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RHONDA FROM KY
on 3/7/11 12:48 am - ALEXANDRIA, KY
Topic: A DAY AT A TIME

REFLECTION FOR THE DAY

it's time for me to realize that my attitude -- toward the life I'm living and the people in it -- can have a tangible, measurable and profound effect on what happens to me day by day.  If I expect good, then good will surely come to me.  And If I try each day to base my attitude and point of view on a sound spiritual foundation, I know it will change all the cir****tances of my life for the better, too.  Do I accept the fact that I have been given only a daily reprieve that is contingent on the maintenance of my spiritual condition?

 

TODAY I PRAY

Since my illness was spiritual -- as well as physical and emotional -- may I mend spiritually through daily communion with God.  May I find a corner of quiet within me where I can spend a few moments with Him.  May He make His will known to me.  May I worship Him from that inner temple that is in myself.

 

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

To spend a quiet moment with God.

 

 

 

It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end.  ~Ursula K. LeGuin

Farmgirl58
on 3/6/11 12:57 am - AL
Topic: RE: emotional rollarcoaster
Hello Kitty, good to hear from you.  Yes it has been a rocky 5 months.  I did see a psychologist, not sure how long I will contine seeing him, seems a little strange, but most of them are.  I guessI would be too listening to peoples' problems all day long! 
Right now feel pretty good mentally, but there are days I do just fine, then bamm!  I have a bad day and cry a lot.  Relationship with my fella frend is somewhat strained due to his dumb ass, and my finances are in deep kemchee right now which has really put me into a tail spin.  Seemed like everything came crashing on me at the same time.  Also turning 60 didnt' help much, but have gotten through that phase and am adjusting ok.  All I can do is take it one day at a time.  Also have a vit. D deficientcy...don't know how that came about...get plenty of outdoor time, drink lots of milk, etc....could be related to my thyroid...possibly parathyroid.  Will see the family doc this coming wed.  I looked up all the symptoms for parathyroid problems and I have all of them!    So, hopefully things will smooth out with time and God....he knows what is best for me. 
Hope all is going well with you...how are you doing with maintance? 
Hope to hear from you soon, Your friend, Sheila
RHONDA FROM KY
on 3/5/11 9:20 pm - ALEXANDRIA, KY
Topic: A DAY AT A TIME

REFLECTION FOR THE DAY

 There is no advantage, no profits and certainly no growth when I deceive myself merely to escape the consequences of my own mistakes.  When I realize this, I know I'll be making progress.  "We must be true inside, true to ourselves, before we can know a truth that is outside us," wrote Thomas Merton in No Man Is and Island.  "But we make ourselves true inside by manifesting the truth as we see it."  Am I true to myself?

 

TODAY I PRAY 

May I count on my Higher Power to help me carry out the truth as I see it.  May I never duck a consequence again.  Consequence-ducking became a parlor game for chemically addictive persons like me, until we lost all sense of relationship between action and outcome.  Now that I am healing, please God, restore my balance.

 

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Match the act with the consequence.

 

 

 

 

 


It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end.  ~Ursula K. LeGuin

Kitty C
on 3/4/11 8:29 am
RHONDA FROM KY
on 3/4/11 2:54 am - ALEXANDRIA, KY
Topic: A DAY AT A TIME

REFLECTION FOR THE DAY

We may not know any specifics about the activities of today; we may not know whether we'll be alone or with others.  We may feel the day contains too much time -- or not enough.  We may be facing tasks we've eager to complete, or tasks we've been resisting.  Though the details of each person's day differ, each person's day does hold one similarity:  We each have the opportunity to choose to think positive thoughts.  The choice depends less on our outside activities than on our inner commitment.  Can I accept that I alone have the power to control my attitude?

 

TODAY I PRAY

May I keep the fire of inner commitment alive throught this whole, glorious day, whether my activites are a succession of workaday tasks or free-form and creative.  May I choose to make this a good day for me, and for those around me.

 

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Keep the commitment.

 

God,

Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I can not change.

The Courage to change the things I can.

And the Wisdom to know the difference.

