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Topic: RE: Bad Day
My cash pay surgery was under 10K in New Iberia, LA, USA PM me if you have quesitons about Dr Borland
Normal Weight Achievied July 17,2009
Surgery Weight 221 Size 18W
Current Weight 130-135 Size 4
I am good at doing it at the time. i just get so D*** tired of ASKING!!!! KWIM.
Thanks for pitching in. it is just nice to be able to share with others when I am having a bad day and today was a doozy!
Thanks for pitching in. it is just nice to be able to share with others when I am having a bad day and today was a doozy!
My cash pay surgery was under 10K in New Iberia, LA, USA PM me if you have quesitons about Dr Borland Normal Weight Achievied July 17,2009Surgery Weight 221 Size 18WCurrent Weight 130-135 Size 4 Topic: RE: Bad Day
My cash pay surgery was under 10K in New Iberia, LA, USA PM me if you have quesitons about Dr Borland
Normal Weight Achievied July 17,2009
Surgery Weight 221 Size 18W
Current Weight 130-135 Size 4
I need to make a punch list I started it but did not fini**** BIl helps some, he is on a biz trip this week and when he gets back I will hit him up for more. I wrote him a letter last week because when he first moved in he really helped but the past 6 months he has really slacked off! DH finally started making him give us $100 every 2 weeks so whoopie we are getting $200 a month (he and his kids eat more food than that. He is a great guy but has really taken advantage of us. I really like him BUT cant wait to live in a place where no one else can fit thoug.
Kids are 5b and 7. I have them clean their own room and toty room. they are doing an OK job of it. The 7 year old also unloads the dishwasher. I am not a mom that lets them get away with doing nothing that is for sure.
I am feeling better tonight (too many carbs but just enough Margeritas LOL) Thanks so much for the support!
Kids are 5b and 7. I have them clean their own room and toty room. they are doing an OK job of it. The 7 year old also unloads the dishwasher. I am not a mom that lets them get away with doing nothing that is for sure.
I am feeling better tonight (too many carbs but just enough Margeritas LOL) Thanks so much for the support!
My cash pay surgery was under 10K in New Iberia, LA, USA PM me if you have quesitons about Dr Borland Normal Weight Achievied July 17,2009Surgery Weight 221 Size 18WCurrent Weight 130-135 Size 4
Topic: RE: Need Antidepressant Med/ anti-anxiety med input
Depression can be caused by hyPOthyroidism. I believe my thyroid caused my depression.
Good Luck. My prayers are with you!
Lora
Good Luck. My prayers are with you!
Lora
Topic: RE: AA people????
Hi Ramon!! I've seen your post! I also visited your web page. Very inspiring!!
Kelly, I love al-anon people!! What a way to get my butt kicked!! LOL I am so concerned about having narcotics after surgery. I enlisted the aid of my mother and my friend who is also a nurse to 'dispense' meds to me. I know that my faith is strong in my higher power, just remember to breathe and pray is what I tell myself all the time!! We can talk anytime.
ejjay, It is so nice to meet you!! Its good to know others. Some of the people in my meetings tell me I don't need the surgery, I just need OA. I know I am powerless over food!! But I can't not eat between meetings.....Oh well. I like the route I have chosen.
Hugs to those who have replied to my post!!
Leslie
Kelly, I love al-anon people!! What a way to get my butt kicked!! LOL I am so concerned about having narcotics after surgery. I enlisted the aid of my mother and my friend who is also a nurse to 'dispense' meds to me. I know that my faith is strong in my higher power, just remember to breathe and pray is what I tell myself all the time!! We can talk anytime.
ejjay, It is so nice to meet you!! Its good to know others. Some of the people in my meetings tell me I don't need the surgery, I just need OA. I know I am powerless over food!! But I can't not eat between meetings.....Oh well. I like the route I have chosen.
Hugs to those who have replied to my post!!
Leslie
a person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it
HW 274/pre-op 266/NW210/GW160 5' 8"
Topic: RE: Bad Day
I know that financial worries can be crushing, and as you said, the messy house doesn't help. The help from him that I was referring to was getting the house ready to sell. Why doesn't the BIL help out, and does he pay ya'll rent?
I hope so. Down-sizing makes total sense if it relieves the stress.
At any rate, just talking about it and getting it off your chest is a good start.
Stay strong. You're always so supportive of everyone else.
By the way, are any of the kids old enough to do some chores? If they are, start making lists. LOL.
Margo
All weight lost post-op 5 ft. 5.5 in. tall
I know that financial worries can be crushing, and as you said, the messy house doesn't help. The help from him that I was referring to was getting the house ready to sell. Why doesn't the BIL help out, and does he pay ya'll rent?
I hope so. Down-sizing makes total sense if it relieves the stress.
