Zoloft!!! What being over a year out means to me

Feeling suicidal but not depressed is a side effect of anti-depressants.  It's more common in teens and young adults, but can happen with older patients as well (I don't know how old you are).  Have you let your doctor know?  You may need a different med--which sucks since you've finally found one that helps.  Also, once you find the right anti-depressant, it should help with your back pain.  The brain has a hard time telling physical and mental pain apart. Researchers have found anti-depressants reduce chronic pain and tylenol can reduce depression.

Also, I strongly recommend finding a good shrink as soon as possible and having him or her do both the therapy and med management.  They cost more than therapists, but long term, patients who have therapy and meds through the same provider have better results because the psychiatrist can adjust your medications based on issues that come up during therapy.

Good luck with everything.

Seriously thanks for this info....I dont feel so crazy now...I found some info Im going to send to my psychiatrist...my therapist yesterday told me I "had" to be depressed if I was suicidal....I only argued with him for like 30 seconds and then we sat in silence and stared at each other for 5 minutes lol.

I wish that I had gotten a PPO much sooner to be able to find a good shrink...I have to wait 2 months before my new insurance kicks in and I can do that. Im limited with HMO BS that only offers MFTs for therapy...

Feel Better Kiddo! Smash your problems over the head with a kettlebell, that will fix him...I mean it!

Haha, I wish I could smash them over the head with a kettlebell.  I'd be really good at that :)

take the zoloft, and let the stress fade away.....and it will.  I had been taking zoloft a long time ago, had nothing to do with weight, and it changed my life.  but you have to realize, it's not the meds, they just get your chemistry where it is supposed to be....it's you that gets the chance to breath, and get therapy, and find a more peaceful way of living.  went off of them after a while.....  then 2 yrs ago I needed help again, stressed about something other than weight, and started on paxil ..it's helped me once again to see things things in a different, calmer perspective....am weaning off of them right now.  but rest assured, when life becomes too much again, i will go back to therapy and meds.....we think we don't deserve an 'easier' life, but we do...we sure as hell do.

best of luck to you {{{hugs}}}

sophie

Thank you.  I really appreciate that.  Very wise words - we do deserve an easier life.  I have no problem taking my inhaler or even some Tylenol when I need it.  This isn't any different, and I really need some breathing room.

I adore you!!!  and if an anonymous internet surgery buddy/stranger feels like you are the greatest thing since sliced bread..there must be so many people in your real life *****ally love you. Big hugs to you. You are awesome!!!

Thanks hon!  I adore you too :)  I have a ton of support and love, but I'm also kind of *****ly and a total control freak so I know it's hard for them to help and/or support me. 

((hugs))

I have been there, done that.  Several years ago I finally admitted I was tired of fighting constant anxiety, and started on Zoloft. My life changed so much for the better.  i was still "me". with all my faults, but that constant haze of anxiety was lifted  Of course, i still enjoyed my food, and waited many years before I had my VSG (LOL)

I admire you for being so open about your struggles, it is easy on a forum like this to say what you think people want to hear. Losing weight does not mean we are transported over the rainbow.  We are still the same people with the same emotional make up and genetics.  And like you said, we still want to numb ourselves with food or use our weight as an excuse to hide from the world. I know my anxiety was a genetic thing, as many relatives on both sides of my family are similarly affected.  I pray my children escape.  It took many years before I asked my doc for meds. I really don't know why I waited so long.

((more hugs))

Anne

Thank you for sharing with me.  I too hope my daughter escapes this, but I'm pretty sure that will not happen.  My husband's father struggled a lot with anxiety and depression, all the women in my family struggle with depression, and my father was medicated for anxiety after going to the ER thinking he was having a heart attack.  I guess I'll take mood disorders over the host of other genetic issues we can have :)  We're pretty healthy, long living folks.  LOL

I had this weird experience a few years ago before I got married.  I was driving in my car thinking how content I was with my life - I was pretty thin and I'd worked really hard to get there, I was fit, I was engaged and planning my wedding, we'd just bought a house together, we had savings - but I was still me.  I was still sarcastic, *****y, *****ly, loud, all those things I had thought were because I was unhappy.  Hahaha.  It was like a new world opened up.  I guess I should have realized the same would be true after WLS, but apparently I need lessons again and again and again.  I can be very stubborn.