The cycle ends right now. You can't lead me down that road.

Not as an adult, no. I think I'm one of the few that hasn't even been bullied here on OH. Or maybe I have, and just don't realize it? I am kinda slow, after all.

Since I don't know what's up, I can't comment much, but please don't allow small minded idiots to keep you from an event you had planned on attending. If you do - they win.

And I agree with the previous poster. Maybe those of us who love you so much just aren't vocal enough. So I will echo her:

I Love Melting Mama !!!!!!!!


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 I'm not asking for a public display of affection, but thank you.  

I think what I should ask is, what do I need to do to get this **** to stop?  I know I am 110% guilty of throwing stones, I own that.  Aside from putting myself in a bubble and blogging to myself?

I haven't gotten much vocal angst here -- I think it's because ON the boards there are more actual rerpercussions for attack --?   I know a lot of you don't feel that way.   

There's no "report to mod" button on life, yanno?  The nasty **** happens on Facebook, or in person.

Honestly Beth, Unless they are threatening your way of life, as in they are following through on their threats and you are seeing an actual decline in income,  I'd just let them sit and spin.  You have enough personal drama in your life that they matter as much as fly ****  Stop losing sleep, stop fretting, and let them friggin BLOW!  THey are just words, and those that matter, know the difference my friend.  You are a bright, intelligent, quick witted member of the WLS community.  When you put yourself out there, haters are there like paparazzi.  The fleas on the ****roaches of the world.  Speak what you want, apologize when you must, and the rest DON"T MATTER!

 You must blog more.  

Why am I itchy?

And, yes, I have, this is why I am losing sleep.  Something has gotta give.  And, it won't be me.

OK,  so they have affected your way of life.
What a bunch of nasty assed time wasting *****es.

Can you make a public statement, do you have proof that these people, who so far are nameless, did this?

Or do you have legal recourse?
Perhaps if we knew who they were we could torment the skin right off them?  I dunno, just brainstorming right now.  I have been known to get revenge in very creative ways.

Ugh.

I can only imagine it would get worse.

The worst offender right now is Susan Maria Leach of Bariatric Eating.com, who has been using me as a ****ting post for years.  (It goes both ways, fully admitted.)   She's got minions now.

She's currently a photo of mine in her newest blog post.  (It's HER, but she stole it.)   I have asked her to remove it, because the name calling is getting harsh.

It seems like your offender (and minions) were never taught that there is room in this world for more than one story.

Beth,

One of the things that works against you in dealing with this is that most of their viciousness remains behind the scenes while you are very public about how it affects you (which feeds their ego). I would turn the tables. Every time you get an email or private message that is bullying you should copy it and post it for the world to see, without any commentary. Let their words speak to their character and bring their nastiness out of hiding. There is a reason they do it in emails and private messages. When it starts hurting their reputation and bottom line without getting a direct reaction from you, I think you will see a change. It also reflects themselves back to them and maybe they won't like what they see. I have used this tactic in therapy with adolescents with explosive outbursts. I record it and let them see what they look like when it happens. It goes a long way towards getting them to change their behavior.

Tonia

Applied Behavioral Therapy?

Well. 

I started.

Ooooh, ABA is my favorite subject and the most simple answer to your problem.

Let's look at past occurrences:

Antecedents: What leads up to this problem behavior? Differing opinions? Blog posts stating these differing opinions? A level of jealousy? God-like complex being tarnished by someone who dares to disagree?

Behavior: Betches being betches. Snarky backbiting. Thinly veiled threats. Sabotage. Tattling.

Consequences: Fueling drama. Forcing people to choose sides. A rallying of the troops. The possibility of posting about superiority. Feed his or her own ego. Perhaps the chance to rant about it while getting a FABULOUS massage. (We can really only guess here.)

The bottom line is that you want the behavior to stop. The two simplest ways are positive or negative reinforcement. Positive would be to introduce something that will be MUCH better than the original consequences. Since I doubt you're willing to dangle a pair of Monolo Blahniks before the horse, offer some sort of compromise between the two points of view or tell everyone you are wrong, she is right and everyone should follow the new leader, this option is out.

Negative reinforcement is the only clear answer. You have to take away what she desires. The thing you can control is your reaction which leads to her getting what she wants. That is what feeds her. She knows you are watching. That's why she's doing it. If it breaks your heart, tell a select few, but never ever ever let the betches see you sweat. If you need to, make a facebook group with your nearest and dearest and rant until your fingers are numb. Be the bigger person. (heh) Totally easier said than done, but if the drama isn't there, I can almost guarantee she will let up. Forget this person exists. When she hits you in the wallet, that's different and should involve private emails and possible threats of legal action, but if the other stuff lessens, that will probably stop, too. The REAL people around know the truth.

I hate that you are dealing with this. This might work, though. If I can get a 15 year old kid with severe autism to stop smearing his crap on the wall, this should be easy.