Will I Ever Be able to have a glass of wine with dinner again??

I think it would be something you could do on occasion, but not something you'd want to do every night.  I know that I have a couple sips of wine and need to go and lie flat almost immediately.  I think it's the sugar in the alcohol that does it to me.  So, if I want wine with dinner, it had better be dinner on the couch, where I can lie down as soon as possible.  I'll be out like a light!

I think you have made a good choice going with the RNY. I am very grateful for and happy with mine. I do have an occasional glass of wine with my meal at 3 1/2 years post surgery- I'm just very aware and careful because it does effect us faster and stronger. I didn't drink any alcohol until I was 2 years out and didn't miss it. If it's not that big of a deal to you and you don't have addictive tendencies, don't worry about it. There will be more flexibility down the road as long as you maintain your awareness and vigilance.

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Don't do it.  Only because I'm going through a tough time with alcohol that I have to be direct with you.   You my friend are PRE OP and are thinking about wine?  I don't get it.  Why is wine important to you?  Honestly?  Why?  You have to understand the statistics are NOT in your favor if you think wine is going to be okay for you in the post op.  This surgery is such a gift...why do you need to be concerned about wine and you haven't even been under the knife?   Please take a look at my story.   I have a question for you.  If you doctor said you could NEVER ever eat your favorite food EVER again... would you think twice about getting this surgery?  OR would you make the sacrafice because your health and the desire to loose weight is more important then eating that favorite food?  

Please don't go into this process with the thought wine on your brain.  The truth is - YOU WILL be able to eat larger portions of food as you progress.  YOU will be able to drink and eat at the same time.  The question is - WHY would you want to?

I would like to recommend you really do some more research and not be so non-chalant about this process.  It's a MENTAL and PHYSICAL change that you have to go through. 

Good luck. 

BTW - I posted about being an alcoholic on the RNY board on December 31st.  You should read it.

Thanks for the honesty, but you have no idea who I am, nor I you. So it's not appropriate for you to judge what I am thinking it if I am prepared for this. I am trying to prepare myself with all knowledge so I know what to expect. If you read my post you will see that no where does it say I would rather drink wine than be healthy again. So if you want to share your story that's great and that's why I joined the group. However, I did not join so people who don't even know my name or story can pass judgement. Sorry for what you are going through, but you have no right to tell me that I should not be doing this or that I am not serious about it simply because I asked if I could drink a glass of wine with a meal ( I actually do this now maybe once a month if that, but I don't recall you asking that either). In fact, I am very dead serious about it, that's why I am looking to real people who have experienced it for answers to the questions I have. 

Judge you?  Look - I'm being straight with you.  You asked a question in a public forum and I gave you my take!  Did you NOT want the truth?  Or is it the way I packaged the truth and delivered it to you... is the issue here?  Look - you can do what you want... I was hoping me being DIRECT will save a life.    If you were looking for others who will agree with you - rather then people who will give you the truth (especially a GB'er almost 5 years out) then you DO have the the purpose of the forum wrong.

No need to be defensive with me.  Be defensive with your life. 

I really DO hope you are successful. 

The truth would have been you saying "absolutely not no you cannot ever drink wine with meals. If you do then this is what is going to be the result: possible alcoholism, failed weight loss attempt, and a laundry list of other things. The part I deem offensive is the part where you tell me I am not serious about surgery and shouldn't do it- you have no evidence to make that claim. I can take the truth- what I don't take well is judgement in a forum that is supposed to be fact based safe place to ask honest questions and get honest answers. I got several answers before yours that gave me great information which never judged so that's what I expect. And just so you can rest easy, it was enough information to satisfy my original curiosity and enough to let me know it's not worth it. So that's really all I was looking for.  The funny thing is I don't even drink - I am married with 2 small children. I am home almost every weekend night coloring and watching cartoons as it is! 

I had to go back and read my reply twice.  I don't see where i said you didn't take it serious.  It must this line that you are referring to - "I would like to recommend you really do some more research and not be so non-chalant about this process.  It's a MENTAL and PHYSICAL change that you have to go through".  Right?   You see that as a judgment against you rather then me saying - do more research on the topic so you can SEE for yourself - that it's not a good idea to drink while eating nor to drink wine again?   IF that's the case - then I guess I did judge you.  I apoligize. 

You got several anwsers before me that offered great information - I hope I gave you great information as well.  IT's all about prospective here.  I'm going to leave it like that.

For the record - I didn't drink pre-op either!  HINT HINT!

I'm here to support everyone.  I won't however package anything in a pretty box nor will I agree when I don't.  

You will be a VET one day... you will see a newbie ask this same question and you will shake your head and remember this post.   

She/he is only being honest with you- alcohol is a risk post WLS not only because of the strength with which it hits us, but because of the possibility of cross addiction if you have addictive tendencies. What I said in my earlier post is only my experience, not permission. We are each built differently and react differently, we have different levels of being able to manage ourselves. Some can drin****asionally , some can't, and we are advised not to. Self awareness and ability to work with the truth and reality is crucial, and you might want to consider your defensiveness.

I've had RNY and I can confirm that you probably will be able to have wine with dinner.

Now, let's talk advice.  During your weight loss phase, avoid all alcohol since you're trying to lose weight and there is 7 calories per gram you don't need.  Once you reach goal you can have more freedom.  To me: eat and drink whatever you want however you want as long as you don't gain weight.  Keep an eye out for possible cross-addiction however.

I do have wine with meals but have problems with beer (its the carbonation).

thank you for this!  As you saw this was a hot topic:)  I am totally prepared to give up whatever I have to, because obviously this is the most important thing in my life.  Its nice to know though, that with extreme caution and on rare occasion, it's been ok to have a sip of wine for some rny-ers!