Gah, why do people think its ok to tell me I am TOO thin?
They never would have said to my face that I was TOO fat, or that I should lose some weight, so why do they think it's ok to tell me that I should put on five or ten lbs. Even my husband got on the bandwagon this morning and told me that if I got to MY goal weight that I would look to thin.
Maybe I should take a page for Shayne's book and take some semi naked pics so I can flash them to people when they tell me I don't have anything left to lose.
Yeah, I do, so shut up.
If I had been a normal weight all my life and then gained to this point people would call me chubby, but b/c I am coming from the other end of the scale they say I am too skinny.
Bite me people, I will be done when I am happy with what I see in the mirror.
Maybe I should take a page for Shayne's book and take some semi naked pics so I can flash them to people when they tell me I don't have anything left to lose.
Yeah, I do, so shut up.
If I had been a normal weight all my life and then gained to this point people would call me chubby, but b/c I am coming from the other end of the scale they say I am too skinny.
Bite me people, I will be done when I am happy with what I see in the mirror.
Courtney - Lap band to VSG revision
You said exactly what I said last year when my sisters and coworkers said I was looking anorexic. Even now the ones who don't think I am too thin are telling me not to lose anymore weight. Hasn't anyone ever told them to mind their own business, especially if nobody asked your opinion??? These are the same people who would never have dreamed of telling to that it was time to lose weight, suddenly its ok to tell me to stop losing weight? Reverse prejudice or what? Who would have thought being called skinny would be an insult!
Band to Sleeve Revision 3/1/11
It's because they SUCK! - not really - LOL!
Actually, I think they think they're being nice and so supportive and don't get that those types of comments aren't appreciated by us. For Heaven's sake, we know what we're supposed to weigh and how we feel in our own skins!
I dealt with a lot of that today. One of the women who was going on about how thin I was weighs all of 97 pounds (seriously, 97 - she's 5'0") and went on and on about how there was nothing left to lose. You know, she actually reached out to feel me up to determine if I had extra weight somewhere that I was hiding with my clothes. When I finally told her I still weigh over 200 pounds that shut her up.
I have lost 2/3 or my extra weight now. I think that it seems so significant to most people that I look thin in comparison to what I used to be. I figure once people get used to the thin me the comments will stop.
What I think is really interesting is the people who don't say a single word about my weight loss. I find that intriguing. Wonder what's up with that?!
Actually, I think they think they're being nice and so supportive and don't get that those types of comments aren't appreciated by us. For Heaven's sake, we know what we're supposed to weigh and how we feel in our own skins!
I dealt with a lot of that today. One of the women who was going on about how thin I was weighs all of 97 pounds (seriously, 97 - she's 5'0") and went on and on about how there was nothing left to lose. You know, she actually reached out to feel me up to determine if I had extra weight somewhere that I was hiding with my clothes. When I finally told her I still weigh over 200 pounds that shut her up.
I have lost 2/3 or my extra weight now. I think that it seems so significant to most people that I look thin in comparison to what I used to be. I figure once people get used to the thin me the comments will stop.
What I think is really interesting is the people who don't say a single word about my weight loss. I find that intriguing. Wonder what's up with that?!
I can't stand it when people say you look so thin. WHAT! I am 198lbs what the hell are you "the people" thinking. Just let me get to goal and let me feel normal. I never had the chance to remember what it feels like to be 170lbs or size 12. I truly can't remember b/c I was a fat girl in elementry and high school.
Camie
This is coming from the perspective of someone who has watched two family members have success with wls... one with a sleeve, and one with a ds.
My mother-in-law got a DS, and there are days when I do think she looks way too thin. Not that my opinion matters, because if that is how she wants to look and is happy, then more power to her.
Then there is my husband. He went from being 420 pounds to being about 245, right before my eyes. There were days when he would come home from work and I would have to do a double take, lest I wonder why the hell I have a stranger coming home in my husband's clothes. The weight loss would just hit him in clumps like that, as I'm guess it does many people who have wls at one point or another.
My husband still has about 45 pounds to get to his personal goal, and there are days when I don't think he would look healthy at that weight. Doesn't mean I don't want him to keep moving forward, because again, it's about what he wants, not me.
My point in all of this is that I can kinda see where the people who say any of you look too thin are coming from. Maybe it's not that they really think you look sickly. It's probably more like they are just so used to seeing you at a heavier weight, that to them the way you look is abnormal. Even if they see you all the time, there will be days when it will "hit them" the way my husband's weight loss ha**** me.
