Ok, starting to have a REALLY hard time eating in front of coworkers

I wish I had so good advice for you, but I've never been shy or private.
When I made the decision to have the VSG I told anyone who asked.

I did get some uncomfortable feedback (un-solicited) at some family/business eating functions. But for the most part I would tell them that I had stomach surgery and had to eat like this. That either shut them up or started a conversation about the surgery. Which then led to them having someone they knew who wanted or had WLS.

By now your co-workers must see the changes in you, perhaps just letting them know that you have chosen to eat this way for health reasons and you would prefer to keep it low-key so you can stay on track? Followed up by a "I'm sure you understand".

Good luck
I wish you the best.
donna

 Love this reply, Donna. 

Turn the tables on her.  Start to verbally examine what she eats for lunch in front of everyone.  You can point out calories, fat, preservatives, chemical additives, etc....  She may relaize how annoying it is and shut the hell up when it comes to your lunch.
 If that doesn't work stop eating with them, and when someone asks why politely tell them you did not appreciate your relaxing lunch break becoming a time for your food choices to be so closely scrutinized.
this really touches a nerve with me.  Wh can't people just mind their own darn business?  I mean really, nobody was saying anything when I weighed 300 pounds and was eating McDonalds for lunch...

 I'm gonna say the same thing I always say when I read these posts even though I'm in the minority :  just come out of the closet. 

First, you can relax, let your guard down, and be yourself. You'll be free of lies and deceit. 

Secondly, you might actually serve as inspirational for other people who need the surgery. When you say you're losing weight by watching what you eat, this is a bit disingenuous. I needed a WLS role model myself to start my journey. 

Third, there are always people that are going to figure out and piece together that you had WLS and they're going to be insulted and/or alienated that you weren't honest with them. 

In all honesty, I learned a lot of this by coming out as a gay man. I've been on both sides of living the hidden life and the real life. Live your truth and be proud for having WLS.  You deserve that freedom and recognition. 

My two cents, HT. as always, wish you the best. 

 That was a much more tactful version of what I was going to say....thanks :)

 I agree with Ruggie 100%.

It seems like its more grief and frustration you going through all this then to just come out and say you had weight loss surgery.  They are going to talk about it anyway behind your back so save yourself some stress and let them know.  They are probably only talking about it so much because you have kept it a secret .. if you just put it out there it wont seem like such a big deal at that point.  You hiding something kinda makes it a big deal to them though and they are dying to get something out of you I bet.

I'm blonde...I get confused when I lie. So I just tell it like it is.

Just run it up the flag pole and tell them to salute if they want. But then again... that's hard to do if you tend to be shy.

IMHO
donna

I just tell everyone that I eat until I'm content not until I'm full, and that low carb diet makes me not want to eat as much, which I actually learned from the pre op diet so that parts not a lie lol

I have a more direct approach.
Publically and directly...look her the eye and say...

"Why do you feel the need to address what I choose to eat and how I choose to eat it every time we eat in the same room. Please mind your own plate!!!! "

Without knowing a thing I would bet she's heavy.
Stand your ground!!!!  Don't get pushed around.

If you don't like that statement just look at her and say  "REALLY"  EVERY DAY????"

I can understand your dilemma wether to tell or not. I have told some people and not others. I think it's a personal decision. I have never lied about it but rarely been asked directly. In a way, I think it's not anyone else's business and in a way, I think why bring on extra stress by hiding something.
 
I guess being a woman, I know many other women are going to be caty about it and say stuff I don't want to be a part of. On the other hand, I did help my neighbor to get the surgery. Now, she's at goal already and I am not, frustrating. He He

I just wanted to say that it's your choice who you want to share this with. It is freeing in a way but I am sure there are plenty of people who talk smack about it behind my back. I think women just like to talk smack in general.

It sounds to me like this girl is trying to get you to out yourself. I think she is pressuring you because she has a pretty good idea of what is going on and wants to make you admit you took "the easy way out", to make herself look better. We all know the type. They think they are better than us because they could do it on their own. Blah..Blah.. Blah... Good for you, that didn't work for me.

Anyway, a person like that is the last person I would want to share my story with. I usually only share it with people I feel I can really help and understand what it's like to struggle with unsuccessful weight loss. I don't need every skinny girl I know telling me how I just needed to try harder like her. I hate it when people start with that b.s. After this surgery and fantastic success (I am now a size 4), I really think most skinny people were just born with tiny tummies! Just like tiny boobs or tiny feet. I think some people got tiny stomachs but I was not one of them! He He  So, I bought mine. All good. He He.

I think you just need to tell her to back off or do like the other poster said and start analyzing her food choices. I would start going on and on about her food choices every time she brought it up. Just like Pavlov's dogs, you should be able to train her to stay away from the topic if you make her uncomfortable enough when she does it. I hate to have to do that, but if it's getting worse and she won't step off, I think you have no choice. I would let her have it if talking to her doesn't work.

Good luck. Let us know how it works out for you!