I AM MOVING OUT!!!

Like I said on another post this surgery has open my eyes to a new future.   I am the cliché.  I am the 37 year old living at home with her mother and a cat.

Since I started to lose weight, I have notice that I want to LIVE LIFE! to enjoy myself.   Let me tell you a little bit of why I live with my mother for the last 4 years.

4 years ago, I was engaged to be married.  Everything was ready, invitations out, I had my dress, the reception hall, I was in love and ready to live my happily ever after.  Three days before our wedding day I found out that he had another girlfriend and she was pregnant with his child.  

The cheating was bad, but even worse was the fact that she was pregnant.  I was told at the age of 20 that I was going to be able to have children.  He knew how hard that was for me.  Needless to say, I call off the wedding.  I plunged into a deep depression.  I moved in with my mother because I was living with him and I didn't have a place and I felt like I was lost and I needed my family support.  I have closed myself up to a relationship.

However, today, I started my search for a new apartment, I am hoping to find a place in the next couple of weeks.  I am thinking of jumping into the dating pool again, well, maybe not jump but put my toes in and test the waters.  All this is happening because 11 weeks ago a took a chance on myself.

I don't know what is out there for me but to tell you the truth, I am waiting for it with an open mind and open heart.

 Good for you!!!  

WoooHoo!! Way to go. Losing weight might change your body size, but it can just as easily change your life. Go for it and never look back!

Your story sounds very similar to mine. We were about a month out from the big day, we had bought a house with 5 acres of land and then one day he called it off, declared bankruptcy and refused to talk to me about anything. I was devastated. I was broke money wise literally! I had this house that I couldn't afford and $7000 dollars worth of furniture to pay off. I weighed 273 (my highest) at the time. I went into a deep deppression. Attempted suicide several times thank God I was not successful! The funny thing was that I wasn't depressed about losin him I was depressed that I wasn't getting married before I turned 30. I was depressed because I wasn't going to get to have children like I thought I would be doing within the next year. My family supported me through all of this. I lost 73 pounds during that time I think mostly because of the depression. The most weight I ever lost and kept it off for 5 years. During my depression I took a job working at home and my life was very small. My only friends were my family and a couple of close friends. The only places I went was church and places with my family. Then one day I got laid off from my job and had to go back on the road traveling. My first assignment was in Denver Colorado. It was then that I met my husband, my best friend, my everything. He is 1000 times a better man than the other dude. Anyway in my happiness of getting married last year I gained 67 pounds back and have been trying for a year and a half to loose it. My surgery date is Sept. 24th. I am looking forward now. Can you believe the dude tried to friend me on facebook? Ugh!

Good for you! Good luck!

 Sounds to me like your thinking is right on track. Find something you can afford and start living, a little at a time!

Dios mio! Hang in there chica! Yes, this surgery has also woken me up from the inside... I've only lost 34 lbs and m 1 month out, but already feeling better in my skin... Cant wait to get to at least mid-way to goal!

 This surgery gives us so much more than just smaller stomachs!

Good for you!

I live with my parents, but for a different reason. I am a single mom who works two jobs, and can still barely find a way to make ends meet. I was hoping  when my daughter turned 18 this past February, I would be able to move out on my own. Still can't afford it. So, I applaud you. I applaud you for losing the weight, losing the loser, and gaining the confidence to move on!! Best wishes to you!!

Congrats girl! I think this is all wonderful goals & changes for you. You have inspired many people with all of your progress through your hard work & comittment.

As for the ex, good ridance to bad rubbish!

This is your time! I wish you the best in finding a place of your own & in dipping those toes...lol