OT Family and estate issues drama!

SleevedLife
on 12/18/11 7:04 am
I don't understand how your name could be on that title without your consent and knowledge.  Seriously - that doesn't sound right or legal at all.  You should have at the very least required a notarized signature to have your name on the house.

Are you sure your sister isn't just deceiving you so that you will pay up and bail her out?

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. She sounds really toxic.

Nutshell:

Lost 140 lbs with VSG. (Hooray!!)

got pregnant  (yeaaaa!)  

got cancer (boooo!)

regained 40 lbs.   (grrrr!)

In summary: Alive & Grateful.   

abrown8434
on 12/18/11 7:20 am - VA
Girl, may God bless you because we are going through some similar issues w/ our family and this is my main advice: TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOURS AT ALL COSTS!!!! You have to protect your assets and the future that you and your husband have built and let your sister fend for herself. Loving your sister doesn't mean that you just roll over and be an enabler like other people were.

Living off someone else and letting them do everything for you is cool as long as they are still living and/or still willing. Once they go, unless you find another meal ticket, your time is up! Some people will not stand on their own two feet unless forced and it sounds like your sister is now in that situation. Get you a real estate lawyer, find out your rights and what is the best way to handle the situation. Best of luck to you!

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phred
on 12/18/11 7:24 am - CO
Just quitclaim it over to your sister, and let her stew in her own mess!

  If it feels good, do it!  And if it smells good, eat it!

Crabadams72
on 12/18/11 8:57 am - Silver Spring, MD
Thanks all. I checked out the county records and yes my name is there.

My husband thinks we should take it (the real estate market is really bad in that area). My FIL said to sec 8 it and make her pay us rent since my parents wanted the house to stay in the family.
I am in another state so she told the atty to put both our names on the house. I had a friend that was going to help her get a job in a nursing home but she was whining about not wanting to clean people. This made me so irate! Some yrs back my husband and I went through a rough time and we cleaned houses just to have food on the table.

Thanks all for listening!
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SleevedLife
on 12/18/11 9:08 am
Maybe the laws are different where you live...  but where I live you cannot just ask an attorney to put someone's name on house.  That person would have to sign paperwork and agree to it.   Otherwise, anyone could put anyone's name on their house when they got into financial trouble.

If you never signed or agreed to have your name on this house, you should be able to get your name removed.  I could very well be misunderstanding your situation, though, so I apologize if I am !!

I can definitely appreciate your aggravation.  Your sister sounds completely maddening!  

Whatever you decide, I hope things work out as smoothly as possible with as little drama as possible.


Nutshell:

Lost 140 lbs with VSG. (Hooray!!)

got pregnant  (yeaaaa!)  

got cancer (boooo!)

regained 40 lbs.   (grrrr!)

In summary: Alive & Grateful.   

Crabadams72
on 12/18/11 9:15 am - Silver Spring, MD
I need to go to the courthouse. I do wonder if it was the probate court that made the decision since my parents did not have a formal will.
VSG 6/10/2011  Dr. Ann Lidor BMore MD 5'5 HW-247 SW-233 GW-145 CW-120
        
http://www.youtube.com/user/72Crabadams   Me rambling about my journey : )

hollykim
on 12/18/11 12:02 pm - Nashville, TN
Revision on 03/18/15
i don't think even the probate court could put your name on something without your signature. Is it possible she FORGED your signatrure?

I think you need to go there ASAP and find out EXACTLY what is going on.
GL,
Holly

 


          

 

howarli
on 12/18/11 10:04 pm - MD
Just kind in mind if you are going to keep the house in the family, the house should be in your name only, you will pay for everything and you sister will pay nothing and completely ruin the house.  You may have to take you name off and be done with the whole thing.  I have been there and done that, family can hurt you the most emotionally and financially but ONLY IF YOU LET THEM.  I know you want to keep the house in the family but having your sister continue to live  their will just be costly in the end.  Please don't continue to be an enabler.  I will keep you in my prayers. I know this is a stressful thing to deal with but hang in there.
                                    
wanttobehalfofme
on 12/18/11 12:09 pm - MI
I have a deadbeat SIL.She inherited the house it had my husband's name on it. She was making bad financial decisions. so my hubby got his name off it and walked away. Sometimes you have to do things like that. Fast forward about five years. She got in trouble over embezzlement at her work for the city. She lost the house and lives in a cereal box apartment. Our best decision was to let it go and not get involved in her problems. We live in Mi.
MILLERSDAUGHTER
on 12/19/11 1:07 am - Lewisport, KY
VSG on 04/07/11 with
First of all, let me say how sorry I am for the loss of your parents and the pain you are going thru because of your sister.

I agree with everyone else.......you need to go there and be sure that your name is LEGALLY on those papers.

My parents had a will and my sister and I had to personally sign everything since we were left everything jointly.  I don't know in Ohio if everything went thru probate how it could be done.

I would advise walking away from this if you can get your name off the deed.  If your sister is a renter she probably won't keep up the rent and then you'd have to go thru the emotional and legal expense of kicking her out.

Also, if you own the house and she's living in it, what would keep her from filing an insurance claim to get money?  In her mind, she'd think that if she claimed she fell and was injured, she'd get money from the insurance company.   However, she could cause you to lose your homeowners insureance on that property and make you be uninsurable on your personal home.  If she got a savvy attorney, she could file a claim that would be larger than your insurance coverage and you'd be responsible for what insurance didn't cover.

As sad as it is, I say don't just walk away from this, RUN!  Cut the ties and move on with the life you have built.  Your sister will never change and if you let her, she will drag you down with her.
     Never, never, never give up!
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