Do you remember?

Heart breaking Karine

Not going to a family members funeral because you are ashamed to show how fat you are to your cousins, or those that havent' seen you in years.

not attending school functions because you don't want your child teased because his mom is "really fat".

Do I remember?  I will NEVER forget.  Sad even thinking about it.

It makes me sad to read these because I am pre-op and have been contemplating this surgery for almost two years. Feels like it's never going to happen for me. 

But pretty much everything on the list is what I am going through or have experienced from time to time, so it's nice to know there's a light at the end of the tunnel !!! I'm hoping that by this time next year, I'll be able to reminisce about a time when I was much heavier.

Re: the lawn chair thing..... Been there done that... Many times I have had to watch my son's baseball games sitting in the wet grass because I'm afraid I'll break a chair. But I do remember one time at my sister-in-law's I was sitting in a fairly sturdy metal chair on her back lawn, and all of the sudden, my husband realized the back legs of my chair were sinking into the lawn. I was the only one it was happening to and I was pretty mortified. 

the tampon one...SOOOO TRUE....and something i'm sure is hardly ever talked about... same with many of these. there are so many SIMPLE STRUGGLES that we've all faced.

-having to say no when friends ask you to go hiking with them, because you know you know you just can't keep up...

-looking in the mirror and just crying

-having to wear a tight undershirt, gurdle or spanx so that your stomach doesn't stick to your legs and cause a rash

-that one friend who likes to post EVERY picture on facebook and that dreaded moment where you see how huge you really are in pictures.....feeling so helpless because you know those pictures are being viewed by their entire friends list.

-and as a side note to that one, clicking on one of the bad pictures of yourself and reading someone's comment about how "fat that chick" is.

-avoiding porch swings/hammocks like the plague

-succeeding on a diet but then falling off the wagon when christmas rolls around. that repeated cycle of small successes and big fails...

the list goes on. i'm only about 6-7 weeks out of surgery and already i'm feeling better about a lot of these small things i'm overcoming.

so glad i'm a part of this community. what a great post and a reminder of where we've been and where we want to be!

hjb - soooo hate the facebook photo thing!! there should be a law forbidding people from posting your pic without your consent!!

re lawn chairs -- broke one on christmas eve in the middle of my family gathering. flat on my ass on the floor in the middle of 30 people. Chair in two pieces. Food everywhere. Also bent at least 3 chairs all to hell at auctions in front of around 100 people (not the same auction, thank the lord).

Which brings to mind --- PORTA-POTTIES!!! The contortions I've had to get into to void my bladder (or WORSE do a #2 and then have to wipe ... SOMEHOW???) in one of those tiny plastic torture chambers!!! Without too much grunting, groaning or weird noise, mind you, because there is always a line up of people waiting within earshot!! ...NeverMIND the time I had a suprise visit from Aunt Flow... dear lord... Foot up here - elbow braced over there....

CAN'T WAIT TO NEVER HAVE TO DO THAT AGAIN!!!

I am not alone.  I can't wait for WKS

Love the images your "Port-a-potty" blurb painted for me!

Here is my favourite.....

NOT wearing out the inner thighs of my blue jeans from friction!

Here's mine:

Finding that perfect cute bra but it doesn't come in my size!!!! Instead I have to wear those big granny bras or pay big bucks for a nicer one.