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now who is being mean? ey? 
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
Sometimes support means tough love. We may not like it - we may not appreciate it. But sometimes - unless we push ourselves - we are going to fell or die... while nice meaning onlookers will just look at you and say" I am so sorry... you poor thing...." while some of the "tough love people will tell you to shake it off and try harder ..... "
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold; the bird froze up and fell to the ground in a large field. While it was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on it. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, it began to realize how warm it was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy.
A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him!
The morals of this story are:
- Not everyone who drops **** on you is your enemy.
- Not everyone who gets you out of **** is your friend.
- And when you're in deep **** keep your mouth shut!
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
Wow. Was there something said in particular that prompted this? Because it sounds like you're personally upset over something. Can you post a link or links to the threads that have upset you so that we can understand?
Basically, I agree that we should always be kind. We never know what's going on in someones life - only what they post here.
The issue I see most of the time is that what is meant as a kind and caring response is mis-construed as rudeness or incivility. Usually this happens when someone asks for advice and they are obviously in need of some type of help. Many posters (myself included) feel it is actually more "kind" to tell the truth in a manner that is blunt enough to be of some value and meaning. It doesn't mean a poster doesn't want to help. But help isn't always about soothing someone's feelings, especially if they are doing something that may bring harm to themselves.
If someone posts and all they want to see is positive feedback they should be up front about that. Most of us assume, sometimes wrongly, that those who post questions and concerns are looking for some truth, not just a bunch of "atta boys".
As with beauty, true kindness must be seen through the eyes of the beholder.
That's adorbs! Your kitty has the cutest facial expressions.
Surgery: RNY on 12/18/2013 with Jay M. Snow, MD "Don't mistake my kindness for weakness." - Robert Herjavec, quoting Al Capone
Too cute!
Height 5'4" HW:223 Lap band 2006, revised to Sleeve 5/8/2013, SW:196
