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Topic: Grateful Post..
Happy Hump Day..
Today I am grateful..
For being accepted..
For changes..
For talks..
For knowing I am okay..
For being able to stand back up..
Today I am grateful..
For being accepted..
For changes..
For talks..
For knowing I am okay..
For being able to stand back up..
Ramon Lopez
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com
Topic: RE: Grateful Post..
Ramon...
we need you to post the Grateful Post!!
Miss you 
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
Happy St. Patrick's Day 
03/17 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
"Lead us not into temptation," we pray, for we know with certainty that temptation lurks around the corner. Temptation is cunning, baffling, powerful -- and patient; we never know when it will catch us with our guard down. Temptation could come in the siren song of a four-color advertisement, the fragment of a half-remembered song or, more obviously, in the direct urgings of another person. We must remain forever vigilant, remembering that the first drink gets us drunk, that the first obessive bite will likely trigger an overeating orgy, that the first roll of the dice could well destroy our lives. AM I AWARE OF MY NUMBER ONE PRIORITY?
TODAY I PRAY
God, lead me out of temptation -- whether it is the jolly-but-alcoholic abandon of my peers at a special-occasion celebration, the pressure from my friends to "get in the spirit" of a party, the familiar aura of an apartment where joints are passed around, the sound of rattling dice, the smell of a bakery. May I know the limits of my resistance and stay well within them. May my surrender to the will of God give me whole new meaning to that old phrase, "Get in the spirit."
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Get in the spirit.
03/17 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
"Lead us not into temptation," we pray, for we know with certainty that temptation lurks around the corner. Temptation is cunning, baffling, powerful -- and patient; we never know when it will catch us with our guard down. Temptation could come in the siren song of a four-color advertisement, the fragment of a half-remembered song or, more obviously, in the direct urgings of another person. We must remain forever vigilant, remembering that the first drink gets us drunk, that the first obessive bite will likely trigger an overeating orgy, that the first roll of the dice could well destroy our lives. AM I AWARE OF MY NUMBER ONE PRIORITY?
TODAY I PRAY
God, lead me out of temptation -- whether it is the jolly-but-alcoholic abandon of my peers at a special-occasion celebration, the pressure from my friends to "get in the spirit" of a party, the familiar aura of an apartment where joints are passed around, the sound of rattling dice, the smell of a bakery. May I know the limits of my resistance and stay well within them. May my surrender to the will of God give me whole new meaning to that old phrase, "Get in the spirit."
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Get in the spirit.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: Needing guidance cause I'm losing it
Thanks so much for the encouragement and I know your surgery will go well and you will do great. 
After all of my post and responses I feel so much better about everything. I have even made an appointment with a therapist and hopefully I can get to a better place about everything. But only in time will I tell, lol. I hope you and your guy blossom and he is true because being single out here sucks and it would be a blessing if truly realizes and appreciates the beauty on the inside of you. And if he does now he will always, so no worries. K? K.
Thanks and please keep in touch, I need all the friends I can get.
After all of my post and responses I feel so much better about everything. I have even made an appointment with a therapist and hopefully I can get to a better place about everything. But only in time will I tell, lol. I hope you and your guy blossom and he is true because being single out here sucks and it would be a blessing if truly realizes and appreciates the beauty on the inside of you. And if he does now he will always, so no worries. K? K.
Thanks and please keep in touch, I need all the friends I can get.
Topic: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
03/16 REFLECTIONS FOR THE DAY
The Program teaches us that we are bodily and mentally different than our fellows. We are reminded that the great obsession of every abnormal drinker -- and every one of us who is otherwise addictive -- is to prove that somehow, some day, we will be able to control our drinking, eating or gambling. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing, we are told, and many pursue it to the gates of insanity or death. HAVE I CONCEDED TO MY INNERMOST SELF THAT, FOR ME, "ONE IS TOO MANY AND A THOUSAND NOT ENOUGH.." ?
TODAY I PRAY
May I have no illusions about someday becoming a moderate drinker or drug-user after being an obsessive one. May I muffle any small voice of destructive pride which lies to me, telling me that I can now go back to my former addiction and control it. This is a Program of no-return, and I thank God for it.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
My goal must be lifelong abstinence -- a day at a time.
The Program teaches us that we are bodily and mentally different than our fellows. We are reminded that the great obsession of every abnormal drinker -- and every one of us who is otherwise addictive -- is to prove that somehow, some day, we will be able to control our drinking, eating or gambling. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing, we are told, and many pursue it to the gates of insanity or death. HAVE I CONCEDED TO MY INNERMOST SELF THAT, FOR ME, "ONE IS TOO MANY AND A THOUSAND NOT ENOUGH.." ?
TODAY I PRAY
May I have no illusions about someday becoming a moderate drinker or drug-user after being an obsessive one. May I muffle any small voice of destructive pride which lies to me, telling me that I can now go back to my former addiction and control it. This is a Program of no-return, and I thank God for it.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
My goal must be lifelong abstinence -- a day at a time.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: Needing guidance cause I'm losing it
Hello Fellow Houstonian!
