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In cowardly way she responded to me.. and blocked me..
kekosmom's reply was:
So you would like to address the issue of how people respond in this forum?
Yes, I would like to address how people respond on this forum when it's in a negative manner. From the posts on this thread...
o well... Can't take the heat- get out of the kitchen... ... I say..
I love you.
There are so many replies where i was wishing for a Like button here. Being a long-timer too, I concur with your pattern assessment.
Valerie
DS 2005
There is room on this earth for all of God's creatures..
next to the mashed potatoes
haha funny. You took the pic just at the right moment.
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; a optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty"- Winston Churchill
This community has it's peaks and valleys over the years. It's part of the evolution.
Valerie
DS 2005
There is room on this earth for all of God's creatures..
next to the mashed potatoes
You need a therapist, Kevin. Likely a more appropriate outlet.
HW-317 SW-310 CW-148 Mar(-25.5). Apr(-16.8). May(-14). June(-15.6). July(-18.1). Aug(-8). Sept(-7). Oct(-12.2). Nov(-6.6). Dec(-1.3). Jan(-13.3). Feb(-6.7). Mar(-5.2) Surgery February 28th, 2014 Dr. Aceves Goal Weight: 150-135
I agree completely. My issue is not with differing opinions it is with the way they are stated.
But I am saying that the way views are stated can only be interpreted through the mind of the reader. Some views are expressed in a way which leaves no doubt - they are rude! But many may be seen as rude when they were not so intended. I have many times seen posts from people saying they are upset and then when I and others, look at the thread, it is not possible to see what caused the upset.
So I am not denying nastiness! I am just saying readers should take care before assuming that was the intent.
Highest 290, Banded - 248 Lowest 139 (too thin!). Comfort zone 155-165.
Happily banded since May 2006. Regain of 28lbs 2013-14. ALL GONE!
But some has returned! Up to 175, argh! Off we go again,
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
Some people, however, have a pattern of posting "questions" or "rants" (venting) when they don't really want answers or even other people's reactions... all they really want are certain responses. Any responses that are not what they wanted are deemed "harsh" or "mean".
If someone comes here and posts that they are eating pepperoni pizza toppings at three weeks post-op but that they think it should be ok because cheese and pepperoni are both protein, and because they are chewing it well, and all they WANT is for the hand-patters to come on and tell them that what they are doing is just fine... They are going to get lots of "mean" responses telling them that it is NOT ok.
By the way, based on my 7 years here on Obesity Help, here is how the rest of the story goes: 1) the original poster will then reply to their original post (and will sometimes also post a separate thread as well) complaining about how mean some people here are, 2) they will leave OH within a few weeks or a couple of months, and then 3) they will reappear when they are about 2 years out complaining of regain and asking how they can re-lose the weight...
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
Yup.
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
And then people ask why the real vets don't bother to post here anymore. 
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Height: 5'-7" HW: 449 SW: 392 GW: 179 CW: 220
