What do I tell others if I don't want to tell them I am having VSG?

KayDeeCee
on 6/23/12 11:52 pm
VSG on 01/26/15
I don't want to tell others (except my husband) that I am having VSG Weight Loss Surgery, so what do I tell them? I am going to have to take time off work. I know I don't have to say the reason, I can just say I am having surgery. But I know my co-workers are going to ask me what kind of surgery. I don't want to lie, so what can I say? Curious about how others have handled this.
Anne D.
on 6/24/12 2:36 am
Gall bladder sounds like a good option.
        
Anne D.
on 6/24/12 2:38 am
Oh I just read the you don't want to lie part. In this case your only option is to say it's none of their business, and let them wonder.
        
mama2girls
on 6/24/12 2:51 am
I just took a vacation and when ppl ask what in going to do I would just laugh and say lay around and be lazy..it was not a lie. When I started dropping the weight I told then I follow a low carb diet and stop eating when I'm content not full, again not lying. Almost been a year and yes I'm sure ppl have suspicions but nobody knows and most of the ppl that prob suspect is family who I eat around more.

HW:409  SW:328 CW:185-190 GW: 190, lowest wt:165;

GS Surgery date 8/9/11

Body by Sauceda born 12/9/16

"I'm working on myself, for myself, by myself"
         

mscargirl
on 6/24/12 2:59 am - CA
Are you having a hernia fixed with your surgery. I know many do.. If so, you can just say that and skip the other part. 
But you will be asked how you are losing weight when people start to see the lbs coming off. I have just been telling them it's basically a high protein low carb diet and that I eat small meals every three to four hours.

HW 297 ConcW 277 SW 254 CW 168.8 GW 155                  

Nadurra Deb
on 6/24/12 3:18 am - CO
VSG on 08/06/12
I have blocked off a whole month, most of August to be gone from work. I am a dog groomer which is a rather physical job that requires lifting and being on my feet all day. I work 2 days a week. I might slowly come back and groom some of my smaller regulars earlier than a month. I want to see how I heal and leave that open.

I told my boss and coworkers that I will be having WLS but don't really want to get into it with all of my many clients. I just don't have time for that. I'm already having to let my regulars know I will be gone when they make their next appointments. I want to give them the option to get in just before and/or after I'm gone or just set up their appts with another groomer for August. I'm just saying (and have asked the receptionists to also say) that I'm taking a sabatical to do a variety of things. August is notoriously a slower month for dog grooming. So that is the best time to take time off. I like the term sabatical. it covers just about everything. People tend to not ask too much about what you will be doing. If they do I just say time with family before school starts again...all of which is true.

 Debbie          

  YouTube WLS Channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/NadurraDeb
           

    

phred
on 6/24/12 3:38 am - CO

Oh for crying out loud!  Just tell them you're having a sex change operation.

That usually shuts them up!

  If it feels good, do it!  And if it smells good, eat it!

mycheeka1
on 6/24/12 4:04 am
 You can say that u are having abdominal surgery. It's the truth!
rhearob
on 6/24/12 4:23 am - TN
 I would encourage you to look at the reasons why you feel you can't be open about it, in an appropriate way.  Are you ashamed?  Are you afraid they won't be supportive?  What's driving you to want to hide it.  The may be an issue you want to focus on and work through that could hinder you after the fact - especially if it's a shame/guilt issue.

Its not as easy to hide as you may think.  Once you return to work after surgery, weight will be falling off of you at an incredible pace.  You will be having completely different eating habits and patterns.  There is the hair loss that people may notice.  People aren't stupid - there will very likely be talk.  It's easier to head off now by being open with an appropriate level of detail.

There are many posts on this topic.  Recently thee was a post by a woman in a similar situation.  She felt excluded and ostracized by her coworkers after returning to work because they never complimented her on her weight loss.  In truth she excluded them before hand by being "private" and not sharing with them.  She felt betrayed when they honored her privacy and never mentioned it again.  She reaped what she sowed.

My advice, look at your motives, think about your relationships with your coworkers ith presently and in the future.  Think about how you want things to be in the future and deal with this accordingly.  I have never been anything but completely open about my surgery and have received nothing but support.

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 160 lbs lost. Surgeons Goal Reached in 33 weeks.  My Goal in 37 Weeks.

VSG: 11/2/2011; LBL+Thigh Lift+BL: 10/3/2012; Brach+Mastopexy:  7/22/2013

njhanibal
on 6/24/12 4:25 am - Hightstown, NJ
VSG on 06/13/12
 Is there a clause that states you have to tell co-workers that you're having surgery? You don't have to tell them you're having surgery. HIPAA covers you on that. Do you have accrued time to take off? FMLA- Federal Medical Leaves Act- covers your leave also. I didn't tell anyone. I scheduled time off. Got my surgery. Went to work 1 week later. Yes, I had some pain, however, if I had pain any other time, I went to work too. I don't do strenuous work, just mental strains... lol  It's your call. Or, schedule the time off and call in sick 2 days prior.
                                
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