so ashamed -- whole 3 oz bag of pop chips last night

hi all,

i'm so ashamed of myself.  i had to stop at cvs on my way home last night after work and i was hungry.  i was hoping a small 100 cal bag of chips would be there, but they only had the bigger bag.  but i was hungry so i bought them and i knew i was going to eat the whole bag, not just the 1/3 bag serving.  i had to go out to a choral rehearsal, so between when i got home and when i went out again i ate the whole bag: 425 useless calories.  of a slider food.  i feel awful and guilty and gross.  i am having such a hard time with the carb monster right now.  the nut at my program has told me just to focus on protein and calories and not worry about carbs, but i think she didn't mean eating a whole bag of chips.  help!!!!!!!!  

I keep a bag of beef jerkey in my car for emergencies, or stop at the store and grab some. That and some almonds since they dont go bad in the car.

Dont beat yourself up, but learn from the experience, and make a plan. "Next time XYZ happens - this is how I will be prepared" Have a back up plan for when you have to be out late and can't eat a meal or whatever. 

 Ok, so you know what you did right? You acknoweldge that it was not a good choice. This, my friend,is progress.  We have all been there, we are human and talk ourselves into doing things that we know are wrong. 

You have to let it go, and use it as a lesson. The next time you go to pick up that bag, walk yourself though all the guilt, anger and shame you felt this time. Ask yourself if it's worth it. 

Complusive eating is so hard to overcome, but YOU have what it takes to do it. Ask yourself internal questions before you buy things (or eat things). Is it worth it, does it fit into my daily goals, is there a reason I want this other then hunger, is there a better choice I could be making? 

You have to control your head, no one else can do that for you.

Ashamed?  Why?  Cause you had a temporary setback?  That's nothing to be ashamed about.  I've had setbacks that lasted days or weeks... and I don't feel guilty about 'em.  It's just part of it.  425 useless calories aren't going to make you gain all your weight back.

Don't beat yourself up.  Look FORWARD.

I just have to pop in here and tell you how great you look!!!

I made some spectacularly bad choices the night before last and then again this afternoon...then I read a recent post from Frisco about the last 20 lbs being the most difficult and was really getting down on myself.

Anyway, I needed to read your post today. It is good to know that even people as successful as you have had setbacks along the way.

So, I've got better choices all around me now and I'm looking forward. Starting the day off right tomorrow with an early morning swim with a buddy and getting back to the plan so I can get my butt to goal!

Thanks,
Lindsey

I haven't seen you post in a long time. Hope all is going well. Hope you post some updated pics on your progress.

(((( Hugs!! ))))

Step away from the shame and guilt, Ann!  It's just another way of using food.  Log it and move on.

I agree so much with Alison's post - make a plan! stock your car with good for you foods!
Hungry is bad for us!

Also, maybe consider a boundary around some of those carby trigger foods.  Like, you won't buy them at a store, but would consider having them at some social situation, or something like that, whatever makes sense to you.  Or figure out how you can include them in your food plan.  I personally cannot trust myself to eat 1/2 a bag of triggery food, that's just a big ol' lie that the monkey tells me.

I resist putting down a trigger food, I resist it with all my might.  But when I do, it is always a relief.  Like I've laid down my end of the rope in some perverse tug-of-war I play when I know I will lose every time.

Sorry you had a hard time, but it looks like you are getting a lot of support from people here.

Thank you for sharing for the rest of the us newly-sleeved people.

The shame just leads to more overeating.  I think the major lesson to be learned here is that you need a plan.  During my losing phase, I carried "emergency food" with me wherever I went.  I had a whole kit put together.  There was never a need to stop somewhere and get chips.  This is a great opportunity for you to make a different choice.  Learn from this set back and do it better next time.  That is the REAL gift this surgery gives us, the time to learn to make better choices.  Use this gift.  Throw the guilt and shame away.  There is no use for them in your new life.  Take out a piece of paper, and write down what you will do next time.  Take the time to really think about it and make sure your plan is really detailed.  The more you can picture yourself doing it, the better chance you actually will do it.  Good luck and we are all pulling for you to succeed.