Bad News 2 Days Before Surgery
I am so sorry to hear that - my condolences to you and your family at this difficult time. XO
Karen
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My condolence, I know how you feel, last night on the same day has you. I lost my grang mother she was 93 years old! I do feel you re sadness. You got that right it sucks. I will be dedecating my surgery to my (memere) she was alway obese since I can remember and very limited in her movement. Can t belive she lived that long being so obese. I will honor her by being as healty that I can be!
Highs weigh 241 Referal: November, 2010
Before opti 231 Surgery date: May 10, 2012
After opti 220
Ugh... sorry to hear you will miss the funeral. Maybe write her a nice heartfelt letter and have a family member lay it beside her. This is a good way to say goodbye. Best of luck with your surgery - don't feel guilty about doing this for you even if it conflicts with the funeral - human nature will be tempted to do that... don't let it - you need to put your health first.
Referral sent on 26 Feb 2010 - Sleep Study on 28 May 2010 - Info session at WMC on 14 Jan 11- Appt with the APN (nurse) on 27 Jan 11 - Dietician and Behaviorist appts on Feb 24. WLS Class 6th April 2011 - Surgeon appt 3 May 2011 Dr Yelle - Surgery June 6th
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on 1/24/12 12:08 am - Toronto, Canada
on 1/24/12 12:08 am - Toronto, Canada
Ah, so sad when people we love pass away. 90 years old is amazing...a very good life span. It will be hard to miss the funeral, but maybe you can have a very small gathering at your house sometime post-op to remember her with a few loved ones? A celebration of life, the life cycle and of loss. This is a good time to tap into your spiritual beliefs about death if you have any.
This can also be an opportunity for you to really appreciate how short life is for all of us and how much we deserve to make the most of it and build beautiful lives for ourselves.
I watched my (ex)father-in-law die over a span of 3 months almost a year ago. It was awful, but I also found some really strange blessing in it. Like it was the first time that I realized that we live these lives full of love, passion, challenge, dissappointment and success and then, bam, the show is over folks! Lights out. I got for the first time that it happens to all of us and that it will happen to me one day. It definitely made me appreciate life more....like, maybe I need to find more ways to deeply enjoy and be thankful for just this day that lay ahead of me.
For some reason I can see how this sad loss can actually help you feel more confident about your decision to have the surgery. You are having the surgery to have more life, to have more choice, more joy and more freedom. WLS is a life loving choice for most of us, a tribute to our spirit to not give up and bravely build beautiful lives for ourselves. I'm sure your step-father's grandmother must have also had an amazing life loving spirit to have made it to 90 years old.
My condolences to you and your family on your loss.
This can also be an opportunity for you to really appreciate how short life is for all of us and how much we deserve to make the most of it and build beautiful lives for ourselves.
I watched my (ex)father-in-law die over a span of 3 months almost a year ago. It was awful, but I also found some really strange blessing in it. Like it was the first time that I realized that we live these lives full of love, passion, challenge, dissappointment and success and then, bam, the show is over folks! Lights out. I got for the first time that it happens to all of us and that it will happen to me one day. It definitely made me appreciate life more....like, maybe I need to find more ways to deeply enjoy and be thankful for just this day that lay ahead of me.
For some reason I can see how this sad loss can actually help you feel more confident about your decision to have the surgery. You are having the surgery to have more life, to have more choice, more joy and more freedom. WLS is a life loving choice for most of us, a tribute to our spirit to not give up and bravely build beautiful lives for ourselves. I'm sure your step-father's grandmother must have also had an amazing life loving spirit to have made it to 90 years old.
My condolences to you and your family on your loss.
Aw Melissa - I'm so sorry for your loss. Try not to be upset that you can't be there at the funeral - what matters most is that Grandma knew that you loved her while she was alive. Take strength in knowing that she would be happy for you that you're having this surgery which can only help to improve your life.
Deb
Deb
So sorry for your loss. Know that your grandmother would want you to be at the hospital recoverying from a successful surgery so you can live until you're 90 like she did.
I know you want to be at the funeral but you can always celebrate her life in other ways. Wait until after the surgery and do somethign special. Set a goal and dedicate it to her maybe. You want to celebrate her life not morn her death. That's what I did with my dad.
I know it's hard but you need to keep strong for your surgery. Give hubby a big hug and kiss and tell him what's bothering you and get him to help you to thing of things in order to celebrate her life. Light a candle for the new Angel in Heaven. Know that she will be there with you during and after your sugery. She will be there holding your hand.
Those are just my thoughts and ideas I hope I didn't offend you in any way.
Heidi
I know you want to be at the funeral but you can always celebrate her life in other ways. Wait until after the surgery and do somethign special. Set a goal and dedicate it to her maybe. You want to celebrate her life not morn her death. That's what I did with my dad.
I know it's hard but you need to keep strong for your surgery. Give hubby a big hug and kiss and tell him what's bothering you and get him to help you to thing of things in order to celebrate her life. Light a candle for the new Angel in Heaven. Know that she will be there with you during and after your sugery. She will be there holding your hand.
Those are just my thoughts and ideas I hope I didn't offend you in any way.
Heidi
Sometimes you just put one foot in front of the other, even if you don't know where you're going.
Surgery Aug. 29, 2012 with the Wonderful Dr. Aarts at TEGH
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