What an idiot!

cindyz
on 10/20/06 1:13 am - CA

I'm so proud of you. That was a great attitude. I remember well, those first dates. I'm sure he thought you were facinating to talk to. You held up his favorite topic: himself. Unfortunately, you will find that all men have the same favorite topic. That's OK, As long as they have some shared interest in YOU too. Keep up the dating. There are 10's of thousands of single guys in Orange county. Some of them are worthy of you and your intelligence and your sweet nature. God Bless

Cindy Z feeling lighter every day.

Chrismc
on 10/20/06 1:16 am - Stanton, CA

RNY on 11/17/03 with

Dang, your dates sounds like a professional hit.

Leslie G.
on 10/20/06 1:22 am - Borger, TX

RNY on 05/21/07

Good for you!

I had my surgery May 21st, 2007

Monica B.
on 10/20/06 1:32 am - Emery, SD

RNY on 12/06/04

So glad that you discovered he was such an a$$. You really don't need that kind of baffoon in your life. Face to face can be hard, but it really is the only way to feel a spring refreshing breeze or a stiff blow hard. Monica

MyLady Heidi
on 10/20/06 1:35 am, edited 10/20/06 1:40 am

Hi Impress, I know this isnt meant to be funny but it is to everyone who has first date rules like you and I. I know myself I look for a million little things on the first dinner date, like opening the door for me, pulling out the chair for me, or sitting down only after I am seated. When it comes to eating, I won't date a man who eats less then I do. I once had a date with a guy who ordered a deli sandwich and immediately had half boxed up as it was sooooo huge. That was a turn off. Yeah its a super huge double standard on my part, but I want my man to be able to eat well like a man. lol My other rules are of course the who how nicely do they eat, eating with their mouth open totally grosses me out. Same for talking with visible food in their mouth. I enjoy great conversation, I like to be engaged and looked at, not with a man who stares at every waitress who walks by. I have had many many many bad first dates, that I never even told what the problem was, just said I wasn't interested. Of course the bill thing is important also, he needs to not only pay but to tip very well. Nothing is worse then a cheap man. Every time I eat out with Doug I tell him I am gonna start waiting tables so he can tip me, hes in the 30-40% bracket. I am super duper picky about everything so you can imagine dating me isn't a picnic at all. But when I do connect we have a blast together, Doug and I always have a great time at dinner. Good Luck!! Hugs Heidi

Butterfly Reborn
on 10/20/06 1:35 am

RNY on 11/03/04

LOL

This was very entertaining though I am sorry you had to live through it for us to have a wonderful morning story and a good laugh!

There are wonderful men out there. Keep looking.

My husband and I had known each other for a year through church before we went on a date. I was NEVER interested in him because I wasn't in that place in my life. I was giving my time to my Lord and myself. After all, I had to find me in order to find a good partner. At any rate, as things happened we were put into a situation that got us talking to one other more casually and personally.

We talked for three hours about whether or not to even go on a date! LOL Obviously, we decided to do so.

He was (and still is) the perfect gentleman. He picked me up on time. He brought flowers. He opened doors, etc. etc. When we're walking together, he even walks on the outside closest to the street. To this day, 7 yrs married on the 30th of this month, I always have fresh flowers in the house from him. He brings them to me and says something romantic like -- "I tried to find flowers as beautiful as you but there were none and I had to settle on these." (heart thumping LOL) Another of my favorites is when he tells me (he's a ship captain and has been all over the world) that he searched the entire world for me that he's so happy he finally found me and thanks me for marrying him and being his wife. I do NOT deserve this man! LOL Where was I? Oh, on that first date, he was an avid listener (but don't let that fool you - when it's time for him to talk, he can be loquacious, charismatic, etc. -- gosh, I'm starting to gush. LOL)

He passed all of the tests that evening but my most vivid recollection of being impressed with the first date was when he drove me home. He pulled into the drive, looked at me, and said, "I will walk you to the door but I do not kiss on the first date." To which I replied, "That's too bad. Can you come back tomorrow?" LOL He told me of his intention to marry me before he even kissed me. *sigh* He visited my father, proposed two weeks later, and we were married 8 weeks later. My Dad tried to talk us both out of it. LOL Thanks, Dad! I told my father that last time he visited with us -- a few weeks ago -- "Dad, if you want to know how it is that we make it, rent the movie, "The Notebook." LOL Our marriage/relationship is continuously challenging - as are all relationships. Marriage -- that ideal of marriage that us A types have -- takes a lifetime to build. A lifetime. In general, it appears that couples give up too quickly. Anyway, where was I? For someone like me who can talk a lot (I'm sure that shocks all of you), I daily recall that.................... The HALLMARK of EXCELLENT LEADERSHIP is LISTENING!!!!! There is even a book out now called, "The ART of Listening." Can anyone tell that I'm trying to listen more? LOL You may be also seeking in your potential partner/mate a good, effective, and even excellent leader. You're right and smart to look for a good listener! Bravo!!!!! I am highly IMPRESSed with the way you handled yourself! You rock! And, thank you for sending me down memory lane!

I have two sides to my brain - a right side and a left side. The trouble is sometimes there is nothing left in the right side and nothing right in the left side.
Post-Op RNY 6.5 years
HW 252 GW 140 CW 140

***AlyCat ***
on 10/20/06 1:38 am - Panama City, FL

RNY on 06/13/06

Good for you!! Who needs someone that like anyway!

Always be yourself
Because the people who mind don’t matter
And the people who matter don’t mind!

Mechelle Marie
on 10/20/06 1:44 am

HAHAHA. My first date with DH was unplanned. We met on the internet, a few months later I ended up 20 min from his house on a freak family emergency. I called him knowing he had to be to work in just a few hours. He met me for a drink and hoursderves. He about ran across the room to me, was so attentive and didnt even look at the bill... he had to run so he wouldnt be late and he just pulled out money from his wallet and apologized and left more then enough money for the bill. We were married a year later. lol