Need to vent...
HI L.
I'm pretty cold when it comes to relationships,looking from the outside in.
If you are not being treated as an equal then F him and leave.
if you want to try and change things then suggest councilling for what it's worth. But no one deserves to be treated like a doormat.
he's got some issues that are projecting on to you and its not fair. You deserve better.
Hard and cold but that' me. I can be a stone cold Biotch at times and don't fool around when it comes to relationships. But I can be a sweetheart if i get treated with respect.
Ultimately it's your decision. Maybe he's feeling insecure because you are "All that",
Take care.
J
Thanks J!
We had a pretty good talk last night.
He says he's depressed and he's bored with life. It's not me he says BUT he did say that it's easier to "push me away" then it is to talk. He's not a talker. I asked him if he should go to the dr and he told me no.
He had got dressed and was going to go to the bar for some beers and watch the game and I asked if I could go with him; at that point he said "And you wonder why you're annoying. You always want to tag along to everything" I told him to go and have fun. He ended up not going and sat here and had a beer and watched the game.
I don't "tag along" to everything, I know he goes out alot without me. With my crazy work hours, it's hard for me to plan anything.
I asked him "what can I do?" he said nothing.
We had gone to dinner with a friend of mine last year, and I had picked up a shift for a friday 3-11; he didn't tell me that he wanted to go to the falls for that weekend and I wanted one more shift to make a full pay. He told my friend that he was VERY annoyed by this and that we don't spend alot of time together. So, I started switching people all kinds of shifts to make him happy- spend more time with me. Well, now, it's a different story.
His job is another story. He was told that his job will be outsourced, which means he will lose his job. I get that it's difficult. He does have a plan for when that happens. They thought it would happen earlier this year but there was a meeting and they are safe til next year.
His boss was running by me one day (when I went to pick him up for dinner and a show) and he stopped and told me this information. My bf has not told me yet but I have known for 2 months.
I have been in some pretty crappy relationships... I used to be married for 10 yrs then I had another bf... both of which turned out abusive.
I told him that we have had a really good relationship and I don't want to throw it away and that we can work on things. I told him that I love him dearly. Even if I move out whether it be into another room or move out completely, we will still see each other, do things together, and vacation together.
I understand he just needs time to figure things out, whatever they may be.
This is really, truly sooo hard for me.
We had a pretty good talk last night.
He says he's depressed and he's bored with life. It's not me he says BUT he did say that it's easier to "push me away" then it is to talk. He's not a talker. I asked him if he should go to the dr and he told me no.
He had got dressed and was going to go to the bar for some beers and watch the game and I asked if I could go with him; at that point he said "And you wonder why you're annoying. You always want to tag along to everything" I told him to go and have fun. He ended up not going and sat here and had a beer and watched the game.
I don't "tag along" to everything, I know he goes out alot without me. With my crazy work hours, it's hard for me to plan anything.
I asked him "what can I do?" he said nothing.
We had gone to dinner with a friend of mine last year, and I had picked up a shift for a friday 3-11; he didn't tell me that he wanted to go to the falls for that weekend and I wanted one more shift to make a full pay. He told my friend that he was VERY annoyed by this and that we don't spend alot of time together. So, I started switching people all kinds of shifts to make him happy- spend more time with me. Well, now, it's a different story.
His job is another story. He was told that his job will be outsourced, which means he will lose his job. I get that it's difficult. He does have a plan for when that happens. They thought it would happen earlier this year but there was a meeting and they are safe til next year.
His boss was running by me one day (when I went to pick him up for dinner and a show) and he stopped and told me this information. My bf has not told me yet but I have known for 2 months.
I have been in some pretty crappy relationships... I used to be married for 10 yrs then I had another bf... both of which turned out abusive.
I told him that we have had a really good relationship and I don't want to throw it away and that we can work on things. I told him that I love him dearly. Even if I move out whether it be into another room or move out completely, we will still see each other, do things together, and vacation together.
I understand he just needs time to figure things out, whatever they may be.
This is really, truly sooo hard for me.
Well i'm glad he is talking now,
i hope he can figure out what is wrong.
Sometimes guys get to a point in life where they say. "Is this all there is". I've had 2 friends go thru divorce recently for this vary reason so I'm bit on the defensive side regarding this issue.
but he's talking so there's hope,
My best wishes.
Good that you are there for him.
i hope he can figure out what is wrong.
Sometimes guys get to a point in life where they say. "Is this all there is". I've had 2 friends go thru divorce recently for this vary reason so I'm bit on the defensive side regarding this issue.
but he's talking so there's hope,
My best wishes.
Good that you are there for him.
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