Reality check: Melting Mama

 
I sent her a personal message. Thanks for telling me what I should go do, but you can kindly go stuff it.

But strange how you'd take offense, since you seem to stick to the "harsh truth" when it comes to newbies who have been on the forums for all of 2.5 seconds after they ask a simple question.

I didn't miss the point. I understand you fully.

I believe you mean you judge me fully.
And quite frankly, I am not harsh with newbies. Strange you'd take offense to truth telling. But thanks, as always, for your opinion.  Have a lovely day.

 "And quite frankly, I am not harsh with newbies. Strange you'd take offense to truth telling."

lol.. those two sentences put together is pure gold.

Thanks Karen. As for the fan fare, I have experience with that. I lived in Asia for several years and I was like a hollywood star. When I came back,I was unemployed living alone , my friends had moved on and I fell into a depression. No more fans lol!
I can see feeling so great and then having complications as being tough also. 
Thanks for explaining.

hehehe
Funny you mention that, living in Asia. An old BF of mine worked in China for a month and came back with photos telling me he was a "Star".  Only white boy within MILES and miles. Everyone wanted their photo taken with him. hahaha  Let down when he got home and was just "Gary".

One of the things that I like about this forum is that you talk about the "negative" aspects of WLS (for some people) as well as the wonderful side to it. I want to be aware of the fact that we could end up with some health issues after surgery. I would still choose to have it regardless because, let's face it, being grossly overweight carries it's own health issues. It's a case of "the devil you know vs, the devil you don't know". I'm glad this topic was brought up and I'm going to read MM's blog. 

Also, WLS kind-of reminds me of quitting smoking. When I first quit, 3 years ago, everyone was so quick to offer praise and congratulations, but after my first year, no-one seemed to remember or care, except my immediate family - they still celebrate every anniversary. I mean, to me, it's still a big deal and I feel like giving myself a pat on the back every day, but life goes on and there's always something new for people to focus on. The fanfare is over and someone else is in the spotlight. I know that I'll be overjoyed to be thin, I worry a bit that, five years down the road, I might start to resent the fact that there will be certain things that I simply can't eat and I wonder how I'll cope with those feelings.

Deb

Hi Karen

Thanks for bringing that to our attention. And yes I agree with you, that some people should read it in a couple of years if they are just newly out LOL
It's just like you said above, all sunshine and roses then reality sets in.

Great post though

Take care

what is the "reality?"

Hi there

I agree that a lot of what she said is out of anger and negative

I am shouting from the roof tops that I have lost 120 pounds and love every minute of my new life. Unlike Beth who thinks we shouldn't do that. That is her and she is entitled to say what she feels

REALITY for me was my Mom dying and me going through a nasty divorce all in one year, getting into bad eating habits out of sadness, depression, lonlieness and feeling I had failed in my marriage
I lost what I had gained back(about 20 pounds), but have failed at getting back on track(something that I will not give up on)

Everybody has their own reality, yours may be that nothing ever stops you from reaching your goal and I envy that in people
Reality for Beth is her health issues..............but she has done amazing nne the less.

Reality is different for everyone
I am amazingly happy to have lost 120 pounds and kept it off, but sad sometimes that I let REALITY get the better of me

thnx Karen, all I can say is wow, so honest...but good read.
DEB