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01/23 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
We must never be blinded by the futile philosophy that we are just the hapless victims of our inheritance, of our life experience, and of our surroundings -- that these are the sole forces that make our decisions for us. This is not the road to freedom. We have to believe that we can really choose. As addictive persons, we lost our ability to choose whether we would pursue our addictions. Yet we finally did make choices that brought about our recovery. DO I BELIEVE THAT IN "BECOMING WILLING," I HAVE MADE THE BEST OF ALL CHOICES?
TODAY I PRAY
May I shed the idea that I am the world's victim, an unfortunate creature caught in a web of cir****tances, inferring that others ought to "make it up to me" because I have been given a bad deal on this earth. We are always given choices. May God help me to choose wisely.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
God is not a puppeteer.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
For things that make me smile..
For the people in my life..
For the sunshine..
For the rain..
That I am control of my own destiny..
SONG OF THE WEEK MAN IN THE MIRROR BY MICHAEL JACKSON
I'm Gonna Make A Change,
For Once In My Life
It's Gonna Feel Real Good,
Gonna Make A Difference
Gonna Make It Right . . .
As I, Turn Up The Collar On My
Favourite Winter Coat
This Wind Is Blowin' My Mind
I See The Kids In The Street,
With Not Enough To Eat
Who Am I, To Be Blind?
Pretending Not To See
Their Needs
A Summer's Disregard,
A Broken Bottle Top
And A One Man's Soul
They Follow Each Other On
The Wind Ya' Know
'Cause They Got Nowhere
To Go
That's Why I Want You To
Know
I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change)
(Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah)
I've Been A Victim Of A Selfish
Kind Of Love
It's Time That I Realize
That There Are Some With No
Home, Not A Nickel To Loan
Could It Be Really Me,
Pretending That They're Not
Alone?
A Willow Deeply Scarred,
Somebody's Broken Heart
And A Washed-Out Dream
(Washed-Out Dream)
They Follow The Pattern Of
The Wind, Ya' See
Cause They Got No Place
To Be
That's Why I'm Starting With
Me
(Starting With Me!)
I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
(Ooh!)
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Ooh!)
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change)
I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
(Ooh!)
I'm Asking Him To Change His
Ways
(Change His Ways-Ooh!)
And No Message Could've
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make That . . .
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make That . . .)
Change!
I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror,
(Man In The Mirror-Oh
Yeah!)
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Better Change!)
No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make The Change)
(You Gotta Get It Right, While
You Got The Time)
('Cause When You Close Your
Heart)
You Can't Close Your . . .Your
Mind!
(Then You Close Your . . .
Mind!)
That Man, That Man, That
Man, That Man
With That Man In The Mirror
(Man In The Mirror, Oh Yeah!)
That Man, That Man, That Man
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Better Change!)
You Know . . .That Man
No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change)
Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo!
Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah
(Oh Yeah!)
Gonna Feel Real Good Now!
Yeah Yeah! Yeah Yeah!
Yeah Yeah!
Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah
(Ooooh . . .)
Oh No, No No . . .
I'm Gonna Make A Change
It's Gonna Feel Real Good!
Come On!
(Change . . .)
Just Lift Yourself
You Know
You've Got To Stop It.
Yourself!
(Yeah!-Make That Change!)
I've Got To Make That Change,
Today!
Hoo!
(Man In The Mirror)
You Got To
You Got To Not Let Yourself . . .
Brother . . .
Hoo!
(Yeah!-Make That Change!)
You Know-I've Got To Get
That Man, That Man . . .
(Man In The Mirror)
You've Got To
You've Got To Move! Come
On! Come On!
You Got To . . .
Stand Up! Stand Up!
Stand Up!
(Yeah-Make That Change)
Stand Up And Lift
Yourself, Now!
(Man In The Mirror)
Hoo! Hoo! Hoo!
Aaow!
(Yeah-Make That Change)
Gonna Make That Change . . .
Come On!
(Man In The Mirror)
You Know It!
You Know It!
You Know It!
You Know . . .
(Change . . .)
Make That Change
MOVIE QUOTE OF THE WEEK
THERE IS NOTHING SADDER THAN WASTED TALENT.. FROM A BRONX TALE
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
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PEACE
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Susan


