I just lost 230 lbs
Glad you found the confidence to stand up for your children and yourself Traci! I was a child that was raised in a toxic environment and I practically celebrated the day my dad hit the road! It was sad but it was also very freeing - such a burden was lifted. Like you, I would not be looking forward to conversing with my children about this but y ou can do it and in time everything will go smoothly!!
Enjoy!
Melissa
Enjoy!
Melissa
SURGERY at Toronto Western Hospital - VSG JANUARY 25th, 2012!!
5'9 - HW - 390 SW - 368.8 GW - 150
Wow thanks Ladies reading these posts really helped me. I asked my significant other of almost 10 years to move out 2 months ago. I'm still in the process of waiting for surgery and preferred to do it alone instead of wasting more time with him. We do have a child together and our son is only 7. I took my son aside and told him day of what was happening, that it wasn't his fault and that both of us love him dearly but we are better not together. I then proceeded to tell him he was now man of the house which he embraced with open arms and is actually pitching in to help me more. It's been scary since with all the new chores added to my burden but i wouldn't trade it for anything. He had left me before when i got really heavy ( i had lost 80 lbs but have since gained 40 of it back) and i decided he didn't deserve me when i was hot and slim.
referral sent August 2010 orientation May 25 nurse June 30 social/nut Aug 16
psych/nut aug 23 meet the surgeon sept 9 surgery November 24
Good for you. I also have to go it alone. I do have friends and family that will help
me through this. Since I haven't had my surgery yet.
How do you manage financially. I can't believe how things like insurance for my
car will change since we are not together.
I don't think my ex deserves me either after I lose the weight!!!
Allison
me through this. Since I haven't had my surgery yet.
How do you manage financially. I can't believe how things like insurance for my
car will change since we are not together.
I don't think my ex deserves me either after I lose the weight!!!
Allison
to be honest i was the one supporting all of us with him working only now an again so really i'm saving money living alone fortunately. I'm old enough that my insurance really won't change now until my daughter is old enough to drive eeeek. Like you i have friends and family who will help but it's a scary time and i'm dreading winter as ugh it means i get to shovel all the snow myself, fun times for sure!!!
referral sent August 2010 orientation May 25 nurse June 30 social/nut Aug 16
psych/nut aug 23 meet the surgeon sept 9 surgery November 24
want to be slim tam -
Please take my comment in the spirit in which it is intended. I would like to point something out that you may not have thought about.
When people separate and the male child is told that he is now "the man of the house" he often believes that he must take on adult responsibilities much to his detriment. Children have lots to deal with when their parents separate and their job is to be a child, no matter what else is going on.
Perhaps it would be better to tell your son that you need his help now more than before because there is just the two of you - but not that he is the man of the house.
Margaret
Please take my comment in the spirit in which it is intended. I would like to point something out that you may not have thought about.
When people separate and the male child is told that he is now "the man of the house" he often believes that he must take on adult responsibilities much to his detriment. Children have lots to deal with when their parents separate and their job is to be a child, no matter what else is going on.
Perhaps it would be better to tell your son that you need his help now more than before because there is just the two of you - but not that he is the man of the house.
Margaret
Completely agree. Way too much pressure for an already hurting child.
Karen
Ontario Recipes Forum - http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/ontario_recipes/ 
Good for you Traci. This has been a long time coming for you. I am sure there will be struggles ahead, but you seem to be in a good place emotionally and self confidence wise.
If you need anything, be sure to ask.
All the best!!
Kristie
If you need anything, be sure to ask.
All the best!!
Kristie
"Don't trade what you want the most,
for what you want at the moment." 
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