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Congratulations. That is the best news ever, cookies, cake, brownies, candy, all trying to kill you, literally. Now don't forget.
No I eat what my choices are and never judge, I do not wish to be judged so I don't judge anyone else. Unless you steal food, or chew with your mouth open or act inappropriately to the waitstaff eating with me is simple. If you do anything offensive as noted, it will be the last time. My husband has friends who had wls and think because they cannot eat much it's fine to fill a plastic bag with food and hide it and bring it home, from a company Christmas buffet. I was mortified. My husband did not witness it. We won't eat with them again. I do not understand such behavior. But I would put judging others choices as just plain rude. You aren't the food police. If you want to teach someone about appropriate eating teach your children so they never have to endure the pain of wls.
We went to Mecico City in January with just carry on luggage and my husband had vitamins in a Baggie, no issues whatsoever. They don't care about stuff like that.
It is my choice. Why do you eat more than one meal, that seems redundant to me? Ever read Adkins, the diet was developed after the discovery eating one meal a day, even a big meal caused weight loss. We all do what works for us.
I am 11 years out and maintain at 135lbs on between 1000-1200 calories, so to lose I would have to cut back to at most 800 calories probably less. As we age we need fewer calories to maintain, you really are gonna have to jus****ch those calories and eat as few as possible to lose weight. I can physically eat every two hours but I only eat 1 meal a day and two snacks. What you can eat and what you should eat are totally different. No revision is gonna make you easily lose weight and as far as leak tests that happened during my surgery not after in my case so you can't go by that as a way to tell what your doctor tweaked.
The reality is being morbidly obese is extremely unhealthy and as much as none of us ever wanted to be made the topic conversation it's the truth. The person is concerned for you dropping dead from your weight. I was M.O. For 20 years and was mortified by people talking about my weight. I wanted to just disappear, but that's because I lived in denial over how big I had really become. I became a prison in my own head and body and hid because of shame. But after wls gave me a second chance I swore I would never be the topic of anyone's weight conversations ever again, 11 years and still going strong weighing in the 130's instead of 283.5.
It sucks I know, people talking about you. It totally sucks, but use it to get healthy and stay healthy and never return to these dark days.
Good Luck.
Yeah I never used children's plates or silverware. I might use a salad plate if my meal was small but I don't like to draw attention so I ate off normal plates, took what I thought I should eat and typically eat half. You do what works for you, there isn't a right way to lose weight or maintain. What never ever works is feeling sorry for yourself, no pity parties, you have been given a second chance and there is no excuse for ******g it up. Yeah it's what's kept me at goal for eleven years and seeing the haters cringe. That's always fun too.
Honestly I eat more chicken salad then anything else on earth and by that I mean healthy grilled chicken atop all sorts of different salads. I pick out the chicken first and eat as much of everything else, when I can't get any meat I often get salads that feature fruit and nuts and cheese. I don't force myself to eat more then 45-50 grams of protein as I am so far out, over 50, and don't need lots of calories to maintain, typically around 1000 a day. I didn't outline my typical eating because you are new and its too soon for you to consider my plan. I have learned what works for me, as we all do, traveling is fun and should be seamless in the future. I just don't want to see you get stuck on packaged or processed foods.
As for the certified humane it came as a surprise to me also, when my brother in law was marketing his business I read all his promos and I had never heard of such a thing. I researched it like you did and discussed it with him also. It is a topic I don't like to think about really because I could never kill anything to live and I have reduced my meat consumption to mainly poultry with rare instances of pork and even rarer instances of beef. I had some raw beef in Las Vegas at Christmas and I think I am good with beef forever now.
Enjoy traveling and wish me luck eating in South Africa in May. Yes I am bringing protein bars.
Actually here in Southern California you can donate your fruit and vegetables to the homeless, they have volunteers who come pick it and haul it away. I don't eat any of the citrus that is growing on my property, as beautiful as the oranges and tangerines are they contain too much sugar and make me sick, so I donated everything, limes, lemons, tangerines, oranges, I will donate a portion of the avocados also. I made blessing bags for the homeless also and filled them with food, drinks, and supplies, warm socks etc. My husband is a retired minister and has been involved in charitable programs to help those in need for many years, I am trying to continue his work.
Very true, what is good for your stomach and digestion is tough on your teeth. I had braces as a kid and already had enamel erosion on my front two teeth which was made worse by my love of lemon, I had the missing enamel repaired with dental bonding. I never had any temperature sensitivities and I eat several lemons every single day. But My love of citric acid means there are many spicy things that I cannot physically eat because it's just too hot for my mouth. But my love of lemons is very strong dating back to a child licking the lemons my grandfather cut for his tea. I would literally stop eating altogether if I had to choose between my lemons and unsweetened tea and any other food. Wanna hear an irony, I have a lemon tree growing in my backyard, covered in Myers lemons, which I detest. Just my luck. My husband wants to cut it down and plant a regular lemon tree. I find the tree standing there mocking me covered in too sweet of lemons which I cannot eat.
