Checking in my family! Life DOES get worse

Ann, 

January 20th 2005 I was in nearly the same place. My step dad called me from Cali to tell me that my mom was in the hospital with stage 4 cancer. On February 19th she passed. None of us knew she was sick - hell, 3 months before she went into the hospital, she spent 3 weeks in New Zealand. 

I can only say that it gets less hard. I miss her every day - even 9 years later. 

I wish I could give you words of support, but they fall flat and shatter into the nothing that they are because this is just not easy. 

I will say this, what helped me was to start writing down things that my mom told me while I was growing up. Her words of advise that I remembered. Anything anyone else remembered. 

My thoughts and prayers are with you. 

Ann.....when it rains it pours.   Im going through things too that are just breaking my heart and really affecting my eating as well.   I've lost 6 1/2 lbs. since sunday..... that's not normal for me at 8 1/2 yrs post op WLS.    I will be praying for you and your family.    I've lost both my parents so I know that empty feeling your feeling right now.    I am so sorry your boss was bullying you.    Sometimes things thrown at us aren't fair but I will share with you that God has a purpose for everything that happens in our lives.    He will NEVER leave you nor forsake you either.    Prayer and God are my rock right now and I am right now in a bad place ( Not so much myself but one of my sons ).    I will ask God to wrap his loving arms around you and give you a huge hug and let you know everything happens for a reason in life.    As for not eating....please drink protein shakes you need nutrition.   That's what I'm doing till I feel I can eat again.    You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

I am very sorry, I saw your post about your mom and I can totally relate.  My mother died very suddenly at age 61, it was not totally unexpected because she was a very brittle type 1 diabetic but when it happened it still came as a huge shock, even though I knew when I drove to her house that morning because I couldn't reach her on the phone I would find her dead.  It is still surreal to me, I was 37 at the time, that was 12 years ago next week.  My heart goes out to you.  I know the pain of suddenly being an orphan.  I had no other family besides my then 9 year old son.  It was so hard.  I would pick up the phone to call my mom and then realize she was gone.  Time is the only thing that helps.  I am so very sorry.  My deepest condolences.

Ann, I am so sorry for your loss and for your employment situation.  I will continue to pray for you and your situation.  I hope that you can find someone locally that you can share things with and start to rebuild your life.  Hang in there!

Prayers and hugs and anything else I can send to you!!

I have no words, you don't need words anyway, you need hugs.  I am so very sorry you are going through this. From experience, I can tell you that over time it gets better, it never goes away, but it becomes a familiar pain.  I lost my Dad suddenly one Sunday morning with no warning.  He died in my mother's arms and she called me hysterical to come over as the police and ambulance were arriving.  He was way too young, it was completely unexpected any my son was only three weeks old.  My world crashed.  It took about a year before I could trust myself to talk without crying.  It took longer for my mother.  Now, the pain is just a dull ache but his love for us still burns bright and keeps me and my family warm and safe.  It will get better, but it will take time.  Please be kind to yourself, don't forget to eat and drink and breath.  Your mother would have wanted you to keep living and taking care of you.  Hugs to you from the deepest part of my heart.

I'm sorry about your Mom. That is one of the toughest things to deal with. My heart goes out to you for all you have been through. I know sometimes it feels like it will never get easier but it does. Just hang in there and talk to people here or friends at home, anyone who can spare a few minutes to listen and gradually you will start to feel better about the situation. Sending healing energy and blessings your way.

Ann, my heart feels heavy for you right now.  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers my friend.

Many hugs to you!!!!  xoxo

I am so sorry for your loss.  Please remember to take the time you need to grieve and heal and be kind to yourself.  

Ann, I am so sorry for you loss and all of the struggles you are facing right now.  I will include you in my prayers.  Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.