Freaking out!!!!

I have been waiting for my surgery for over 2 years. I have been to class,educated and ready to go. My surgery date is Friday. I was fine until my 12 year old son has started to freak out. I have been explaining to my boys (I have 2, 8 and 12) that I am having surgery to help me so I can become healthier and stop having to take pills for h.b. They have been fine and supportive. Then he dropped a bomb on me the other night he got tears in his eyes and said he didn't want me to leave. I explained that I would only be gone for a couple of days but be back. My husband and I have gone for weekend getaways before. My plan is to come back in 4 days (1 day pre-op then 3 days in hospital) then I began to think does he know something I don't. Does he see the future???? Is he trying to give me a sign??? It this kid some kind of psychic???? What the hell now I am scared ****less. Please someone calm me down. Thanks

Tell them you'll be fine, they'll see, involve them as much as you can, call them, talk to them, I was scared too and so were my kids, but I just explained to them they were getting their mommy back, being sick and unable to participate was not the mommy they wanted or needed.  You'll be great, I was so excited to get home in my own bed.

I do not think your son is psychic.  I think he is worried about you.  No one knows the future - and the odds are with you for sure.  Good luck!

I understand how you feel. I think he is concerned but i doubt he is psychic! I worry about similar things. I used to be excited for my surgery and now its all worrying and anxious thoughts.  So i have been wondering if it was my gut feeling or if i knew something. I have 4 weeks to worry! You will be home before you know it.  I am sure we both will be happy once we are home and on our way to recovery. Who is your dr? I am going to mexico too. :) Wish we had the same date :) I really wish i knew someone getting surgery at the same time!! Good luck and please let me know how it goes!
Dee    

 This will save your life.  You must tell him everything will be fine.  You cannot let him know that there are risks. A child cannot really comprehend that.   I was very emotional and cried at everything the few days before my surgery...then you will wake up in the hospital and not have a care in the world except for  recovering and getting home.  He is just scared.  Love him extra.  God has brought you this blessing..take it and be thankful for your second chance ..every day

He is just sharing his fears with you,  he is worried for you and you need to be strong and explain again that you will be fine and in the near future healthier and you will be here for a very long time.  Make sure he knows that Dad will call and let him know you are fine as soon as your are out of the surgery and keep them posted each day so they feel better.

You are fortunate that he is showing the care and love he has for you.  Take some pictures with them before you leave so they have those to look at while you are away and when you are able to talk to him after surgery be sure you do that. 

Now for you,  relax and don't freak out now,  everything will be okay.  You are going to be so much happier and healthier for you and your family.  Keep it together,  breathe, and calm down and know how long you have been waiting for this........you will be fine. 

Good luck Friday,  good thoughts and prayers coming your way. 

My 34 yr old daughter is the one who advised me to get this surgery and she insisted on taking me and staying with me in the hospital.   I thought that i might be a little nervous,  but she FREAKED OUT once we got to the hospital.  She was so freaked out that i didn't have time to worry about myslelf, i was worried about her.   lol   It just means he loves you,  and he cannot understand what life is like for us,  he is afraid he will lose you.   But really,  you will be so much healthier and happier,  you will all be so glad you did this.   You'll get to see them all grown up and married with their own kids.  I'd say a great thing.   Try to focus on the reasons you are doing this and have faith that this is the best thing you can do for yourself and your loved one   I'll by thinking of you Friday and can't wait to hear how well it all goes  :o) Jeani

I actually believe that there are those among us that can see the future or feel things that may happen in the future. We have several in my family, including me. As a medic, I always knew before the beginning of my shift if someone would die that day. So, I would advise not to ignore those around you who have concerns.

That being said, you could easily check this by asking him more questions about why he is nervous and why he thinks you will be leaving and not coming back. Typically, you will find the root of his fears this way and be able to reassure him. But if he makes you nervous with his answers you may want to follow your instincts. It might sound strange, but many members of my family have avoided trouble by following their gut or the guidance from others.
 
Just a thought.

Sometimes its better not to tell the kids exactly what is going on..but thats just my opinion. The 12 year old is at that age where he is between childhood comprehension and a touch of maturity.
Hes not psychic just fearful...When someone hears surgery..any kind of surgery they always think the worst!

Once it is over and he is reassured by your hubby, he will be fine. Are you going to be in the hospital that long? I thought I was going to be in 2-3 days..but my insurance told me differently...First of all, they said..I was going to be an outpatient...just 23 hours in the hospital!!!! But my dr. told them I needed to stay at least one night.

I have 4 grown kids...ages 29-40 and they were completely against my surgery..Worrying and trying to stop me at the last day! They were worried something would happen to me also! (lost their father at age 48). So, dont think its just young kids!!!! hahah! Once it was over...they were really relieved...

Good luck to you...and dont worry...they will survive and so will you!!!

Be casual.  Kids pick up our cues.  Smile, put your arm around him and start talking about what life will be like when you can do more things together.  This worked well with my 10 yo, who got so into the concept that I was informed that she must shop for clothes with me so that I won't buy anything "lame," lol!

Personally, being open and relaxed with my kid was the best approach - but we're all different.  Think of his personality and approach it in a way that he finds appealing.

You'll be fine.  Good luck!