Where do you live? No grocery stores anywhere? Stock up if you live that far from civilization. It's just food, you eat everyday, skipping one day is good for you, try again tomorrow. I only get freaky if my lemons are missing, which they never are, because if the zombie apocalypse is coming the one thing I would have stores of is lemon. I used to care about food but that **** got me fat and needing wls.
Certifiedhumane.org, it's an industry standard.
I read your blog, my husband and I travel quite a bit and he is still early out from surgery vs my nearly eleven years. We are Hilton diamond members and the only food I have ever brought on any trips are protein bars. I don't eat their free crap food. I don't ask for special meals, I pick restaurants that cater to healthy eating so I don't have too. I don't cook, I eat organic, whole, gmo's free foods that are raised humanely from establishments that cater to people as obsessed with food and health as I am. I do eat in regular restaurants sometimes and there I get salads. I don't eat red meat, very little pork, and mainly chicken cooked in a myriad of different cuisines. It's not hard to eat healthy even if you don't cook if you look hard enough. I Yelp every place I go to make sure I can eat before I go so as not to embarrass myself. I had this same eating experience in England, France and Spain last summer and am headed to Johannesburg in May for a photographic safari. I just returned from Mexico City and ate some amazing appetizers at the Hilton downtown made with native vegetables and fruits. I traveled to Oahu and Maui and ate incredible tropical fruit salad, whole cut coconuts, fresh meat bbq. We drove across country on thanksgiving from NYC Macy's parade to San Diego and ate clean whole foods the entire trip. Life can go on after wls, I drink tons of lemon water and lemon tea, I avoid chemicals and eat clean healthy farmers market organic as often as possible. My husbands brother owns a humane organic bbq restaurant in San Diego. I get some of the best turkey imagineable there. Enjoy traveling, lose the prepackaged lean cuisine and find a farmers market restaurant to enjoy.
I just hand them the 5 dollars and say give a box of whatever they choose to the next homeless/desperate person they see. I don't eat cookies very often and never cookies laced with gmo's. Shame on the Girl Scouts for this.
I agree, I have done well weight wise with rny but I suffer with lots of pain because I cannot take nsaids and I have a bone on bone hip and arthritis in my neck and back. Also after having a blocked bile duct and major surgery to repair it I would not consider altering my anatomy now if I had it to do over. It is one thing to reduce the size of your stomach it is another to rearrange your stomach and intestines and then have to live with the outcome forever, that's a long time.
All that said I think rny saved my life, I was 40 5'5 and 283.5lbs and diabetic for two years, my mother died at 61 as a very brittle type 1 diabetic and I was scared of her same eventuality. I had surgery back in 2005 when vsg was not yet available, my choices were lapband or rny, I knew as a needlephobe I would never get fills so lapband was out. Smart decision given all that has become of it. And my decision for rny served me very well, I walked out of the hospital off my diabetes meds and I just had an a1c done recently and I am still in the normal range so I have warded off the one threat to my health for many years now. The fact I cannot take nsaids coupled with the issues I have with dumping and reactive hypoglycemia are the reasons I suggest you go for vsg instead of rny, but realistically for me dumping and r.h. have kept me honest and at goal. It is a miracle being a normal size. I got married this year and my husband had wls last fall, we met after we chatted on this site. He and I both love to travel and life is so much better when you are normal and not constantly worried about fitting and how far can you walk etc. Diets never worked for me, I could never get belong 235 even with an eating disorder during my 20 years of morbid obesity. I much prefer 138 to 283.
Good Luck.
Why don't we discuss the reality of how Leilani died, she was my idol from the day I joined this site in 2004 and I was horrified when I heard about her tragic death. Why is it such a secret? Why when I mentioned it did I get scolded for discussing "her issue", I met her in 2006 years after her wls and plastics and success and I was scared for her then, she obviously liked to drink and party a lot. Hearing she died young due to alcohol is just a huge reminder and wake up call to everyone, eating and taking vitamins is one thing, but our bodies are fragile and altered and maybe the level of alcohol we drink could be tolerated by someone with normal anatomy we aren't normal and must treat our bodies as if everything we put in is toxic, including alcohol. I had a real life wls friend die this year at 49 years old. Was alcohol a factor there? She started drinking after her weight loss and met someone who liked to drink also. I am sure her family won't share the autopsy results with the world but she may of been another sad tragic alcohol related death.
Honestly I broke up with food and do not let it rule my life, I eat when i need too and thats it. It is like how people who were never morbidly obese eat. I keep my calories at around 1000 most days to maintain in the 135 range. Thanks and good luck.
lol be the best you that you can be, thats my goal everyday.
I loved Paris but feel tall and big there compared to the French womyn. They are truly style mavens there.
Um no, the all rock beaches in Nice were a little off putting as was the chill. I wore a stylish black .leather coat and still felt huge amongst the thin petite fashionable French womyn.
Thanks! i try hard everyday to eat right, if i have an off day i start over the next. Its worked for me.
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