon everyone

few coffees
9:45 - babybell
1:00 - 1/2 packet oatmeal, 1/2c greek yogurt, 10 grapes, sprinkle of almonds
2:30 - apple with 2 babybell
3:15 - slice homemade banana bread with peanut butter
4:00 - banana
6:00 - 2 haddock filets

put some yogurt in the freezer so will have some of that sometime as well and will try to get another snack at night

30 min on treadmill

Lori

Afternoon all

Marianne I am so sorry for your son and for you - what a worry

So today is my two year surgiversary....feel wonderful - fit and healthy - would like to lose a few more but not going to sweat it if I dont....I eat well - a little of everything but always protein first and I do get 80 - 100 grams per day
Still get all water in and of course vits - this is for life

B - egg beaters

s - one ham/cheese/pickle roll up

s - 3 crackers with cheese

l - one ham/cheese/pickle roll up

s - 2 sushi veggie rolls in rice paper...yummy way to get some more veg in

d - going to Ruths Chris to celebrate - petite filet rare and some veg....and a glass of merlot

All water and lots of coffee today

Have a great one

Barb

Happy Surgiversary Barb!  I've been waiting to say that all damned day. LOL
Enjoy and congratulations! 

Thanks Karen - thats the extent of my AW'ing today!!

Barb

tee hee