HUGE Changes coming my way... (venting and a little long)
Well, here it is! The day that I never thought I would see...
I am moving out of my bfs house and getting my own place :( I just can't believe it. I'm hurt. We have talked about things. He told me that since the start of my WL journey, it took over my life and he started to lose desire for me. :(
He is going to lose his job and that depresses him, I understand that. I told him that we could make it thru that and he didn't really respond.
2 weeks ago, I asked him what the problem is; he told me he's depressed, bored with life and he's not too sure if he wants anyone in it. I started to bawl my eyes out, talk about shocking! He caught me totally off guard.
He always asks me to sleep in the other room (although not as much in the last couple weeks) but it was everyday. I tell him that I love him and his response is "There will be none of that". So, last night I decided to just come right out and ask him if he loved me, he has only told me once that he did and he was drunk, it wasn't long after we started dating. He told me that he doesn't love me. There will never be any sort of ring either.
There hasn't been alot of communication between us for months, we still talk but it's short. There hasn't been alot of intimacy either :( I miss it, I crave it! But, it just doesn't happen. I try, but he pushes me away.
We were away last week, I was in Alabama and he was in Texas. When he got home Monday night, it was a "good" night. The last time before that was weeks and weeks ago.
On a positive note: I got a temporary full time line at work, so I will have steady hours.
It's funny that I have been striving for this so I can have a normal-ish life with my bf and now that won't be happening.
I have lost 5lbs this week without even trying. Stress sucks big time!
Thanks for letting me vent...
I am moving out of my bfs house and getting my own place :( I just can't believe it. I'm hurt. We have talked about things. He told me that since the start of my WL journey, it took over my life and he started to lose desire for me. :(
He is going to lose his job and that depresses him, I understand that. I told him that we could make it thru that and he didn't really respond.
2 weeks ago, I asked him what the problem is; he told me he's depressed, bored with life and he's not too sure if he wants anyone in it. I started to bawl my eyes out, talk about shocking! He caught me totally off guard.
He always asks me to sleep in the other room (although not as much in the last couple weeks) but it was everyday. I tell him that I love him and his response is "There will be none of that". So, last night I decided to just come right out and ask him if he loved me, he has only told me once that he did and he was drunk, it wasn't long after we started dating. He told me that he doesn't love me. There will never be any sort of ring either.
There hasn't been alot of communication between us for months, we still talk but it's short. There hasn't been alot of intimacy either :( I miss it, I crave it! But, it just doesn't happen. I try, but he pushes me away.
We were away last week, I was in Alabama and he was in Texas. When he got home Monday night, it was a "good" night. The last time before that was weeks and weeks ago.
On a positive note: I got a temporary full time line at work, so I will have steady hours.
It's funny that I have been striving for this so I can have a normal-ish life with my bf and now that won't be happening.
I have lost 5lbs this week without even trying. Stress sucks big time!
Thanks for letting me vent...
Leanne I am so sorry you are going through this right now. No amount of words are going to make you feel better.
I just want you to know that my thoughts are with you at this very difficult time. Sending you tons of hugs
Ann
I just want you to know that my thoughts are with you at this very difficult time. Sending you tons of hugs
Ann
In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.
Surgery July 22, 2011 Starting weight 270 128 lbs lost Today's weight 142 lbs Ann 
Secretly this is one of my biggest fears. My husband has always said he is attracted to bigger women. Please know that you are in my thoughts. Hugs!
Referral Received July 28, 2010. Orientation at Toronto Western Hospital April 20, 2011. Surgeon consult May 11, 2012. Pre-admission July 13, 2012. Surgery July 23, 2012, St. Mike's Hospital, Toronto. Officially on the bench!
Thank you Dr. Rotstein!
Thank you Dr. Rotstein!
Aw Leanne, I'm really sorry that you're going through so much emotional upheaval right now - you certainly don't need this kind of drama. This seems to happen pretty often to those of us who have WLS, sorry to say. It sounds as though you both are in completely different places as far as what you want in your futures. Leanne, you're a lovely, caring person and you will find someone *****ally appreciates you and your wonderful personality. You will find someone else - someone who is willing to commit to you. And you know what? Being alone is not a bad thing - you can deal with whatever life throws at you because you're strong.
I know that you're hurting, but say goodbye to your bf - don't stay with someone who doesn't love you. He's short-changing you and is content to just have you as his roommate, not his romantic partner. Life is way to short to settle for leftovers. You are worth a man who will love you completely and not hesitate to show it.
This is a new chapter in your life and it will be a new start - it's fantastic that you have full time hours at work, even if it is temporary. Maybe it will turn into full time. Either way, look forward, not back. Remember that you can always come here for support and to vent to us! Good luck.
Deb
I know that you're hurting, but say goodbye to your bf - don't stay with someone who doesn't love you. He's short-changing you and is content to just have you as his roommate, not his romantic partner. Life is way to short to settle for leftovers. You are worth a man who will love you completely and not hesitate to show it.
This is a new chapter in your life and it will be a new start - it's fantastic that you have full time hours at work, even if it is temporary. Maybe it will turn into full time. Either way, look forward, not back. Remember that you can always come here for support and to vent to us! Good luck.
Deb
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