Give their eyes time to adjust, and realize that part of that comment is really just from the shock of how well you are doing. It really is a compliment, it just doesn't sound like it when it comes out.
My mother-in-law got a DS, and there are days when I do think she looks way too thin. Not that my opinion matters, because if that is how she wants to look and is happy, then more power to her.
Then there is my husband. He went from being 420 pounds to being about 245, right before my eyes. There were days when he would come home from work and I would have to do a double take, lest I wonder why the hell I have a stranger coming home in my husband's clothes. The weight loss would just hit him in clumps like that, as I'm guess it does many people who have wls at one point or another.
My husband still has about 45 pounds to get to his personal goal, and there are days when I don't think he would look healthy at that weight. Doesn't mean I don't want him to keep moving forward, because again, it's about what he wants, not me.
My point in all of this is that I can kinda see where the people who say any of you look too thin are coming from. Maybe it's not that they really think you look sickly. It's probably more like they are just so used to seeing you at a heavier weight, that to them the way you look is abnormal. Even if they see you all the time, there will be days when it will "hit them" the way my husband's weight loss ha**** me.
Give their eyes time to adjust, and realize that part of that comment is really just from the shock of how well you are doing. It really is a compliment, it just doesn't sound like it when it comes out.
Highest weight: 277 Starting Weight: 250 Surgery Weight: 241 Current Weight: 130
Goal Reached in 10.5 months :)
I think that in todays society it has become ok to be overweight and more and more common for the "norm" to be 190-220. I know that twenty years ago if you were anywhere over 150 you were called a fatty and now its whoa your so skinny...I see people all the time in things that I would of sooner crawled under a rock than let it all roll out but I guess if your comfy and happy and healthy thats what matters most and to hades with what anyone else thinks.
I think this article kind of sums it up http://www.fitsugar.com/Average-Weight-Americans-20-Pounds-Heavier-Than-20-Years-Ago-20605443
http://www.theatlanticwire.com/national/2011/11/americans-ge t-fatter-weight-they-want-be-rises-too/45477/
I think this article kind of sums it up http://www.fitsugar.com/Average-Weight-Americans-20-Pounds-Heavier-Than-20-Years-Ago-20605443
http://www.theatlanticwire.com/national/2011/11/americans-ge t-fatter-weight-they-want-be-rises-too/45477/
I have seen some folks ask "do I look too thin?" And they did not WANT to hear the truth. YES. yes they did.
They looked too thin in their face and their arms, but know what? its to be expected because of the way we tend to lose. I was glad to let folks know that I would be happy to whip down my britches and show them the parts of me that DID NOT look too thin, but it was not appropriate for public.
But yea, you may WELL look too thin - you probably will not when your body has some time at the same weight and redistributes, but in all honesty? When many of us are near whatever we have called is goal, we DO look too thin.
Its just a phase. Like being a gangly teenager. It will pass, but for a lot of folks - it is true and there is no point in saying folks are just ******** or that they are jealous, because the fact is mostly? We kind of do.
But we will not forever, most probably. :}
PS, for me, when I am lean enough in my belly and booty to fit not snugly in my pants, my forearms are vascular. Does it look too thin? Yea, probably, but my forearms are not where my body holds onto fat stores. My booty and my belly? hells to the yea. So, for me, unless I just want to stay riled up when folks make ignorant comments, I need to blow them off or, what shuts them up is to say "yea, you too!!" and then walk away.
They looked too thin in their face and their arms, but know what? its to be expected because of the way we tend to lose. I was glad to let folks know that I would be happy to whip down my britches and show them the parts of me that DID NOT look too thin, but it was not appropriate for public.
But yea, you may WELL look too thin - you probably will not when your body has some time at the same weight and redistributes, but in all honesty? When many of us are near whatever we have called is goal, we DO look too thin.
Its just a phase. Like being a gangly teenager. It will pass, but for a lot of folks - it is true and there is no point in saying folks are just ******** or that they are jealous, because the fact is mostly? We kind of do.
But we will not forever, most probably. :}
PS, for me, when I am lean enough in my belly and booty to fit not snugly in my pants, my forearms are vascular. Does it look too thin? Yea, probably, but my forearms are not where my body holds onto fat stores. My booty and my belly? hells to the yea. So, for me, unless I just want to stay riled up when folks make ignorant comments, I need to blow them off or, what shuts them up is to say "yea, you too!!" and then walk away.
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