Telling People

Hi there

I told everyone . Some people like to keep it to themselves which is fine, but there should be at least someone who knows that you can vent to lol or even just discuss things with. In this case it seems that would be your hubby.
Obviously there will be lots of questions once you start losing weight quickly .

Take care

I told anyone who'd listen! LOL!

Seriously...I did tell EVERYONE - my family, friends, co-workers.  I wanted to tell people to help people.  And it has helped people.  I now know of 2 other people who are in the process of getting the surgery and they both said they wouldnt have done it if I wasnt so willing to help them.
I told my dad when I asked my GP for a referral.  Ive been obese all my life and he's seen me try and try to lose weight.  He was surprised that I waited as long as I did but he knows Im a person *****searches and researches before doing anything like this.

My brother didnt really understand why Id want surgery.  To him ... you are who you are.  His wife and my sister were supportive.  They came with me to all my appointments.  My sister's husband is what I call "backhanded supportive" - he's supportive but then always has a dig for me about it.  He always comments that surgery's the easy way out and now I dont have to work at losing the weight. I dont argue - I know he's ignorant when it comes to obesity.

Good luck with your family.  Im sure they'll understand that this is a good decision and you're taking charge of your health :)

Hi

I thought about surgery for a long time before I finally got the ball rolling. I "tested" the waters during this period to get people's reactions. Finally, I told my mom and sister and they were both very supportive. My dad was supportive, but very nervous for me. At work, I didn't let on. One day, (Just before I left work for surgery) I just said "screw it". This is my life and I'm not ashamed. I have a problem. I have an addiction. I'm letting go of the secrecy and shame. I'm not lying or telling half-truths.  I told them. Flat out "I have a long-term weight problem and after a great deal of thought and medical consultation, I decided the WLS is  the best option." I've felt very free ever since.

I will recommend with your parents ( especially your dad) that you stress the medical partnership that you have. My dad felt a lot better once he understood the process and the care that I was getting at TWH. Not too detailed, but enough that he feels you will be as safe as possible. Maybe try to involve your mom, so she understands the process too.

Anyways, Good luck. I am sure it will go fine.

Tamara

 Good luck Sunnydaz, I know exactly how you feel. I had major reservations about telling my Mom, but it ended up being the best thing in the end. 
I do hope it goes well for you today. 
Don't forget to let us know how you make it out.

I didnt tell my inlaws until a couple weeks before and didnt tell my siblings at all. Eventually they noticed when I started posting on my FB. Think it is important that you tell a few people who will be a support. Would consider telling your folks before surgery just in case (it is major surgery) as you dont want your husband to have to call them after.

Hope things went well today

 Good luck Sunny! Remember, this is YOUR choice, and although it is awesome to have a strong support group around you, if you are not comfortable telling your parents or other people in your life, you don't have to!  I have told only my immediate family (brother, sister, mom & dad) and I figure that any other people in my life who have half a brain will figure it out for themselves - rapid weight loss, small portions, lots of protein? A little reading online and most people will have the answer for themselves.  I'm hoping they will follow my lead and not bring it up.