Friends????

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I saw a woman tonight that back in December told me haughtily (sp) that "It's not Gods will to lose weight with surgery, it's not natural"

so it's interesting that I come home to this message huh?

Yep, I have lost friends. It hurt. I had to re-evaluate WHO I want to play in my sandbox with... and I had to curtail in a big way going out to eat all the damned time. My old circle of women - we were going out to eat 3-4 times a week for crying out loud. Now I go out 1 x week if that. 

But you know what? I have changed inside as well as the weight loss and some of it has been subtle. Some of it has been dramatic (like my tolerance for bull****) so you might have changed more than what you're aware of.

Binda

OH MY GAWD!  That made me spit my coffee on the monitor!  

How do people come up with stuff like that????  How do they say it with a straight face????

I wonder why that woman got a special message from above and all the rest of us were left out of the loop??????

The same thing happened to me but it wasn't all due to the fact that my friends envied me instead it was due to the fact that as I got smaller my ego got bigger..  As I was on TV and in magazines talking about "never forget where you came from" I was doing exactly that forgetting where I came from.. I forgot about the struggles of tying my shoes, walking up a flight of stairs etc..  Then one day I realized I had surrounded myself with people that only told me what I wanted to hear and when my world came crashing down they were gone..  And even though I didn't deserve it my family and true friends stood beside me in my darkest hour..  I am very blessed to have a close knit circle of friends and family.. 

I am not saying that this is what is going on with you I just wanted to add another perspective..

I wish you nothing but the best..

I still have good relationships with my BFF and family members post WLS.   

Other relationships changed though.  Some in a positive way and others negative.  

The same thing happened when I got married.  Some of my single friends "dumped" me, but all of a sudden I became part of the married ladies club.  Go figure.

I have to be who I am.  I have no control over how other people will respond to how I decide to live my life.

I lost friends when I moved. i lost friends when i got a new boyfriend. i lost friends when i got married etc. etc etc. but the only true friends that were with me through thick and thicker were my family. they were always there no matter what i went through. they are very supportive of my surgery and losing some of my weight and cheer me on when i lose 1 lb. i have many more to go.(i've only been through this since 7/1/2011),  i know what its like to be the fat friend. i got asked to go places just to fill out the seat.  but now, my new friends are the ones i made in college and i still have my family.  maybe these were not friends, only there for the good times.  let them go and look ahead.

Gloria