Kinda OT - where I stand
What's that old saying 'You can pick your friends, you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your family' - isn't that the damn truth!! Sounds like you're going through quite an ordeal right now yourself, and I can totally relate to just popping in to check msgs but not posting much right now - its hard when you really can't concentrate or feel you can give your best advice because your head is spinning.
I was so thankful when my mom decided to stop driving and sell her car - sure its a little inconvenient for us at times, but it beats me worrying about her being out on the roads, especially with how crazy drivers are these days.
My thoughts and prayers are with you right now, too - its hard not to stress and totally forget to take care of ourselves when going through these kinds of things, isn't it. But I'm trying - hope you do, too. Remember, we're no good to anybody if we get sick, right? And hard as we can try we can't solve all the problems of the world, even our own little one.
Hang in there...stay strong. Will be thinking about you and praying things turn around soon.
Kathy
I was so thankful when my mom decided to stop driving and sell her car - sure its a little inconvenient for us at times, but it beats me worrying about her being out on the roads, especially with how crazy drivers are these days.
My thoughts and prayers are with you right now, too - its hard not to stress and totally forget to take care of ourselves when going through these kinds of things, isn't it. But I'm trying - hope you do, too. Remember, we're no good to anybody if we get sick, right? And hard as we can try we can't solve all the problems of the world, even our own little one.
Hang in there...stay strong. Will be thinking about you and praying things turn around soon.
Kathy
'One shoe can change your life'...Cinderella
Hi there - I feel I HAD to weigh in on this one - as a reminder, you were one of the first people I heard from when I came to my first Barix meeting last February. (Or was it March? *****members?) Anyway, I again remind you that I was shocked to look at you and think, "There is NO WAY this girl had over 100 pounds to lose." I feel blessed and lucky that you are comfortable enough to share your pain, thoughts and love on these boards. I only hope that a few words from me will give you even a BIT of strength to get through this difficult time in your life and that of Brian's as well.
All things happen for a reason, it is possible that dealing with your grandparents illnesses will help you put into perspective the crazy that your in-laws bring, or even vice versa. At the end of the day - it is you and Brian that matter and this time of year especially we need to look at what IS working in our lives. You will never stop loving oyur grandparents or worrying about them, and the same holds true for Brian and his parents, as off target as they seem to be, they still raised him and he has that bond that will always either frustrate him or make him love them even more. Whatever the case, you have each other and there you will be able to make some peace.
I am sure your party will be a HUGE success and unfortunately I am away the next couple of days, or else I too would offer some assistance - however, I am not sure what I would do as I DO NOT cook and I have a cleaning person, hey - I guess I could crack jokes if necessary! :) I always bring the chaos.......:) Here's is to a quiet and happy New Year for you and Brian! :)
All things happen for a reason, it is possible that dealing with your grandparents illnesses will help you put into perspective the crazy that your in-laws bring, or even vice versa. At the end of the day - it is you and Brian that matter and this time of year especially we need to look at what IS working in our lives. You will never stop loving oyur grandparents or worrying about them, and the same holds true for Brian and his parents, as off target as they seem to be, they still raised him and he has that bond that will always either frustrate him or make him love them even more. Whatever the case, you have each other and there you will be able to make some peace.
I am sure your party will be a HUGE success and unfortunately I am away the next couple of days, or else I too would offer some assistance - however, I am not sure what I would do as I DO NOT cook and I have a cleaning person, hey - I guess I could crack jokes if necessary! :) I always bring the chaos.......:) Here's is to a quiet and happy New Year for you and Brian! :)
Hang in there Pam, lean on us... and of course Brian! You WILL get through this... sanely... (if that's even a word) You're such a good, and kind hearted person....... and always do your best to make others happy.... not an insult by any means.. but remember during this time to take a few quiet selfish moments for yourself. for YOU...
We love you bunches and bunches.. and remember.. I'm just a phone call away!!
We love you bunches and bunches.. and remember.. I'm just a phone call away!!
Success is a journey... not a destination! 
(((HUGS))) So sorry to hear all that you and hubby are going through. Hang in there the road might be tough but in the end the ride is worth it. It seems that this time of year is so hard on many people. We are all here for you to support you, and send our love. I will be thinking about you, your family and your party. Try to have a good time. And do remember to take time to take care of yourself and your hubby too.
Oh Pam - I just saw your post. My heart goes out to you - the family issues are so tough and so complex. Just remember that the marriage vows (NOT going all religious on you) are to "leave your family and cleave to your new spouse" (wild paraphrasing). You and Brian are the new "unit" and if his parents cannot accept that and support your ability to make independent decisions and choices, then your new unit will need to limit contact with them for your sanity.
As to the other family issues, watching family age can be so painful. But as you said, there's not really anything you can "fix" which has its own pain.
As to the party - Don't let diving headfirst into party prep be your escape from the stresses of Brian's parents and your family issues. It's really easy to let party prep become the focus and to become so immersed in making it "perfect" that you lose track of the enjoyment - focus on the people, not on the cleaning and setup. True friends won't care about (or even notice) a couple of dust-bunnies or whatever - and life is too short to surround ourselves with people who will judge us on crap like that. Take a step back and breathe and try to let go of some of it. Give yourself permission to not fold the napkins or whatever.
HUGS !!
Karen
As to the other family issues, watching family age can be so painful. But as you said, there's not really anything you can "fix" which has its own pain.
As to the party - Don't let diving headfirst into party prep be your escape from the stresses of Brian's parents and your family issues. It's really easy to let party prep become the focus and to become so immersed in making it "perfect" that you lose track of the enjoyment - focus on the people, not on the cleaning and setup. True friends won't care about (or even notice) a couple of dust-bunnies or whatever - and life is too short to surround ourselves with people who will judge us on crap like that. Take a step back and breathe and try to let go of some of it. Give yourself permission to not fold the napkins or whatever.
HUGS !!
Karen
Pam. I so hope things start to look up for you. You are such an inspiration and joy to see on this board. I hope you remember that we are also hear to be your sounding board!! sometimes all it takes is a little venting to smooth things out.
Love and wishes of good things in the universe for you .
Sandra 
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