What do I tell others if I don't want to tell them I am having VSG?
I don't want to tell others (except my husband) that I am having VSG Weight Loss Surgery, so what do I tell them? I am going to have to take time off work. I know I don't have to say the reason, I can just say I am having surgery. But I know my co-workers are going to ask me what kind of surgery. I don't want to lie, so what can I say? Curious about how others have handled this.
I just took a vacation and when ppl ask what in going to do I would just laugh and say lay around and be lazy..it was not a lie. When I started dropping the weight I told then I follow a low carb diet and stop eating when I'm content not full, again not lying. Almost been a year and yes I'm sure ppl have suspicions but nobody knows and most of the ppl that prob suspect is family who I eat around more.
Are you having a hernia fixed with your surgery. I know many do.. If so, you can just say that and skip the other part.
But you will be asked how you are losing weight when people start to see the lbs coming off. I have just been telling them it's basically a high protein low carb diet and that I eat small meals every three to four hours.
But you will be asked how you are losing weight when people start to see the lbs coming off. I have just been telling them it's basically a high protein low carb diet and that I eat small meals every three to four hours.
VSG on 08/06/12
I have blocked off a whole month, most of August to be gone from work. I am a dog groomer which is a rather physical job that requires lifting and being on my feet all day. I work 2 days a week. I might slowly come back and groom some of my smaller regulars earlier than a month. I want to see how I heal and leave that open.
I told my boss and coworkers that I will be having WLS but don't really want to get into it with all of my many clients. I just don't have time for that. I'm already having to let my regulars know I will be gone when they make their next appointments. I want to give them the option to get in just before and/or after I'm gone or just set up their appts with another groomer for August. I'm just saying (and have asked the receptionists to also say) that I'm taking a sabatical to do a variety of things. August is notoriously a slower month for dog grooming. So that is the best time to take time off. I like the term sabatical. it covers just about everything. People tend to not ask too much about what you will be doing. If they do I just say time with family before school starts again...all of which is true.
I told my boss and coworkers that I will be having WLS but don't really want to get into it with all of my many clients. I just don't have time for that. I'm already having to let my regulars know I will be gone when they make their next appointments. I want to give them the option to get in just before and/or after I'm gone or just set up their appts with another groomer for August. I'm just saying (and have asked the receptionists to also say) that I'm taking a sabatical to do a variety of things. August is notoriously a slower month for dog grooming. So that is the best time to take time off. I like the term sabatical. it covers just about everything. People tend to not ask too much about what you will be doing. If they do I just say time with family before school starts again...all of which is true.
I would encourage you to look at the reasons why you feel you can't be open about it, in an appropriate way. Are you ashamed? Are you afraid they won't be supportive? What's driving you to want to hide it. The may be an issue you want to focus on and work through that could hinder you after the fact - especially if it's a shame/guilt issue.
Its not as easy to hide as you may think. Once you return to work after surgery, weight will be falling off of you at an incredible pace. You will be having completely different eating habits and patterns. There is the hair loss that people may notice. People aren't stupid - there will very likely be talk. It's easier to head off now by being open with an appropriate level of detail.
There are many posts on this topic. Recently thee was a post by a woman in a similar situation. She felt excluded and ostracized by her coworkers after returning to work because they never complimented her on her weight loss. In truth she excluded them before hand by being "private" and not sharing with them. She felt betrayed when they honored her privacy and never mentioned it again. She reaped what she sowed.
My advice, look at your motives, think about your relationships with your coworkers ith presently and in the future. Think about how you want things to be in the future and deal with this accordingly. I have never been anything but completely open about my surgery and have received nothing but support.
Its not as easy to hide as you may think. Once you return to work after surgery, weight will be falling off of you at an incredible pace. You will be having completely different eating habits and patterns. There is the hair loss that people may notice. People aren't stupid - there will very likely be talk. It's easier to head off now by being open with an appropriate level of detail.
There are many posts on this topic. Recently thee was a post by a woman in a similar situation. She felt excluded and ostracized by her coworkers after returning to work because they never complimented her on her weight loss. In truth she excluded them before hand by being "private" and not sharing with them. She felt betrayed when they honored her privacy and never mentioned it again. She reaped what she sowed.
My advice, look at your motives, think about your relationships with your coworkers ith presently and in the future. Think about how you want things to be in the future and deal with this accordingly. I have never been anything but completely open about my surgery and have received nothing but support.
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160 lbs lost. Surgeons Goal Reached in 33 weeks. My Goal in 37 Weeks.
VSG: 11/2/2011; LBL+Thigh Lift+BL: 10/3/2012; Brach+Mastopexy: 7/22/2013
