Why so militant?

I don't block anyone because even the snarky meanies do often offer good information -when they are not being snarky of course!

I'm so with you- I think the proselytizing pay it forward style here on the MB is unfortunate and turns a lot of people off from what is here on OH, let alone exploring the DS.

The main proponents of the DS then blame you for whining or being sanctimonious when you complain- it's too bad. They then tell you to go quietly and play in your own corner- I wish they would! They should be learning to use the block button, too. At least the name calling and the gross TOS violations have ceased- that was awful. But they will never be responsible for their own impact. Nothing like being righteous!

OH has so much to offer. Please keep speaking up here, and also find the forums you find supportive.

 Ahem.....Now I'm calling bull****  I've been a lurker here FOR YEARS, read stuff, researched it, seen snarkiness (BIG FREAKING WHOOPITY DOO DAH...it's a free damn country), took what I needed and moved on.  Is that something that's sooo hard to do?  I swear to God, the one thing that ****** me off MORE than someone waving the flag for their particular surgery, is people that get on here and ***** moan and complain about all the damn snarkiness.  I read more moaning and *****ing than I do snarkiness.  

Be a freaking adult.  Read what you want, move along, and quit crying about people having a different opinion about a surgery.  Are some of you VIRGIN forum posters?  What some of you call FLAMING on here is diddley squat compared to some I've been on.  Every surgery is a personal choice....AGREED.  Should you be ridiculed for it? NO!  

It's bull**** to fault people for trying to set people straight on the facts of a certain type of surgery, when the docs and medical professionals themselves are giving false information.  It's bull**** not to let someone know---say someone with a BMI over 50--that another surgery MIGHT be a better choice for them, because some people JUST DON'T KNOW BECAUSE OF THEIR DOCS INFORMATION TO THEM.  If your insurance only covers one kind, then by all means, do what you have to--unless it's the band, then just forget it all together, and yes, I have my reasons for that statement.

Everything I've said here can, and I really don't care if it's used against me.  GROW UP and quit crying like a 2 year old when your vision of a "can't we all just get along" forum board doesn't pan out.  JUST MY PISSED OFF OPINION........

There are different ways of being an adult.

One of them is a mature willingness to tolerate difference of opinion, and to empower each other in our choices, and to be tactfully honest when someone is off track. One can also give information without making the person receiving it wrong. The information on the OH has often been invaluable to me, and I receive it better when someone is thoughtful about delivering it.

Another is to whine about the "whiners" so a person doesn't have to be responsible for their impact on others, and can just spout off.

Just my opinion...

My opinion is that you are the most passive/aggressively insulting person on this board.

But, that's just my opinion.

Hey, that's great for you. You think pay it forward is a bad thing. That's the great thing about living in a free country. You are allowed to believe that, and another person is allowed to believe that babies come from storks, while a third person can believe that black helecopters are monitoring his grocery store purchases.

None of that is true, but belief and truth aren't the same thing. There are hundreds if not thousands of people who found out about the DS and made a much better choice because of those pay-it-forward threads. I'm one of them. If you are unhappy about that, it says something about you, and not something good.

YOU are a gross TOS violation.

If people get "turned off" by what people have to say on an online message board then they better never leave the house. It's a tough world. And they sure as hell better never get WLS. It's not for sissies.

Can you please block me already? What's a girl gotta do to get you to block her?

Nicolle

If you want an OH experience customized for your delicate and persnickity sensibilities, use the block button.

In the meantime, those of us with YEARS of experience at what are the most effective ways to promulgate information about the DS wil continue to do what we do, how we chose to do it, whi*****ludes presenting information in a variety of formats.  Those include PMs, general informational posts, gentle hints in other threads, and from time to time, "surgery wars" - which are usually started by someone like YOU getting their nose out of joint when they are told in no uncertain terms that the DS has the best stats of any WLS, including the one you have apparently settled on.  Different people hear things differently, and we use different approaches.

And if you don't like it, BLOCK ME.  In particular, feel free to MYOB if my tone isn't to your liking - because it just might be EXACTLY the right tone for someone else: http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/DS/3484967/Who-benefited-f rom-DSers-posting-on-other-forums/

And that goes for the rest of you passive-aggressive forum nannies too.

 Whining about whiners?  Uhhh...nope don't think so.  Look through all the posts about how someone has hurt someone's poor little feelings with their HONEST opinions.  Tact is subjective.  I've seen some be very outspoken, and I've also seen some goody two shoes forum police called to the carpet when the situation warranted it.

I've said somewhere before, that this is a LIFE ALTERING surgery.  Even LIFE THREATENING.  If people want their asses powdered, well....there's plenty on here that will do just that.  On the other hand, if someone wants to know what they will face, and know the flippin TRUTH about something, then give me a snarky ass flag waving DSer asshole any damn day of the week, rather than a FORUM COP who goes around snitching on every little thing she disagrees with.  In my woods, snitches get dealt with....take that however you like.  

I rarely respond to ANY of YOUR posts in particular AnneGG, because most of your posts aren't helpful in the LEAST.  You're always willing to jump in when YOU think someone is doing something wrong, and somehow you have gotten the mistaken opinion that YOU are the forum QUEEN BEE, who has the ability to tell people what to say and what not to, and if you don't like it, you report it.  You call THAT adult behavior?  Really?  I think maybe YOU need to utilize the BLOCK button instead of the SNITCH button.   

I hate to tell you this, but you're probably gonna get accused of threatening/stalking in 3... 2... 1....

And, I'm pretty sure she does have a moderator in her pocket.

(Let's see if this one appears on the thread)