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PrivateCitizen
on 3/25/19 11:40 pm
Topic: RE: Burnout

Walking in mud, on dirt paths, in rain in the redwoods, local forests is one of the best reasons I keep living where I do. (despite many drawbacks) I hope you can get out and do this too!

This is a bit wordy, sorry for that , please read it if you can._______

As I saw your post I thought immediately of a woman who came daily to the local gym and worked out only at noon. She was lean, and mean faced, and NEVER said a word or even looked at anyone to me, a fat lady trying to maintain some self esteem among fit people.

I will say I disliked her for not being in any way approachable, or ever say anything, while staring into the same mirror two feet apart as we prepped or dressed, even when courtesy of closeness meant saying 'excuse me' or hello, or anything.

One day I said "How is your day going?" Expecting a snarl or to be sneered at. But she heaved a great sigh, and indicated she was holding up, under stress. We chatted a tiny bit. Turns out not only did she get pregnant in her 30s with a man who was worthless at staying around, she had a 2 year old son who was a holy terror, a boy she was raising all alone, her ONLY time for herself, even thin as a rail, was that time in the gym.. probably kept her from strangling the boy, or abandoning him to an orphanage and running away. She ALSO had a job she disliked, but chose to grit it out there for the money, and the time to have that much time free.

She told me some the life details, and I was happy she could unburden herself, maybe no one else ever said anything to her either.

My heart really warmed to her, we never know what others are bearing, alone. She sees only years of being 'the responsible one', the one who can only depend on herself 24/7. BUT she found something she liked, or that de-stressed her enough to keep going. She finally smiled a little, and turned and headed out. I admired her strength....

AND I admire yours, to KEEP seeking a way to get help here or whoever you can, when needed, or discover ways to keep the POSITIVE you worked hard to achieve!!! We ALL need a bit of breathing space, maybe seeing this 'funk' as a short term 'holding pattern'- just going thru the motions as you must, and stay in the game. I know you don't want to give up, you won't let yourself..just accepting you can't fix everything all at once. And start each day with one small goal, whatever it is, plan the exercise you want to do, and look forward to doing it daily!

Wishing you the best going forward.

H.A.L.A B.
on 3/25/19 6:53 pm
Topic: RE: Burnout

Yea. I got 25 lbs on me before I got back to my senses, and regained control and very my eating.

Don't let the 10 lbs turn into 20. Get back on the good eating plan.

I

Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG

"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"

"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."

Imgonnalosesoon
on 3/25/19 5:24 pm
VSG on 03/21/19
Topic: RE: Six Month supervised diet- can I get around this?
As this surgery is elective, I think going through this battery of tests and appointments is the only way to ensure that the surgery is indeed required. I knew I needed it and I'm sure you know fine that you need it. Try to be patient and just go through whatever they ask of you and your date will be here before you know it. When I received my referral I was told from referral to surgery could be 12-18 months in order to get in all the appointments and tests that they require. It ended up being 16 months for me. Good luck in your journey! 11-00-2017 PCP Referral 02-21-2018 Orientation Class 04-12-2018 Dietician 05-03-2018 Nurse 05-29-2018 Nutrition Class 08-28-2018 Psychological Assessment 10-29-2018 Sleep Study 11-20-2018 Social Worker 03-01-2019 Meet my Surgeon 03-21-2019 Surgery Date

HW 212 CW 175 GW 125

Surgeon: Dr. Penner @ TWH

Maritopia
on 3/25/19 5:16 pm
VSG on 03/01/17
Maritopia
on 3/25/19 5:14 pm
VSG on 03/01/17
Topic: RE: Burnout

When I'm super stressed or depressed, I think of something I'm good at and do that a lot. It could be anything and it can be small. It helps to build yourself up a bit.

Height: 5'5" SW: 222 lbs CW: 122 lbs

Ajeffries
on 3/25/19 4:53 pm
VSG on 01/27/16
Topic: RE: Burnout

Great. Thanks I'll check that out!

Gwen M.
on 3/25/19 4:24 pm
VSG on 03/13/14
Topic: RE: Burnout

That sounds like a really wonderful plan!

This probably sounds ridiculous, but I've read/heard a number of stories from different sources and podcasts about an app called "Woebot." I'm not sure it's a therapy substitute, but it might be worth checking out. :)

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

Ajeffries
on 3/25/19 4:21 pm
VSG on 01/27/16
Topic: RE: Burnout

I like hiking in the woods. I've been working 2 jobs. Hopefully as the weather warms up and I quit working 2 jobs, I can start hiking more. I do need to do something I enjoy. That might snap me out of my funk.

Gwen M.
on 3/25/19 4:17 pm
VSG on 03/13/14
Topic: RE: Burnout

I'm really sorry. It might be worthwhile talking with your PCP about how you're feeling, even if therapy isn't an option for you right now.

I know that it's easier said than done, but do you have a way to add something to your life that's just for you - not for your kids, not to make money, just something that brings you joy? Figuring out what that might be might be part of the challenge, but it might be a place you can start to help to move forward?

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

Ajeffries
on 3/25/19 4:15 pm
VSG on 01/27/16
Topic: RE: Burnout

So true!!!! Ugh!!!!

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