OT - Help Ladies Please
RNY on 02/09/12
Ohh I like that suggestion Patti...
I went with my last weekly because the pain in my hips was so intense I could not move well most days. Just remember to offer to massage her yourself as well. I remember how irrational I was about going to a RMT instead of my partner massaging me. I would have crying spells over how ugly I was and it did not matter how rational he was trying to be about not having a clue how to make the pain go away I still felt unwanted. My ex is a wonderful guy, and there really is no sarcasm there, he was afraid of hurting me more so compromised with back rubs before bed.
So again prepare for the irrational response no matter what you do it may not be right at the time. But she will remember the effort years later when she reminisces about her pregnancy experience and how wonderful you were.
It's kind of like bariatric surgery that way, short term pain and agony, for long term benefits and happiness.
Di
I went with my last weekly because the pain in my hips was so intense I could not move well most days. Just remember to offer to massage her yourself as well. I remember how irrational I was about going to a RMT instead of my partner massaging me. I would have crying spells over how ugly I was and it did not matter how rational he was trying to be about not having a clue how to make the pain go away I still felt unwanted. My ex is a wonderful guy, and there really is no sarcasm there, he was afraid of hurting me more so compromised with back rubs before bed.
So again prepare for the irrational response no matter what you do it may not be right at the time. But she will remember the effort years later when she reminisces about her pregnancy experience and how wonderful you were.
It's kind of like bariatric surgery that way, short term pain and agony, for long term benefits and happiness.
Di
If all else fails, ask the MIL to visit ... often ... maybe even move in for the next 7 months.

Beth
Former RNY patient revising to Sleeve then DS.
Appts: Dietitian - January 21/19; July 16/19, August 13/19, September 17/19, October 15/19; Social Worker: August 23/19; DS Orientation: March 20/19; Internist: September 30/19; Surgeon: November 13/19 (signed consent).
Surgery Date: February 28/20.
MY RNY DIDN'T FAIL ME - I FAILED IT.
Dave,
just wait till she hits menopause...... hide the knives,
seriously, nothing much you can do, she could try St Johns Wort, i've been taking it for years and it seems to keep me balanced, but pregnancy does alot of strange things to a woman,
just keep saying yes dear and kissing her ass. It's not going to help, but it'll pass.
good luck and congrats on the little one.
j
just wait till she hits menopause...... hide the knives,
seriously, nothing much you can do, she could try St Johns Wort, i've been taking it for years and it seems to keep me balanced, but pregnancy does alot of strange things to a woman,
just keep saying yes dear and kissing her ass. It's not going to help, but it'll pass.
good luck and congrats on the little one.
j