I just wanted to say, its one guy, he's a loser, move on... I will be going into surgery with about the same stats, and fear the skin issue, too... I'm also having a mostly-online relationship, with a great guy that I reconnected with after 8 years. I'm going to see him in April, but luckily he is the type of guy who is into big gals, as he puts it.
If you are having problems with depression, it may be time to get into therapy... I am a big believer in seeking mental help when needed. If you decide to seek out psychiatric help, let me know and I'll give you the info for my psychiatrist's office. All of the docs there are great!
Whitney
I just wanted to say, its one guy, he's a loser, move on... I will be going into surgery with about the same stats, and fear the skin issue, too... I'm also having a mostly-online relationship, with a great guy that I reconnected with after 8 years. I'm going to see him in April, but luckily he is the type of guy who is into big gals, as he puts it.
If you are having problems with depression, it may be time to get into therapy... I am a big believer in seeking mental help when needed. If you decide to seek out psychiatric help, let me know and I'll give you the info for my psychiatrist's office. All of the docs there are great!
Whitney
Topic: RE: Needing guidance cause I'm losing it
Thanks for your support. I'm trying to look at it for all angles and I do realize he is just one man. I guess it hurt more because of how he said and when he said not so much that he said it because I realize that everything is not for everybody and it takes someone who is secure in themselves and mature in mental to appreciate me. As of this morning I have decided not to let it break me and I am forgeting and moving on. It just stings as all because I wouldn't have seen that coming from him ever. But thank you 
your encouragement is appreciated.
your encouragement is appreciated. Topic: RE: Needing guidance cause I'm losing it
Sorry for you experience.. just know that dating is the time where we are to "get to know" the other person to see if we are compatible. Please try not to take it to heart sooo much. I'm sure there were or will be other men out there that perhaps you will not be "so into".
As for sex.. I do know that if I'm not into it with the person then it does reflect on my "performance" and I can only imagine a man would be the same.
Be sad a little and then get over yourself and move on .. there are others out there!!
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
03/15 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
There have been days during my recovery when just about everything seemed bleak and even hopeless. I allowed myself to become depressed and angry. I see now that it doesn't matter what I think, and it doesn't matter how I feel. It's what I do that counts. So when I become anxious or upset, I try to get into action by going to meetings, participating, and working with others in The Program. IF GOD SEEMS FAR AWAY, WHO MOVED?
TODAY I PRAY
May I not be immobilized by sadness or anger to the point of despair. May I look for the roots of despair in my tangle of emotions, sort out the tangle, pull out the culprit feelings, acknowledge that they belong to me. Only then can I get into gear, take action, begin to accomplish. May I learn to make use of the energy generated by anger to strenghten my will and achieve my goals.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To sort out my feelings.
There have been days during my recovery when just about everything seemed bleak and even hopeless. I allowed myself to become depressed and angry. I see now that it doesn't matter what I think, and it doesn't matter how I feel. It's what I do that counts. So when I become anxious or upset, I try to get into action by going to meetings, participating, and working with others in The Program. IF GOD SEEMS FAR AWAY, WHO MOVED?
TODAY I PRAY
May I not be immobilized by sadness or anger to the point of despair. May I look for the roots of despair in my tangle of emotions, sort out the tangle, pull out the culprit feelings, acknowledge that they belong to me. Only then can I get into gear, take action, begin to accomplish. May I learn to make use of the energy generated by anger to strenghten my will and achieve my goals.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To sort out my feelings.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: Needing guidance cause I'm losing it
I am a gastric bypass 5yrs out. I went into surgery at 322, 5ft 5in. and I am now 175lb and counting on and off. I knew that my sex life would change because of how my body would be viewed. I have no breast, sagging skin in my arms, stomach and on everything underneath that. I look good with my clothes on but off it is a crime. This makes me very self-conscious, something that I never was before and depressed. I love sex and attention and long for affection and want to get married since I have never been, but I think that as of today it will not happen. I was recently in a relationship with a guy that I reconnected with after 23 years on facebook who live in a different state than me. We talked on the phone and had great ******** for 4 months. In between the time we finally saw each other for Thanksgiving, I expressed my concerns about my body to him and offered him a reprieve if he could not handle it and no longer wanted to continue the physical part of the relationship. He in a nutshell said he was ok with that, saw him for Thanksgiving and everything seemingly was fine. Well we met again for New Years and he wasn't affectionate and while I was there for a total of 4 days he only touched me once and during that time we attempted to have sex but he couldn't stay at attention; which became a rush job in the end. Well this messed with me and started to crumble the relationship. I finally confronted him last Monday as to what the problem was and he said that I wasn't his "type". That he was use to little women and that he tried to make it work with me but he just couldn't. Now I was ok with the what he was use to but I had a problem with the sex part. You mean to tell me that you could not keep yourself at attention because the sight of me disgusted you that much!!!! I was mad at first, but now I'm soooooooooo sad because what if this is the rest of my life. Am I really being punished for trying to make a better me. I don't know what to do cause it hurts so much.
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