Really P*ssed at DH and MIL!!
I had a VERY close friend, tell her best friend who told her MIL, (who I barely even know)....that I wasn't keen on.
As far as my husband he was really good about not telling anyone.
My mother is 82 years old and I had my surgery two years ago, she doesn't know I had surgery only knows that I lost weight...for me my mothe wouldn't understand what it's all about, so why even bring it up
At first I told only a handful of trustworthy people...people I knew that weren't going to make it (gossip)...8+ months after my surgery I began to tell a few more people.
Now at 2 years + 2 months post-op..I sitll pick and choose who I tell..and you are right it's no one else's business but yours.~!!
I hope your husband was apologetic and realizes that this is a personal issue and that along with making such a monumental decisions as to have bariatric surgery...we sure don;t appreciate the neighsayers and those that have to tell us about someone they knew that died from teh surgery.
If your in-laws start on that band wagon of offering their unsolicited advice...shut them down FAST & FIRM!
HUGS
As far as my husband he was really good about not telling anyone.
My mother is 82 years old and I had my surgery two years ago, she doesn't know I had surgery only knows that I lost weight...for me my mothe wouldn't understand what it's all about, so why even bring it up
At first I told only a handful of trustworthy people...people I knew that weren't going to make it (gossip)...8+ months after my surgery I began to tell a few more people.
Now at 2 years + 2 months post-op..I sitll pick and choose who I tell..and you are right it's no one else's business but yours.~!!
I hope your husband was apologetic and realizes that this is a personal issue and that along with making such a monumental decisions as to have bariatric surgery...we sure don;t appreciate the neighsayers and those that have to tell us about someone they knew that died from teh surgery.
If your in-laws start on that band wagon of offering their unsolicited advice...shut them down FAST & FIRM!
HUGS
I don't blame you for being angry. My husband told a guy he plays hockey with (he lives a few houses down from us), I haven't a clue why he told him, just making conversation really and I was really angry because I have no plans to tell anyone so the last thing I wanted was for it to be spread around the neighbourhood. I don't think that you are at the stage where your husband would feel an overwhelming need of support from his family and especially as you had already told him not to say anything.
Well what's done is done, I hope you have forgiven him by now...he should have gotten you a nice 'please don't be mad at me anymore' present since then.
Well what's done is done, I hope you have forgiven him by now...he should have gotten you a nice 'please don't be mad at me anymore' present since then.
I'm not sure what the reason is to keep it a secret ??
why wouldn't you want everyone's support form your family?
I don't believe this is just our journey it's alot of family help and support that goes into it as well
my husband and family have known from the moment I choose this and they have already helped alot .
And I'm sure it will continue after my surgery .
why wouldn't you want everyone's support form your family?
I don't believe this is just our journey it's alot of family help and support that goes into it as well
my husband and family have known from the moment I choose this and they have already helped alot .
And I'm sure it will continue after my surgery .
referral: October 2010, Orientation: Feb 14, Surgeon: March 18
SW, bypass class,dietician:April 29, pre op / surgeon May24 Surgery JUNE 20 
From the stories I have heard on this forum and another weight loss forum too many people can be very unsupportive about WLS. A lot of people may try to persuade against having the surgery saying that weight can be lost with diet and exercise like we've never tried that. I'm sure there are plenty of stories people here could tell you. No one needs to put up with unsolicited advice and negativity. Not everyone is as supportive as your family has been.
If you want to share with everyone and his brother, that's your choice.
My choice is to not tell everyone ... and I alone have the right to tell whomever I want when I want. I don't want anyone that I don't tell directly to know, which is why I have only told very few people. The 'family' SIL will have told I rarely see, but she feels it's her God-given right to tell everyone everything. If I have a pimple, her sister knows, and I'm sick of it! Privacy means nothing to her, which is why I chose not to tell her. The only way she could have found out is thru DH. He betrayed my trust on this issue. We've talked about this over and over. It's my choice, my decision and my right to share, or not.
My choice is to not tell everyone ... and I alone have the right to tell whomever I want when I want. I don't want anyone that I don't tell directly to know, which is why I have only told very few people. The 'family' SIL will have told I rarely see, but she feels it's her God-given right to tell everyone everything. If I have a pimple, her sister knows, and I'm sick of it! Privacy means nothing to her, which is why I chose not to tell her. The only way she could have found out is thru DH. He betrayed my trust on this issue. We've talked about this over and over. It's my choice, my decision and my right to share, or not.
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