Co worker reaction to my weight loss

As my own personal decision, I did not tell my co workers or even my boss the type of surgery I was having.  I explained that it was very personal and I did not want to go into details.

Fast forward...I am of work and it is discussed that "maybe I am having weight loss surgery".  One person supposedly said that if I came back and started losing a lot of weight that she was not going to mention it.

I am now over seven month post op and have lost about 75 pounds.  My immediate co workers (with the exception of 2 I am close with) have not mentioned my weight loss, no comments whatsoever.

On the other hand the people I work with in other departments continually praise me and tell me how great I look. 

It continues to hurt me.  Most of my close co workers have almost completely shut me out except when the have to talk to me about a work matter.

I have tried not to let it bother me but it really hurts. 

I am just venting hoping you all will listen.  Thanks

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I have the same problem.  I chalk it up to the fact that I think one of my co-workers might be jealous of my new found happiness.  But I don't let that bother me.  I am doing what is right for me and what makes me happy.  In the end, you are the one who is going to benefit, not them.  

I know it's hard, but try to let it go.  Don't base your happiness on what others (especially your co-workers) think.  As long as it makes you happy!!

 I can imagine how hurtful that is - i have a few co-workers and even friends who never acknowledge my weight loss (and ive freaking lost an obese person!). 

But, that being said - you chose to shut them out, and you obviously took a position that you wanted this to be extremely personal, so if I were in their shoes, I wouldn't say anything either out of concern for crossing a line with you. I think, depending on your previous relationship with them, that it may have equally hurt them for you to be so evasive about it? Just my very honest opinion. 

There are always personal decisions that have to be made - i found that it was much better to be open about and it receive a ton of support with the occassional nay-sayers thrown in. 

 LOL, we were typing about the same thing at the same time - jinx.

I completely agree with this.  My co-workers are by far some of my BIGGEST supporters, more so than some of my family memebers.  I don't think there is a day that goes by that one of them doesn't complement me or tell me how proud they are of me.  I have been 100% honest about this whole situation in hopes that maybe if one of them is considering surgery, they'll feel free to come to me and ask questions.  I share my blog of this whole journey with them, I made myself a promise when I had this surgery that I would not hide it, I would not be ashamed of it.  Infact, I have not had a single negative reaction this. 

If you weren't open about surgery, and now you've lost 75lbs, they may think you're sick, they may think that since you didn't tell them.  

I really think that you may have been suprised had you told them.  

 Try asking your coworkers to join you for lunch or on break and talk to them about how you feel.  Let them express their feelings without trying to interrupt and explain yourself.  None of you should assume you know what's going on in the others heart or mind.

The way I see it you set this whole thing in motion with your secrecy.  If you are really close to your coworkers as you say, do you think they might feel as if you did not trust them to handle this sensitively?  Did it occur to you that they might be respecting some unspoken wish to not discuss your weight at all based on your decision to keep your WLS a secret at the beginning?

If you didn't want to discuss it then, why would you want to discuss it now - when it's time for compliments?  Or is it just the compliments you want, without the acknowledgement of anything else regarding your transformation?  You could just be reaping what you have sown.

If you have an issue with your coworkers handle it face to face.

 I am sorry that they are making you feel bad.  That sucks.  I was very open about both of my surgeries, and have experienced a lot of support and comments on how great I look.  I did have one passive-aggressive person tell me, " it must be so great to lose weight, easily!".  Uhhhhh, first off, it isn't automatic or easy.  Secondly, she thought she was fooling me, by hiding her contempt in such a sweet attitude.  Nah, checked my birth certificate.... I wasn't born yesterday.  

Just keep your head up high.....you will win by feeling so good about yourself.

 Sorry you have to go through that. Some people don't know what to say and some people are to mature to understand. Keep your head up and smile because you have done something positive for yourself!

I know the feeling. My former BFF at work & I are still supposedly friends but I keep hearing that she is talking behind my back. It does hurt. I know I have "changed" since WLS but in my opinion, I act the same way ... Maybe just a little more quiet when I know I'm around people who are clearly uncomfortable around me. I heard from another one of my friends that this former BFF was talking about me & even making some stuff up & I actually cried at work last Thursday.
This really sucks but I need to remember to just keep moving forward & not look back too much. We just got to make the best of our new life now.
I miss spending time with that one friend but I can only do so much to keep the peace because it works 2 ways.
In the end, we have to take care of ourselves first which is something I never used to do.
Best of luck to you. You sound like you are doing great.

 Tat braks my heart for you Jenn.  Sorry!