Just call me Queen of the Stalls!!

Well.. here I go, venting to my OH friends as you are so tolerant of complaints LOL!
I have been enduring yet another stall.. this time its 5 weeks of  NO weight loss.

I have had several mini stalls since my surgery March 2, 2011.. and then my life imploded on July 18th when we got word that our youngest son died. (He was 27 yr old, very very obese and injured both ankles.. could not weight bear on two badly sprained ankles.. was bedridden for over a week.. and developed deep vein thrombosis..blood clots in legs.. that travelled to his lungs and killed him very suddenly) 
It seems this horrible news has put my weight loss progess into a standstill. I know grieving has aged me a bit, but it apparently has also played havoc with my system and even though I have not swayed from the dietary routine, continue to measure my portions, eat healthy and exercise.. the scales have not moved DOWNWARD. I am stuck at 214 pounds .. 62 pounds lost since surgery.
I walk 3.5 to 4.5 miles every morning, usually before breakfast and I try to keep busy during my day. I drink my fluids, get adequate proteins in.. etc.. but it would seem that emotional stress has put weight loss on the back burner. I am due to see the endocrinologist at Windsor bariatric centre, and dietician Sept 8th.. and even though I have lost INCHES.. they focus on that almighty number that appears when you step on the weigh scales.. and according to my calculations I have only shed 9 pounds since I last saw them late June 2011. 

I know I have been fairly successful, as I now can easily fit into size 16 slacks, and a 1x top
where before it was 3x or 2x pants and 3x or 4x tops.. but I know they are gonna focus solely on the 214 pounds.. not the change in physique. 

Any suggestions for how I can handle the upcoming visit without feeling like I could have done better? 

suzyq0052 

So sad to read about your son.  If I was in your position I wouldn't give flying f**k what they say when you weigh in.  You have been and are still going through a huge loss.  Just keep doing what your doing and the scale will move, as it always does.  My weight loss has really slowed down as well.  Realistic weight loss really is 5-10 pounds a month per my NUT. Don't read Monday weigh ins because sometimes they can be a little depressing if your scale didn't move. Write down what you eat for a week and your exercise so they can see what you are doing instead of telling them.  Good luck and don't worry too much. Take care.
Donna 

my condolences again, for the loss of your son. I don't know how a mother is supposed to recover from that.

Good for you, for continuing to excercise.

Are you tracking your food? I hope that you're weighing and measuring. I use livestrong.com myplate to record my intake, it has an app for my blackberry which makes it easier to use on the go. It can also record my exercise on there, which is helpful.

I wouldnt worry about what they're going to say to you, you've gone through an incredible loss, and they'd be heartless and cruel if they berated you for not losing enough weight.

Hugs

Monica

Suzy, I am so very sorry for your loss.

When you go in for your appt., let them know what's happened.  I'm sure they'll understand.  They may even recommend you get some counselling to help you get thru it.  Perhaps there is some connection between losing your son and not losing weight.  There is no shame is seeking the help you need.

Hey kiddo, I still think that they need to recognize that muscle weighs more than fat does and you've obviously converted some of your fat to muscles with all of your long daily walks. I would be very pro-active and tell them right off th ebat about the other changes you're seeing, like the big change in clothing size and the huge emotional upheaveal due to your loss of Alex. I know how healthy you eat and I think that you need to make sure that they have the whole picture and don't just go by the numbers on the scale.  Just remember that this is a bump in your road, not the end of your road, Elaine.......

Deb