Going out tonight, husbands mad

You are a married woman. You should not be going out to play.
You know as well as I do that these nights are usually spent at a bar, with music, drinking and dancing, usually with the cute guy at the end of the bar who is on the make.

Am I being mean? No, Just matter-of-fact. Been there, did that, have the divorce to show for it;

Either stay home, or take him along,

He's got the right to expect you to act as if you are a married woman.

If you want to be admired by others, be aware of what the consequences may be,

Besides, how would YOU feel if he was doing thre same thing without you???

Hi,

You know when I first started to read what you said, I wanted to let you have it.  I thought "who is she to be saying this."  Then the more I read the more I could see what you were saying.

Thanks for saying what you said.  It always nice to hear more than just one opinions.  You had ever right to say what you did.  You lived it you did it, and you knew what had happened to you because of it.  All we can speak about really is our own experiences.

Hugs,
Suzanne

Going out with friends usually means going to a bar?  And drinking and dancing with other guys?  I'm sure that's what some people do.  Going  out with friends for me, though, is having lunch and hanging out at the restaurant for a while talking.  Or browsing at the bookstore.   Really sexy stuff like that.

Married women aren't supposed to do those things?  I never knew that.  Guess it's a good thing my partner and I haven't gotten married.  I'd hate to have to give up browsing Barnes and Noble.

How would I feel if he did those things without me?  Well, tomorrow he is going to church and then out to lunch without me.  Should I get mad?  I didn't know that.  I let him go to bed without getting mad.  Is it too late to do it in the morning?

When she's talking about going out with her friends on a Saturday night, I'm guessing that she's not talking about the movies and hitting Dairy Queen on the way home.

If she IS and he's upset about that, well that's a horse of a completely different color.

Lol, sometimes it is the movies, but never Dairy Queen!

If she were going out for lunch, etc., I don't think there would be this kind of reaction,

It's up to the LW how she wants to live her life,  If she didn't want to hear BOTH sides of
the reaction, then don't put it out there for comment,

As another responder pointed out, it's a real "slippery slope".

I hope it works for out her,

We usually go out to eat and hang at the restaurant/bar that we're at. All innocent, all fun, all clean.

My Mom has always said that couples should not go out to bars separately, it can quickly lead to problems. 

I got rid of my ex like 2.5 yrs ago, I can attest after a year of the single life, going to bars mean men will be coming onto you. The first time I went out to a bar as a normal sized single, my friend and I were referring to it as the man tilt a whirl, every where we looked there was another guy, wanting to dance, wanting to get me a drink.

I met my Mr Wonderful Soul Mate about 1.5 yrs ago. I never go out without him. Actually he tamed me lol, I have no desire to go to bars anymore, I enjoy our weekly date night so much more.

I thing Girls Nights Out are necessary, but the setting should be going out to a meal or something along those lines, catch up, have fun, and go home to your significant other.

Lynn, I love being married and have been through 1 terrible divorce already. When I go out with my friends, it's maybe once or twice a month and I'm home at a reasonable time. I have absolutely no desire to even speak to men when I'm out, I'm with the girls and that's who I want to chat with all night. You sound so bitter. Sorry about that.

It;s YOUR life and YOUR decision where to go and who you go with. 

Good luck.