At any rate, just talking about it and getting it off your chest is a good start.
Stay strong. You're always so supportive of everyone else.
By the way, are any of the kids old enough to do some chores? If they are, start making lists. LOL.
Margo
All weight lost post-op 5 ft. 5.5 in. tall
Topic: RE: Bad Day
My cash pay surgery was under 10K in New Iberia, LA, USA PM me if you have quesitons about Dr Borland
Normal Weight Achievied July 17,2009
Surgery Weight 221 Size 18W
Current Weight 130-135 Size 4
Thanks for the support. I hate to aks him to do housework because he is constantly going offshore this month. he got back yesterday and is leaving again on Thur, so he is as stressed as me. This will ease the $$ issues but we need to rebuild savings before i spend any extra. I am not sure if my nerves can hold out though. MY BIL has been living with us for 2 years now and unless we sell the house I doubt we can get rid of him. I am so looking forward to getting out of this large home and into an apt if that makes any sense. the apts we are moving into have 1300 sq foot so not really small but right now i have 3200 sq foot to care for and it is too much for me. We wer planning to build my dream home next year but to be honest I may just want to dream a lot smaller. When we sell this house we will be totally out of debt so that will help us stress wise and I am not sure if I want to have any debt again. Rent seems nice for a while even though I know there is not a return on it
My cash pay surgery was under 10K in New Iberia, LA, USA PM me if you have quesitons about Dr Borland Normal Weight Achievied July 17,2009Surgery Weight 221 Size 18WCurrent Weight 130-135 Size 4 Topic: RE: Bad Day
All weight lost post-op 5 ft. 5.5 in. tall
Emily, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. I feel the same way about a messy house, and I don't want to think about how overwhelmed I'd be without help once a week.
Maybe you could make the old "Honey Do" list since your husband's not lazy, just unmotivated.
I know with my husband, once he's aware that something is really bothering me, he makes an effort. I've even written him letters at night and left them where he can read them when he gets up in the morning. I just pour my heart out knowing that he can't put his head in the sand if it's staring him right in the face. We were both born and raised in LA. and have been married 44 years. I can tell ya'll really love each other. Just communicate your real feelings to him, and do it as many times as you need to until you get the help you need.
Your friend,
Margo
Maybe you could make the old "Honey Do" list since your husband's not lazy, just unmotivated.
I know with my husband, once he's aware that something is really bothering me, he makes an effort. I've even written him letters at night and left them where he can read them when he gets up in the morning. I just pour my heart out knowing that he can't put his head in the sand if it's staring him right in the face. We were both born and raised in LA. and have been married 44 years. I can tell ya'll really love each other. Just communicate your real feelings to him, and do it as many times as you need to until you get the help you need.
Your friend,
Margo
All weight lost post-op 5 ft. 5.5 in. tall
Topic: RE: New Post, 3 weeks post op RNY, Severely depressed and confused - Any advice please??
i only have a couple of minutes to write this but i wanted to respond now because i know how lonely it is to feel depressed, and you sound like you are feeling really isolated and rejected, and i know it's hard to ask for help.
you have some really difficult changes going on and depression is already a risk post-op. please try to remember as you go through this that depression magnifies EVERY painful feeling, and negative thought, you can possibly have. it won't make the pain and hopelessness go away, but try not to buy into it. what they told me in early recovery from depression - would you listen to a crazy person? just let the tickertape run and keep posting, keep reaching out for help, remember you will be seeing your therapist soon, try calling your friends - stay in touch, and treat yourself well, because right now you need some TLC and you are the only one who can give it to you.
you have some really difficult changes going on and depression is already a risk post-op. please try to remember as you go through this that depression magnifies EVERY painful feeling, and negative thought, you can possibly have. it won't make the pain and hopelessness go away, but try not to buy into it. what they told me in early recovery from depression - would you listen to a crazy person? just let the tickertape run and keep posting, keep reaching out for help, remember you will be seeing your therapist soon, try calling your friends - stay in touch, and treat yourself well, because right now you need some TLC and you are the only one who can give it to you.
RNY 6/16/09 - Last weighed 10/27/2011 weighed 151 lost 52 pounds 66% toward personal goal of 125, six pounds from unofficial unpretentious goal of 145lbs......basically very happy. boo-rah, RNY!
Topic: RE: AA people????
hi, i am ejjy, and i will confess i am a drunk and a drug addict. i've been sober since february of 1991 with the help of AA and some excellent therapists, and the gift of desperation. keep it green.
RNY 6/16/09 - Last weighed 10/27/2011 weighed 151 lost 52 pounds 66% toward personal goal of 125, six pounds from unofficial unpretentious goal of 145lbs......basically very happy. boo-rah, RNY!
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