Eat it just ONE MORE TIME???

Does anyone else deal with this crazy idea that you want to fix that one forbidden food just ONE MORE TIME before you can never have it again...EVER??  I am 24 days before surgery and I am doing my best to behave already.. but I realllllllly want some of my uncle's to-die-for candy just one more time..  *sigh*  And after reading some of the other posts, do you suppose I will quickly get over the fact that I just love sugar free jello? 

YES!! I had the same problem. I've had it all my life (and I have been dieting for a long time, too!). I'm 1 1/2 years post-op and still have some difficulties. Not quite like before surgery, though. I used to go through the "gotta have this last bite, drink, etc." (pizza, chocolate, sweets, chips and dip, junk food, pie, cake.......dang that list is long!) Alcohol was not such a big deal to give up. For me, it was Diet Coke!! When I would not drink before, I could always have a DC. But now I can't have ANY carbonated drinks, so that narrows the choices down dramatically.

I've always treated it as a good-bye of sorts. That's what the surgery is, too. Good-bye to the old me (and my horrible habits). As anyone can tell you, though, it ain't that easy. Nothing is. But stick with it and you'll see (and feel) why.

For the vast majority of us who have WLS, there is NOTHING that we can NEVER have again.

Honestly, there is NO form of WLS that will completely prevent you from eating 'bad' foods, other than your own willpower. Even the 30% or so of RNYers who do dump can have sugar in moderation.

I see that you want to lose 192 pounds. Please tell me that you'e also researched the DS. The DS has the very BEST long-term, maintained weight loss, ESPECIALLY for those with a starting BMI greater than 50, and it's also the best at resolving or preventing co-morbs like diabetes and high cholesterol.

I have to admit, before my pre op liquid diet started I had friend seafood one night and pizza the next.  I had been dieting for over 6 mths and was craving those 2 things before I couldnt have them anymore.  Oh yeah and a piece of cheese cake........now I am on my liquid diet and it is a PAIN....to say the least.

Jenny

I can eat fried seafood to my heart's content.

I can eat pizza in moderation, which my stomach size assists with...
or I can eat tons of DS pizza (crust made with cheese).

I can eat cheesecake
- I make it with Splenda and crushed macadamia nut crust.  YUM!

----- I ♥ my DS! -----

I am having an RNY so not sure if that will make the difference.  I hope I can eat somethings in moderation also...guess it is just a gamble.

Jenny

You can still change your mind about your surgery type. I know I could not have lived with the thought of being forced to live on a starvation diet in order to lose weight or maintain a loss, and a lot of RNYers find themselves in just that boat. (If you're an RNYer and you are not that way, I'm glad for you. There are still a crapload of people who ARE in that boat, enough that I was unwilling to take that risk.)

You might develop some food intolerances. That's a whole different thing. If I drink fruit juice, hot chocolate or a milkshake I suffer big time and it's my own darned fault. But it's not "forbidden."  Once in a while I have some really ultra super gourmet hot chocolate, make it a special occasion and sit and savor it like great sex. Then I isolate myself for about 24 hours to recover from the effects :-p.

Milkshakes really should just disappear off my radar altogether, but every other year or so I forget how bad it was last time and have another one. This time it was a DELIGHTFUL huckleberry milkshake, a regional specialty. I was at the Montana Folk Festival, which means in middle of a crowd. I savored every sip, somehow in denial of what was to follow. Within about half an hour, maybe less, I bloated like a cow on fresh alfalfa. I had to leave a lovely cowboy poetry performance in mid poem and hope I could hold my fart till I got past the people sitting on the floor :-(.

I'll save further details for people *****ally love fart humor, cuz it's better to laugh than cry. UGH.
So, milkshakes just MIGHT stay off the agenda permanently. I hope.

That's very different from mentally declaring a food permanently off limits because it's supposedly a "bad" food. I think that's self defeating in the extreme.

I also don't subscribe to the "food addiction" mentality, at least not as it is espoused by many people. We self medicate with food, yes, but that is an entirely different thing from being addicted to food. When you get rid of the need for the medication, things change. That's not what substance addiction looks like.

So, that's my twelve cents.

"Friend seafood"---I really DID laugh out loud! I truly do consider seafood a good "friend". (*grin*)

You'll have seafood again, and maybe you can even tolerate some that's fried. But if you can't or choose not to do freid, there are all sorts of other lovely ways to have seafood.

You'll have pizza again, too. There are all sorts of low-carb crust options, and even a NO-carb, high-protein crust made from eggs and cheese.

And cheesecake, Food of the Gods---yep, you'll eat it again, too. And you'll be satisfied with a tiny portion.

How's the Jell-o? (I know it's awful. I had nothing but Jell-o for about 24 hours weekend before last. Yuck!!!)

I live in Southern Louisiana, Seafood is always your friend. (lol....spell check cant fix stupid..lol) I rather boiled so I will be good after, as long as it's fresh.  I have to go out today and buy more damn jello.  I tried peach and lemon and figured I would stick to cherry, raspberry, and orange.  I was craving greek yogurt, I know I am hungry if I am craving greek yogurt.  But I have to say yesterday was a little better, not as hungry and angry..lol

Jenny

I have no forbidden foods. There are food that I didn't eat for the first 6 months until I got to a normal BMI or that I ate in very small quantities. But I think it's unrealistic to think that you will never eat certain foods again (as long as you can tolerate them, of course).

The way I look at it is: I'm going to live another 30 years minium. Will I never have a piece of candy during that time? Of course I will. So the trick is to figure out how to eat candy so that it's a sometime thing that doesn't sabotage me, not to tell myself I can never have it ever again and then flip out when I do have it again.