Hurt, Offended, Frustrated

This is about to be filled with a lot of unlady like words, so I apologize in advance...



Please stop reading if you are offended by that, and please tell me I am not the only one experiencing this. I feel so alone and my friends all think I am crazy and should be flattered - honestly, I am offended :(


Why the **** do people feel the need to wander back into my life and tell me "oh you're looking mighty hot these days!" Excuse me, you ***** you didn't look my way, or utter a word to me a year ago, infact, the only acknowledgement I got was the occasional eye roll and now you think its okay to compliment me on my looks. This has happened to me numerous times, on the street, via facebook, whatever. Now, if you did not know me before I had my surgery, or were friendly with me before I had surgery, this is in no way shape or form directed to those people - BUT those people who laughed at, criticized, made fun of, and were down right abusive to me come out of the wood work and think it's all okay. I had one of them ask me to go out for a drink.. is this a joke?!

It is so frustrating, looks matter so much and it makes me sick. Here is a news flash to all you shallow little *****s out there. I am still the SAME person I was a year ago, I act the same, I talk the same, and I am still hurt from the way you treated me... last year, I wasn't good enough for you because I wasn't attractive enough, well guess what - now I am TOO GOOD for you. And here is the kicker, I am still NOT going to speak to you, except this time - its on my accord.

Eat your hearts out. I can't wait to see you all at the 5 year high school reunion.
Oh and here is the picture that sparked this firestorm.





Well, now that that rant is over. I'm sorry you all had to read that, I just had to get it off my chest and I would absolutely love to send it to each and every one of the people who have treated me like this, but I don't have the balls to do it, so I'll just keep it here.

Hot damn gurl, that pic is Pay Back!!!!
I know what your sayin' girl, I totally do. I've got some major resentment going on with some people like that. Oh well gurl, let's enjoy the new us now the best way we can.

My life has changed significantly for the better, I definitely recieve more attention and what not, and that is great, it just when these fools edge their way back in and throw these compliments out. I would love to know 1. what goes through their mind when they see the new me, and 2. what they are thinking is actually going to happen. What really upsets me, is I know that had I not taken the steps to change my life, they would still be ignoring me, probably wouldn't even be a thought in their mind to ever look me up - but word travels fast apparently. It also upsets me to know that while I have changed myself, there are thousands of others who are being treated the same way I am... I can't be the only one.

 Hell yeah woman - you tell those jerks where to shove it.  They don't deserve the time of day.  I can't stand shallow people like that!  That pic is awesome - and I hope they are all eating their hearts out - with a ******g spork!

Yep been there done that, and had the same reaction you did, Ive been hit on, ask to be on more committees, and invited to more parties than I ever was before. but Ive realized that I could let my thin self hold me back the way my heavy self did, or I can get on with living my life. I still can not stand how shallow people are. I just smile to my self and think its my choice now, to be, or not to be your friend, you dont get to make those decisions for me. Just be happy! Do what makes you happy. hold your head up high, youve done an amazing job, Congrats.......

 
I wouldn't let it get to you like that.........I know easier said than done......

But, look at it this way.......

It's a great easy, honest way of eliminating people you let into your life.......a quick "Edit" as we call it in the Film industry...... no wondering...... cut...... gone..... a non issue.

Don't let their problem be your problem......

And on another note, congrats on your progress..... !!!

It is a big change and changes you are probably enjoying and other people may just be trying to commend you on your accomplishments, unfortunately it is hard to communicate in a socially acceptable way.......

Without any disrespect to you......You may still have to get used to the way you are looking..... Quick, substantial WL can happen faster than our brains can process the changes...... You are bangin the "Hotness Meter" pretty hard in that photo.......

Way to go! 

Compliments !

frisco

First off...damn girl! You look absolutely beautiful and sexy (yes, I totally mean it and not in a creepy way) :) and I wish I had the balls to post a photo like that! **** the haters is what I say...honestly, I am getting the same stuff--it frustrates the **** out of me becasue I know a year and a half ago, most of these guys would have never looked at me twice either...

I think the issue comes from me feeling great about myself inside and outside, but when these specific people make those comments, it makes me feel like maybe I wasn't a good person - maybe my personality isn't as great as I like to think it is, maybe it is the looks at are needed (of course, I know this isnt true) but it likes to cross my mind for a few seconds there.

As far as the brain catching up - I play the catch up game every day of my life! I had a food psychologist I've seen since a year and a half before surgery, still see her once a week and we are constantly working through those issues; I really don't know what the hell I would be seeing in the mirror without her amazing input.

When you are up to your ass in alligators, it's difficult to remind yourself that your initial objective was to drain the swamp!

My mantra... Rise above it... do not engage!! Easier said than done, but it works well!! Congrats on your success- great job!!!