"Sometimes I wish you didn't get the surgery"...

Well darlin I am so sorry you are having to deal with this.  I had a friend whose friend told her she couldn't go out to eat with her anymore.  I would sit down with this friend and have a heart to heart talk with her about her concerns your friendship etc.  What you don't need is someone who can't handle you CHANGING cause you will.

I personally think it's ridiculous that your friend can't share a meal with you.  I do it OFTEN with my smaller girlfriends and bigger ones.  Started doing it when I did WW.  But I have great friends, not to say that you don't, but it's time to talk to her real talk.

Good luck love.

MS Shell

when i first starting talking on these boards about my fears of how my own friends would react once i changed for real and for good, a friend of mine who i met here said to me:  in every crew, there's a fat girl, some of em are gonna hate that it's not you anymore.   it'll play out in all kinda funky ways.   i'm not saying she's jealous, but even if they don't all react the same way the people in your life who love and care for you will be happy that you're happy.

The enjoyment that comes from sharing a meal hasn't anything REALLY to do with the meal so much as the company. Tell her that. She's making you feel bad because you can't eat much and that IS the purpose of having the sleeve done. It's a lifesaver. Make her understand it's her company you'd love while dining, not how much you can eat or not eat that should even be considered. That should be irrelevant.

Sue

First of all...your right, she doesnt understand how it is to be fat.. thats not her fault, but it can be hurtful when people say things like this.
I think she is jealous that now she eats more than you do....and she feels like the "pig"... as u stated, it used to be the other way around.
if it wasnt me, I wouldnt go out with her til she changes her tune...that may sound harsh, but this is a hard journey that we are on....and we need supportive people around us.
Maybe in the near future, she will understand. In the meantime, go places with her that doesnt revolve around food...
big hugs...and ur doing great!

Lisa, hi! I like your new picture and your looking GOOD.

Sue

thanks Sue =)

I am sorry some people just do not get it.  I have a friend at work who I use to have lunch with all the time. She is one of the only people that knew I had the surgery at work.  Everything was fine till I lost over 75 pounds.  She now says I am too thin to have lunch with her because she is heavy.  So I askes was it my personality and who I am you liked or just the fact that I was fat?  She never really answered.  At least I figured out what type of friend she was.  Talk about reverse discrimmation right. 

Maybe your friend will come around. 

Hugs