Word salad!!!  That's amazing!!!!

Marriage is about loving and caring for another person and making their life as happy and stress-free as possible.  I met my husband when I was eighteen and we spent forty-three years together until he died. 

If we had divorced, I would have still wanted him to be happy and financially secure.  There were times when he provided the bulk of the support and there were times when I did.  I wanted to give him everything he needed and he wanted to give me everything that I needed. 

I am much older now but I am in a relationship where I want to make my significant other's life better because I am in his life.  We are deeply in love with each other but if I married him there would be a clear-cut prenuptial agreement in place. 

If you truly loved this man enough to want to marry him and share his life then remember and honor those feelings of love when you consider financial aspects of the breakup.  Marriage is for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, until death do you part.

Divorce is a painful and unnatural process for both parties.  It is a failure at love for both parties.  Both are hurt and both experience loneliness, depression and feelings of failure. Treat him with compassion, respect and kindness, not because he deserves it but because you deserve to be proud of your actions. 

You did not spend decades sacrificing your life so he could develop his career, bearing and raising his children, caring for him through long and debilitating illness, supporting him when he did not have enough income to pay his own way.  When you go before a judge to fight for more money, then you would need to convince the judge that you earned that money by your long term sacrifice and devotion. 

I just saw another of your posts where you say you have a multi-million dollar inheritance, and are a former elected offical.  Did you spend all your millions already?

da let him go ( agree to his very one sided settlement offer )   

first thing - he was incredibly cruel to me financially .  He was extremely emotionally immature .. he expected me ( a 21 year disabled woman on a SSD small fixed income check  )  to provide for him  as opposedto him making over $250,000 a year thanks to the business his father handed to him .HIS was never enough ( cuz hes a financial fool)  so he thought marrying me would get him more INCOME  lol .  My question is .. do I let him get off the hook with a settlement orNOT .  Im inclined to NOT ...

Clearly people must like it, since they stick around. :)