In a very real sense, we are imprisoned by our inability or unwillingness to reach out for help to a Power greater than ourselves. But in time, we pray to be relieved of the bondage of self, so that we can better do God's will. In the words of Ramakrishna, "The sun and moon are not mirrored in cloudy waters, thus the Almighty cannot be mirrored in a heart that is obsessed by the idea of "me and mine." HAVE I SET MYSELF FREE FROM THE PRISON OF SELF-WILL AND PRIDE WHICH I MYSELF HAVE BUILT? HAVE I ACCEPTED FREEDOM?
TODAY I PRAY
May the word freedom take on new meanings for me, not just "freedom from" my addiction, but "freedom to" overcome it. Not just freedom from the slavery of self-will, but freedom to hear and carry out the will of God.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Freedom from means freedom to.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Today I am grateful..
It has been a rough week so today I am just grateful period..
and sometimes... just being grateful is enough Ramon

It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Today I am grateful..
It has been a rough week so today I am just grateful period..
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com
Hi Susan..
I believe you can substitute any other addiction to replace gambling.. ie: alcohol, eating, shopping, sex.. and you will have the same answers.
You are correct that you and your daughter should be his number one priority and I would believe that he wishes he could place you both as number one. However, as with any addiction the loved ones are often placed second.. third.. or lower on the priority list.
I would recommend for you and your daughter to attend an Alanon class in your area. Tho the addiction is gambling.. I believe you "may" be able to get some very useful information and support from it.
You do deserve to be happy in this life as it's the only one that you'll receive here on this earth. You have alot of decisions to make and ones that will be very heartfelt and challenging. Please remember that you have no control over anyone or anyone's actions but yourself. And... you are never alone.. there are many just like you.
I myself am an alcoholic who has been sober now for over 3 years. Tho on the other side of your situation, I can relate to it as I had to tell someone I cared about greatly that they had to leave my home when they themself could not hold onto sobriety.
Possible helpful links..
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/gambling_addiction.htm
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Best wishes..
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
01/21 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Every person, no matter what his or her balance for good or evil, is a part of the Divine economy. We are all children of God, and it is unlikely that He intends to favor one over another. So it is necessary for all of us to accept whatever positive gifts we receive with a deep humility, always bearing in mind that our negative attitudes were first necessary as a means of reducing us to such a state that we would be ready for a gift of the positive ones via the conversion experience. DO I ACCEPT THE FACT THAT MY ADDICTION AND THE BOTTOM I FINALLY REACHED ARE THE BEDROCK UPON WHICH MY SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION RESTS?
TODAY I PRAY
May I know that from the first moment I admitted my powerlessness, God-given power was mine. Every step taken from that moment of defeat has been a step in the right direction. The First Step is a giant step. Though it is often taken in despair, may I realize that I must be drained of hope before I can be refilled with fresh hope, sapped of willfulness before I can feel the will of God.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Power through powerlessness.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
I think this may be mental but not sure. I thought that I should post here and see if anyone else has experienced this.
Since my surgery, I no longer feel the need to put up with my husband's foolishness. Of course, since my surgery I have more self confidence, I feel that my daughter and I should be the highest priority and way before his addiction to gambling. However, I think he does not, as he continues to gamble and both she and I continue to go without things because of it. I no longer feel in love with him and I am very bitter about his addiction. I do not want to and I hope that I never have to be intimate with him ever again.
We had these problems prior to surgery but I now feel like I just don't have to put up with it. I feel that I deserve better than that. Has anyone else been through something like that?


Today I am grateful..
For the sun shining..
For breathing..
For another day..
That I am okay..
That I am loved..
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com