HUGE Changes coming my way... (venting and a little long)

Wow, this IS tough to manage - but you can do it, and as you have shown so often on your posts here (in my opinion) you are an insightful, proactive person.  Draw on those skills now as you move forward, and lean on us whenever you need some solace.  I the long run you will come out of this a winner no matter what happens beacuse you will have another victory in the "coping with life category", which we all need as we go along.

Be strong, and stay away from old habits.  My new mantra is ....  Food Is Not My Friend   ....  It's not your friend either, but we all ARE!

Claire

I am so sorry you are hurting now, Leanne.    I truly believe that this is a blessing in disguise for you and that you will be grateful someday, that he let you go, to move on to a life with someone that cherishes you!

Leanne, I'm so sorry you're going through all this crap.   *hugs*  Stay positive and focus on your great work news. 

Leanne, I am so sorry you are hurting right now.

I think many go into this journey thinking that losing the weight will make every part of our lives better.
Truth be told:
Iit will not make a bad relationship better.
It not make ours kids behave.
It will not make our debts go away.
It will not make a crappy job  more bearable.

We can work on each of these areas of our lives but the surgery is not the cure all.

Linda

Linda

You have always been so supportive at this board and inspiring.  I'm so sorry to hear your going through such a huge life changing event.  Sending you strength and support and most of all a big hug. It's always been said time heals, I wish this for you.  Diane

Leanne, I'm so sorry you're hurting right now.  But from what you describe, it sounds like you're doing exactly the right thing.  Doesn't make it hurt any less, but when the hurt goes away, you'll know that it was the right decision.  As everyone else is saying, it's no good staying with someone who doesn't love you the way you should be loved.  And there will be someone out there who will love you the way you want to be loved.

One sentence that kind of said it all to me in your post was, "He always asks me to sleep in the other room (although not as much in the last couple weeks) but it was everyday."

I can't imagine asking my husband to sleep in another room because I want to be alone.  If I want to be alone, I will go myself and sleep in the other room (and that has hardly ever happened - just when I'm sick).  If he ever asked me to go sleep in another room, I'd tell him to feel his head.  There's the door, YOU go sleep in the other room if you want to.

You deserve better, and I know you'll find it.

Hang in there Leanne. I know it is easier to say when it isn't you, but it is me from time to time, and each time we fight, I'm relieved he is gone. I often think once I finally have surgery will be the end of "us". I do know what you are going through in a way, but I am very sorry you are going through this as it isn't fun. Just remember you do deserve to be happy, and with him, it just doesn't seem like it will come right now.