~Amen

It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end.  ~Ursula K. LeGuin

Farmgirl58
on 3/2/11 5:02 am - AL
Topic: RE: emotional rollarcoaster
Hello my OH support friend...question, were you sitting in the psychologist office today with me? LOL  What you just told me was what he was telling me this morning...I have had low self esteem problems, lack of self confidence and feeling low off and on most of my adult life.  I have gotten help for it before, and something triggered it these past few months...finally caught up with me. That is when I decided I could not deal with it alone.  Thank you for your insight...very smart lady! I am half way to goal and don't want to fail at reaching it again....I never seem to get there, but this time I am going to be anormal weight woman again..just took a detour! LOL
Yes, it is a big step toadmit one has a problem that cannot be tackled or dealt with alone.  Now the work has to be done to get back to some sort of normalcy, what ever that might be.  I really like coming to the OH site, as there are a lot of folks going through the same stuff we are and it is good we can offer support. 
Thank you for being there.  Bless you.
Sheila
Farmgirl58
on 3/2/11 4:54 am - AL
Topic: RE: emotional rollarcoaster
Trish, thank you for your wonderful words of encouragement.  I just got home from seeing the psycholoist....something has triggered this vicious cycle I am on and he says if I stick with him, we will get to the bottom of it....yes, food can be a bad addiction...and when I am feeling low, I grab for stuff I should not eat...try not to keep it in the house, but I always manage to find somethig!  I am in an excercise program and yes it does help.   I also push myself to get out and walk on the farm once or twice a week, very hilly and that seems to calm my nerves.  As for a support group, I keep forgetting when they meet...I had my surgery done in Mobile (2 1/2 hr drive) as that was he closest hospital that did bariatric surgery.  Since then Meridian, Ms which is 35 miles up the road has started doing lap band surgery and they have a support group.  The few times I attended they didnt' address issues that seem to be problems....so I am not sure that group will help me, but I do need to go back...just have to call and find out when and where they are meeting  now.
I do like the OH site, as everyone on here has been there and done that!  A lot of great folks going through a lot of the same stuff we are going through.  A great support system.
Good luck and best wishes on your success!
Again thank you for your support. Sheila
RHONDA FROM KY
on 3/1/11 9:53 pm, edited 3/1/11 10:09 pm - ALEXANDRIA, KY
Topic: A DAY AT A TIME

REFLECTION FOR THE DAY

Why don't I spend part of today thinking abut my assets, rather than my liabilities?  Why not think about victories, instead of defeats -- about the ways in which I am gentle and kind?  It's always been my tendency to fall into a sort of cynical self-hypnosis, putting derogatory labels on practically everything I've done, said or felt.  Just for today, I'll spend a quiet half hour trying to gain a more positive perspective on my life.  Do I have the courage to change the things I can?

 

TODAY I PRAY

Through quietness and a reassessment of myself, may I develop a more positive attitude.  If I am a child of God, created in His image, there must be goodness in me.  I will think about that goodness, and the ways it manifests itself.  I will stop putting myself down, even in my secret thoughts.  I will respect what is God's.  I will respect myself.

 

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Self-respect is respect of God.

 

God,

Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change.

The Courage to change the things I can.

And the wisdom to know the difference.

~Amen

It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end.  ~Ursula K. LeGuin

RHONDA FROM KY
on 3/1/11 12:49 am - ALEXANDRIA, KY
Topic: A DAY AT A TIME

REFLECTION FOR THE DAY

Now that we're free and no longer chemically-dependent, we have so much more control over our thinking.  More than anything, we're able to alter our attitudes.  Some member of Alcoholics Anonymous, in fact, choose to think of the letters AA as and abbreviation for "Altered Attitudes."  In the bad old days, I almost always responded to any optimistic or positive statement with "Yes,   but.."  Today, in contrast, I'm learning to eliminate that negative phrase from my vocabulary.  Am I working to change my attitude?  Am I determined to "accentuate the positive..." ?

 

TODAY I PRAY

May I find that healing and strength which God provides to those who stay near Him.  May I keep to the spiritual guidelines of The Program, considering the Steps, taking the Steps --- one by one -- then practicing them again and again.  In this is my salvation.

 

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

To practice at least one Step.

 

 

It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end.  ~Ursula K. LeGuin

Patricia R.
on 2/28/11 7:56 pm - Perry, MI
Topic: RE: emotional rollarcoaster
You are on the right path.  Food, for me, is a drug, just like alcohol and heroin.  When I stopped drinking, I was an emotional wreck, and began to overeat more.  When I had my WLS, after the first 100 pounds, and year post-op, I relapsed on the alcohol.  I have been sober a year now, and need to get rid of the 40 pounds I have regained, and lose a total of 60 pounds altogether to reach my original goal.  I first lost 100 pounds and then regained back that 40. 

Seeing a psychologist is a great start.  Ask that psychologist if you should have a psychiatric evaluation for meds.  Also, how is your exercise program?  Rigorous exercise releases endorphins, which help us feel good.  That also helps suppress the  appetite.  Finally, do you participate in a support group, like at the hospital where you had your surgery?  That is also an excellent resource, of which I also need to get back to.

Keep posting whenever you need to.

Big Hugs,
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
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